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Blah. I'm irrationally mad at Dh.
He came home from lunch today. I was unpacking some stuff I got at the store. He saw 2 boxes for stainless steel pans. We have these horrible old pans that are non-stick and I can actually SEE places where it has flaked off. Nasty. Dh gets his panties in a bunch. Like "You better not be getting rid of MY pans! I don't care if you get new ones but I'll never use them. I like my pans. Don't move MY pans."
Excuse me? First, I tried to talk to him about it and my plan for a plastic free kitchen. He didn't want to talk about it. He wanted to play a computer game. I was a little annoyed (namely because I saw something like this happening!) but fine, whatever. However, by refusing to talk to me about it he forfeited his right to get upset about the changes I'm making. Second, it is disgusting that the non-stick is flaking off. We're basically eating poison. Third, they're my freaking pans. They were a gift to me before we got together.
I'm dumping "his" freaking pans in the garage. Sure, we split the cooking but I always wash all of the dishes. He can suck it up and use our new awesome pans.
PS: I was going to clean the garage out and make it all organized and awesome tomorrow (so Dh could enjoy it) while Ds is at daycare but now I think I'll stay in my nice warm house with my awesome pans.
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Re: Blah. I'm irrationally mad at Dh.
So he's upset that you're using pans that you already had? ::scratches head::
I can see him getting upset if you went out and bought new ones without telling him, but since you already had those pans what's the big deal?
I hate those irrational attachments to random crap.
We have three meat thermometers, and not because they're great gifts. One was mine, one was Mr.Bug's parents' neighbor's aunt's and therefore counts as "his," and one he feels we should keep just in case. I'm pretty sure that if he caught me trying to get rid of them, he'd have a reaction a lot like your husband's.
(that's the best result I got from a google image search for shake head)
Mother's Day, 2011
He's upset that I want to use new pans. He has some sort of intense desire to keep using the nasty old pans we already have. He doesn't care that I bought new ones but he doesn't want to use the new ones because he likes the old ones.
We got all-clad for our wedding and my husband insisted on using the cheap, flaking, teflon ones.
Since, he loves non-stick I bought some new Rachel Ray ones and he still won't use them... they have some weird attachment to the poison...
If your DH is anything like mine, maybe he'd respond to cold hard logic? Do some research on flaking teflon, print it out and talk to him about it.
I'd be pissed too, but you can control this. This is about more than his preference to poison himself, he's victimizing your kid. Any guy that doesn't see the error there is just downright... well, I won't go there. I'm sure he's wonderful in a million other ways.
If all else fails, see if you can compromise where he only prepares meals for himself in the old pans.
I think my advice to him was "This is one of those times when you're just going to have to suck it up, tiger."
I used one of the pans this evening. Is there any difference at all cooking wise between the different types of pans? Because I didn't notice any. I told Dh we'd put the pans in the garage and if he hated the ones I got then he can use the old ones for food for himself. It's not even like I bought all new pans. I just bought a couple. We'll still need to use some of our old ones until I can buy more.