Their bonding

Phantomgirl · October 2008

About 5 weeks ago SS came home from school clutching a flyer for Martial Arts. It is on Wed eve (our only week day). SO said no as it was SS time to see his cousins/dads family etc. SS was pleading to go. SO told him to talk to me about it as SO had to go back to work. I caved and told him i would bring him. When SO got home he was not happy about my decision.

We went and SS was not showing ability or enthuasism. He just kinda stood there. Then we went on vacation for a week (remenber the probs with SS and SO). When we got back I took him again and he was a bit better. The last two weeks i have let SO take him and i come for the last 15 mins. Well SS is really getting into it and so it his dad. Last night when i got there SO was all excited and telling me watch him and look at his moves and so forth. SO now LOVES martial arts as does SS. Yea finally after almost 7 years something they are both into. SO was so proud of SS and is also thinking about taking adult classes. Also SSs friends dad was also there and he and SO are becoming friends.

I am so happy about this - to see them last night being all buddy buddy and talking about a common interest is amazing.

Also SO loves art - he really regreats he never got he change to test his abilities. Last night i showed him a drawing SS had done (he is very good) and SO was amazed. SS was so excited to show his dad his art work.

This is a big deal - SS and SO are like chalk and cheese they have never had anything in common before and they have never really bonded. I really feel like this is a new beginning.

Also SS was so cute last night - he and his dad were talking about art and i said i was not good at art. SS pipes up 'but your really good at tonnes of things like reading and .... Then he stops and looks at the ground and tells me 'and your just really nice and really good' - there were tears in my eyes. We had the biggest family hug ever.

FloF9 · October 2008

Awwww!!! This was a really great post - it's really wonderful that your SS and his dad are getting closer. It's great that they are having their quality time. That is truly so important. What a great compliment he gave you too!