My brain always goes there

pennynjon · January 2011

DH and I were just talking about how much pto we have built up. I don't have much right now because I have only been at my new job for 3 months and had to take time off for dr's appt, and a day when I had the d&c. He doesn't have much either because he has had to take a lot of days off this year when Ella was born, again for appt and the d&c, and he did take few vacation days. Anyway, we were hoping to build it up when we found out we were pregnant again- hoping we would need it in August when the baby was born.

So, today we started talking about vacation this summer. We usually rent a beach house for the week during summer, of course we didn't do that this past summer. Should we go this year? Both of our brains automatically go to "what if I get pregnant and we do need a lot of pto for when the baby is born. Or what if I get pregnant soon- should I go to the beach for a week? But, I think we decided we are going to go. People who don't even have pto set aside get pregnant and it works out, right? And even if I got pregnant as soon as it is possible after we are cleared I would only be four or five months in July. So, it should be okay to chill under an an umbrealla at the beach then, right? I just feel like we have put so much energy into planning for the future the last year, but it doesn't work out the way we plan anyway. I think we may book a house when we get our tax money.

Tapatio · January 2011

A beach house for a week sounds fantastic

Go for it! Things never work out the way you plan especially when it comes to TTC.

smallfry5909 · January 2011

A week at the beach sounds amazing. Go for it! We are going to Hilton Head in June, and DH keeps saying that he hopes my belly is huge by then

But it gives me something to look forward to, and I think you definitely deserve it!

martinimomma · January 2011

That sounds wonderful. Remember that John Lennon (I think) quote "Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans"? If there is one thing I am trying to work on as we roll into 2011 it is that not everything can or should be governed by TTC.

So I vote "yes" on the beach vacation. Whatever happens, it will work out.

MandaS08 · January 2011

I totally understand-everytime we start trying to plan something I automatically think, well, what if I'm pregnant by then-should I still go, ect. For now I'm not really holding off planning anything (I might not plan a European vacation or anything, but that's about it) But going to the beach for a week should be fine-it can be your babymoon:)

smalltowngirl99 · January 2011

hello.. Im still pretty new and lurking around, I have read your story and just want to say your an amazing person to endure the losses you have had and have such a positive attitude and a great outlook on life.

As for your post, I over-analyze everything and I do this stuff all the time, DH and I have wanted to take a family vaca to Disneyland and I would rather go in the summertime but then I think well what if I'm pg by then! Disneyland wouldn't be near as fun so we are going in 2 weeks lol. I also go through this even with little things like clothes..I bought some outfits while I was pg that you could wear either way. I had bought some really cute babydoll tops to wear with leggings and and then when I was 11 1/2 weeks I did black friday at GAP maternity because it was 50% off.. I cant bring my self to take the clothes back.. I asked DH what he thought and he didn't want me to take them back.. so they will sit packed away just incase! I think you should definetely go on your trip! Pg or not we all need those vacations, and if you happen to get pg everything will work itself out with the time off of work. Im such an impatient person and sometimes I just have to remember to take things one day at a time. I love this saying: You can't live in the past for it is gone, and tomorrow is not a guarantee so live for today.

jertie · January 2011

Yep, I've been there before. (Still am actually.) I think that a week at the beach sounds splendid and you should go for it. Life is going to keep happening, so might as well go with the flow and take it as it comes. Besides, vacation is such a great thing - I love having something to look forward to almost as much as the event itself. (I'm always so envious of the ladies here who have vacation tickers in their siggy!!)

emeraudecephiro · January 2011

You only live once...if you wait for the what if's in life...it's all they are. What ifs.

Go on vacation, you deserve it! Enjoy your husband and have a good time!

mizdiz444 · January 2011

emeraudecephiro:

You only live once...if you wait for the what if's in life...it's all they are. What ifs.

Go on vacation, you deserve it! Enjoy your husband and have a good time!

This!

tiffanysbride · January 2011

We were just talking about this. Last year nothing was planned with an EDD of 7/5. We decided we are doing something this summer regardless and will book in Feb or March. If I am not we'll do some more adventurous things, otherwise a beach and book sound fabulous! I say go for it.

Nicks10 · January 2011

I say go. You still have time to continue building up PTO, and like you said, it always works out in the end. Plus, if you are pregnant (which hopefully you will be!) then a week away before a baby comes will be really nice for you and your husband to just have peaceful time away together.

julesjb · January 2011

Oh man I'm def the same way! My pto expires so this past year I didn't put in for anything thinking I would need maternity and it made everything that much harder!! You deserve some vacation and being pregnant will make it that much better!! Go for it!

Sara&Mike07 · January 2011

Good for you, go for it!!! I know how you feel, I swear everything I think I may want to do seems to revolve around when/if I get PG, but I am trying to be better about that, because life keeps going on around me and I do want to be a part of it.

Book your beach house and enjoy every minute of time away with your DH! And hopefully it will be a babymoon for you, but if not, then look at it as a second honeymoon for the two of you!

ColleenS629 · January 2011

I agree, you should go. Have fun Smile

clauseka · January 2011

I say go and have a wonderful time. It's so easy to put everything else on pause, but I'm slowly realizing that's not the best way. Maybe I'll take my own advice and plan something I normally wouldn't do because of the "just in cases". Happy 2011 to you!

Carolee · January 2011

I say go for it. It sounds wonderful!

Stretchad · January 2011

I'm planning on it - a beach vacation specifically, because I know I can "beach" while pregnant, but cannot ski or do other active things like that at a mountain resort (which would typically be our first choice).

I'm looking at luxurylink.com for deals, by the way!

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