Great weekend at IL's gone horrible!

myaddiwaddi06 · January 2011

Okay so I posted on Thursday before I left for a 6hr trip to my IL's, I was completely uncomfortable about going b/c last time I was there was Thanksgiving and we announced our pregnancy and mh's nephew is 18 and his 17 year old gf is preg and due in Feb. I knew it would be hard, really hard. Her and I bonded last time and talked a lot.

Well we got there and thing were going really well. His entire family was really supportive and only talked about it if I brought it up. His mom did check in with DH only once to make sure we would TTC again eventually. She thought our baby was an accident. No one knew we were TTC. Like I said everything was fine until "she" showed up. She did not say one word to me all of Friday. I thought it was rude and strange but then again she is 17 oh well, whatever. My SIL which will be the baby's grandmother asked me if I would like to go shopping with her and warned me that it would be partly to get a crib for the baby. I agreed afterall they had been great and the info may come in handy. So shopping was completed and we picked a beautiful crib.

The night before we left we went out to dinner with mh's entire family. "She" was there too and again didn't say anything to me at all. Mh asked his nephew why she was acting like that and he said he didn't know but would talk to her. Well I over heard their conversation and I didn't hear the begining all I kept hearing her say was how jealous I was of her, it's not her fault I caused myself to m/c and that I wish the crib had been for me. She was glad we were not having a baby as it would take away from the money being spent on theirs and if we did have a baby it didn't matter because we live so far away!

I was so shocked I couldn't move. I went into the room we were staying in and cried into a pillow. MH came in and I told him what happen and he wanted to say something. I asked him not to and told him it was time to go. I am not sure what excuse he gave but we were packed and out the door with in the hour. I wanted to get as far away from her as possible or I might have had to punch her or something.

Sorry this was long I am still just so upset.

julesjb · January 2011

Wow huge ((hugs)) hopefully it was her immaturity that got the best of her bc those are very hurtful words.. I'm sorry you had to go through that and you dh is wonderful to be so supportive

johnnys june · January 2011

*hugs* I'm sorry you had a bad weekend. This girl sounds very naive. She has a lot of things left to learn, and a lot of heartache yet to endure. She will never understand nor appreciate pregnancy or her baby the way you will yours.

p.s. maybe a good punch would have taught her a lesson! lol

emmeelou · January 2011

Oh dear, I am so, so sorry. I'm glad that your husband was supportive and responsive to what you wanted/needed to do. Immaturity and young age are no excuse for her behavior. I don't know what would cause someone to make such meritless accusations, so I honestly wonder about her stability. I hope you can find some peaceful moments now that you're at home.

clauseka · January 2011

So sorry your weekend ended that way. Very immature and really just an awful attitude toward life! I think it was incredibly brave of you to face the weekend to begin with AND go crib shopping with her. Simply putting herself in your shoes could have gone a long way, but she chose to be ignorant and unkind instead. ((Hugs to You))

ala_1220 · January 2011

Oh hun, that is horrible. I'm so sorry you heard her say those things. What a stupid, FH little twit!!! I'm so glad you DH was supportive and got you out of that situation as soon as possible.

Sara&Mike07 · January 2011

I am so sorry you had to deal with that!! Huge hugs to you, and big props to your DH for getting you our of there and away from that toxic person. Clearly as PP said she is incredibly immature, but that is no excuse for cruelty!

You clearly did your best in a hard situation and I am glad the rest of the family were understanding of your pain and sadness and acted with sensitivity.

Hang in there hon!!

Carolee · January 2011

What a little brat! I am so, so sorry you had to experience that from her.

sisterrael · January 2011

I'm sorry she is clueless. If it's any consolation, we would have supported you if you had punched her! I'm glad that your husband was so supportive and that you had an understanding family, with the exception of "her"