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The advice I was given on NYE on "How to Get KU"

Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
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A friend of a friend asked me on NYE (in front of the table) if we were pregnant yet. I have never had a conversation about trying with her before.  I then took a sip of my wine and said "oh is it wrong for me to drink if I am KU"?   Flash forward an hour or so and she comes to sit next me. She brings up babies again!  She proceeded to tell me that I should wear high heels to bed and that I will get pregnant... Huh? Yeah, I'm sure THAT is the key I was missing!!!  (Never mind that she has no kids and was separated from her DH for most of 2010 since she was cheating on him).   After she was done giving me "advice", she turned to my other girlfriend, age 37, and asked her if she was dating anyone.  Friend said "no" and was then asked "why".  She took us both DOWN in about 3 minutes... 

I took the high road and sipped my wine!!

TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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SAIF/PAIF Welcome


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Re: The advice I was given on NYE on "How to Get KU"

  • georgia3georgia3 member
    Wow, just wow. You are the queen of self restraint! I commend you for taking the high road- I would not be able to if I were you :) Hope you has a good New Year's anyway !
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  • MCC1010MCC1010 member
    Good for you for taking the high road. I don't think I would have been able to keep my mouth shut.
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  • aurora1974aurora1974 member
    People never fail to astound me with their comments.  I'm very impressed you took the high road.  Not sure I could have done the same.
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  • lhcooperlhcooper member
    Good for you.  I would have asked her 1) where she got her degree in reproductive endocrinology and 2) whether she thought combat boots in bed would work equally well.
    me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems); 7/18/09 - married!; 8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try; 9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c; 11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN; 4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease; 6/10 - thyroidectomy; 7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN; 1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42; 1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11; 6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN; 9/12/11 - prescreening for DE; 9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN; 11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program); 12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5) 12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze; 12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952 2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl! EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way. 
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  • *Chicken**Chicken*
    So what you're telling me is I could have saved thousands of $$ on injections if I had only worn high heels?
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member

    image*Chicken*:
    So what you're telling me is I could have saved thousands of $$ on injections if I had only worn high heels?

    Exactly! How silly of all of us for not knowing this trick! It was the stupidest comment I ever heard so it was actually pretty easy to just ignore the moron...

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


    http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com

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  • Tammi1012Tammi1012

    Wow, high heels, thats really all it takes? I would have told her off..... LOL  The longer I go through this, the less tolerance I have for ignorant people..... 

    I was upset at work last week and a co-worker said to me, why don't you just adopt? Excuse me? I said because I am not ready for that yet and I want to try and have my own. When that isn't an option than my husband and I will have that discussion. Geesh!!!

    Me-39, DH-45 Married 9/2/06-went of BC DX- MFI Started the IVF process 4/09 Sonohystergram - Clear HSG- All Clear 9/09-IVF=BFN 11/09-FET=BFN 3/09-IVF=BFN 5/10/10-Hysteroscopy-2 polyps removed 9/10-FET=BFN 12/10-IVF=BFP-m/c 12/28-6wks 1/20/11-Sono&Biopsy-everything looks good! 2/23/11-FET=BFP! 1st Beta-3/7=93, 2nd Beta 3/9=271, 3rd Beta 3/16= 5,719 Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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  • ForTheLoveOf PinkForTheLoveOf Pink member
    NYE always brings out the barstool philosophers......so much restraint to not engage her ranting......
    TTC since 2009 very frustrated 42yr and DH 40

    5 cycles of Clomid with satisfactory response=BFN's
    Fibroid removal Nov2010
    IUI Clomid #1 Feb 2011...BFN..damn it!
    IUI Inject's #2 Apr 2011...CANCELLED...low estradiol
    IUI Inject's #3 June 2011...BFN
    IUI Inject's #4 Sept2011...BFFN
    Lap Dec 2011...severe endo..cyst removed..some remains...
    IVF#1 Apr 2012 ....cancelled due to over suppression
    IVF#2 July 2012....6 follies...only 1 retrieved....BFFN
    surgery suggested to move ovary to an better placement but....we moved two time zones away and are financially and emotionally empty

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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    imageTammi1012:

    Wow, high heels, thats really all it takes? I would have told her off..... LOL  The longer I go through this, the less tolerance I have for ignorant people..... 

    I was upset at work last week and a co-worker said to me, why don't you just adopt? Excuse me? I said because I am not ready for that yet and I want to try and have my own. When that isn't an option than my husband and I will have that discussion. Geesh!!!

    Not to mention that adopting takes a lot of time/money too. You don't just walk into the adoption store!!  People are idiots....

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


    http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com

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  • allensgrlallensgrl

    Darn, and to think I threw out the stillettos,lol

    Lynn

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  • stephdhgstephdhg
    Wow. Really? I can not believe that! Well, I can but still.That is a terrible thing to say to someone.
    Before the holidays I had someone tell me that we just were not trying hard enough.  Some people are just down right rotten.
    You are a very strong person indeed. I may have had to lash out - just a little. 
    For the record - Heels do NOT do the trick...LOL  =O
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  • FinallyMrsMFinallyMrsM
    Wow! High Heels Huh? I should try it, geez!  You are a better woman than me, I would not just sip my wine, I would have said a few things.  Good for you.  And Happy New Year.
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