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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
dragonsmercy
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Ugh, my parents don't know how to babyproof...
dragonsmercy
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It was fine when it was just me and Evelyn... now throw a nursing baby in the mix, and Evelyn's free to get into whateeeeeeeeeever trouble she wants while I'm stuck with a baby hanging off my boob.
It's pissing me off that my parents leave out all kinds of stuff on this desk between their chairs, that SHE CAN REACH EVERYTHING ON, and it's up to me to "redirect" her every 5 frickin seconds. And I don't mean just tv remotes on this desk... I found her eating a PEPPERMINT PATTIE ffs!! My dad left it on the back corner of the desk. She also pulled down a pile of post its and is quite happily tearing the stack apart right now. Every time I tell her No or Stop or Share with Mommy, she just gives me this wicked grin and goes back to what she was doing... while I'm trying to readjust Becky's terrible latch.
I hate being home alone! If it weren't for the fact that nursing is such a pain right now, I'd be out of the house with the both of them all day. I can handle both of them at stores... at home... UGH!
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Re: Ugh, my parents don't know how to babyproof...
We live with my parents in a house that's really not big enough for 6. We're HOPING to become financially independent by april, and they can move out to an apartment, but in the meantime, we're all stuck living together.
Having said that - if I move all the crap on the table, there will be hell to pay, and a few screaming matches that I just don't feel like instigating. Not to mention, where the heck would I put it all?? This house has NO ROOM!
First, let E pull apart the sticky notes. There are worse things in the world than sticky notes on the floor. Second, find a box if necessary and put everything in it and put the box on the table.
GL!
This statement is ridiculous. It's dad's and my name on the lease, and my name's on half the household bills. DH and I contribute any way we can, it just happens that we're both unemployed right now. We all moved into this house knowing there was going to be a toddler and infant living here. They should have learned before now to not leave crap out where Evelyn can reach it, ESPECIALLY since they also get frustrated when she constantly grabs their crap.
Nursing is the one thing that I am most worried about when my #2 comes in March. It was a process with #1, and I didn't have a 2 year old to chase around then. That said, I think that you should just get all of the dangerous stuff out of the way when you're getting ready to nurse - that way, your daughter can play as usual without getting into anything dangerous. If it's really a problem, maybe you can give her a snack in a high chair while you nurse to keep her out of trouble. It's not really your parent's job to baby proof in my opinion.
Okay, I actually do have further text. Would your parents be able to support themselves financially without your contributions?
If so, have you considered their feelings? They are living with you, your husband, and your two children during what would typically be their empty-nest years. I'm sure it is frustrating for them too.
Sorry for your trouble. I know that's a terrible situation to be in.
I was going to respond "talk to me when your mother hands your child a screwdriver to play with" but that no longer seems appropriate.
I can see how frustrating this is- but you are sharing the house- they need to understand that they house has be baby proofed at least a little bit for the people that live there, and the kiddos do live there. I would talk to them- tell them you are moving some things, it's for the safety of their grandkids! I would not ask- I would TELL, they need to understand thaty are not the only ones living there. It doesnt matter who owns the house or who's name is on the lease- everyone agreed to this living arrangement- everyone needs to bend a little.
But also- pick your battles- post it's- not a big deal.
Its everyone's responsibility to babyproof the home, no matter who pays what or who owns the home. You and your DH are living there at the moment and your parents are allowing this. Along with allowing you to live there comes some acknowledgment that children will be there too and its necessary to make adjustments accordingly. My IL's still havent really figured it out either. Every time we visit there are crystal vases on tables, remote controls everywhere, small glass marbles or figurines - you name it. Christmas was especially fun because MIL had all sorts of decor out that no 2 y/o should have access to. Including the weighted stocking holders . DS reached right up and grabbed it causing it to fall and gash his head open. After that I didnt rush to tell DS "no" every single time he grabbed at something they left lying around. They eventually caught on and started moving things out of reach.
Calm down. It's just post-its and a peppermint patty. You are tired, living with your parents and home alone.
It's ok to say 'no' to your toddler too. You needn't redirect her every time. I used to have 'zones' for my kids that kept them safe. Highchair, crib, any place that contained them and kept them out of trouble while I showered, changed a diaper or whatever.
I also learned to do many things while breastfeeding. I could prepare food, read books, play peek-a-boo, etc.
Tidy up what you can, remove the hazardous stuff (have a domestic about it if need be) and try and go with the flow.