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(lg age gap) 2nd child shower invite wording?
*note- I posted this in the 3rd trimester board before I relaized there is one for showers!
Baby shower invite wording for 2nd child?
My sister & friends are throwing me a baby shower for my 2nd... since my 1st child is now 8!! So I think it is completely appropriate for a shower (I have nothing at all for a baby, and also, i didn't actually have a shower for my first child either..(I was quite young and unmarried at the time)
So this is essentially my first shower.. but I still have some people within the extended family that feel this isnt "proper ettique" (my mother included). I am searching for wording for the invites.. something about how although it's my 2nd.. its been so long... etc.
We are not considering this a "Sprinkle" (although i think that idea is pretty neat) because I do want to register for the baby stuff. Also, none of friends/coworkers now even knew me back when I had my daughter and they are excited about a shower.
So- anyone have any cute poems or sayings that would be helpful on an invite?
The only wording I found so far was: (but the part about big sister has plenty to share isnt applicable in my situation)
Baby smiles and giggles galore
Erica and Bryan
are having one more
Big Sister Maddy has plenty to share,
This is only a "sprinkle" to show
that we care
Please join us to celebrate before the
little one is due and share in their joy
of baby number two!
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Re: (lg age gap) 2nd child shower invite wording?
An artfully worded invitation is not going to change your family's feelings that a second shower is inappropriate.
You can register for baby stuff without having either a shower or a sprinkle. That way if someone asks what you need, you can refer them to a registry that you have set up to help you keep track of your needs.
That wording is fine. A few thoughts, though.
1- you don't have to announce that this is for a 2nd child. Just call it a baby shower. Simple.
2- while I can roll w/ showers for 2nd kids in certain situations, there are some people who simply feel showers after the 1st kid are wrong, no matter how you spin it. YOU think it's o.k. - great, good for you. Your mom doesn't. Her feelings on this are just as valid as yours. You need to accept that some people aren't going to be o.k. w/ this and may not come.
3- while it's nice to have help in getting set up for a new baby because it is expensive, it's no one elses responsibility but yours to provide for your child. Which kind of goes back to my #2. There is a tone to your post that you almost expect people to help you. Maybe I'm just not reading it right, but I'm just saying this as a "be careful" of your attitude and expectations. Especially when it comes to people who dont' feel you should have a shower in the first place.
4- last, your justifications of how you didnt' have a shower w/ your first, etc... it just doesn't matter. Not every woman (married/ unmarried, young/ old) gets a shower. It's not something any mom is entitled to. Not having one for the first isnt' going to make people think "Oh- NOW it's o.k. that she's having one for her 2nd".
It's great that you have people who want to throw you a shower. Just respect that not everyone will agree w/ it, and as such, they may not come and/or may not give you a gift.
Throwing a poem on the invitation isn't going to change their minds about it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
well, there is no need to be rude in your replies..
Cutesy wording only makes it worse, in my opinion. Just have a shower and don't draw even more attention to the fact that it's your second child. But I agree with the others, no matter how cute the poem, I'd still side eye an invite to a second shower, especially one with a registry.
Just because you don't LIKE the answers does not make them rude. These are honest answers and probably a good indication of what the people you invite to the shower will be thinking.
If you've decided to have a shower, good. Go with it. Avoid cutesy wording, and let the cards fall where they may. Don't try to convince anyone that you are right and they are wrong. Just accept that it is considered by many to be in poor taste to throw a shower for a 2nd baby, and move forward.
Also, don't be pissy if some people choose not to attend. No one owes you anything.
Those are far from rude replies. I could write a poem that would be rude, but I'm choosing not to. Ditto every, esp ECB.
You chose to have children far apart, you chose to get rid of baby stuff and you chose to come off as rude and entitled by allowing someone to throw a second shower for you (no matter what your self-described validations may be).
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
My feelings on showers for a second time moms aside, I'm just not a fan of cutesy poems in general. I guess I just don't see the need for it. As PPs have said, it's not going to cover anything up or change anybody's mind.
BFP #2 10/13/11 c/p 10/17/11
BFP #3 12/13/11 EDD 8/23/12 DS Born 8/27/12
I understand completely why many think it is inappropriate/tacky to have a shower for a second child. However, I have been invited to several second child showers- and third child showers- and have never thought anything of it. I enjoy celebrating with the mom to be.
I'm not a fan of second showers but with an 8 year difference I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. Heck, even if you had saved every last thing from your first child I'm sure some of it was probably recalled for one reason or another.
I would not do a poem explaining the situation...especially since many of the people invited didn't even know you when your had your first child. Just have the hostess send out a regular shower invititation and leave it at that. Put your registry info in (I hate getting shower invites without registry info...it gives me ideas) and call it a day. If your mom doesn't come it will be her loss.
I do agree with the pp that said just because you didn't have a "real" shower with your first you should get one with this pregnancy. That is not a valid reason. Many, many women never have a shower because no one offers for some reason. It's not a big deal. KWIM?