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Adoption
A cautious intro
Hi ladies. I've been lurking here for the past couple weeks during the long, drawn out experience of my second miscarriage. My OB has offered to do testing to determine why I can get, but not stay pregnant, but honestly the more I research adoption, the more I want to move on and choose instead to provide a loving, stable home to a child that wouldn't have one otherwise. Being pregnant and delivering a baby are not important to me - motherhood is. And I could care less whether a child shares my genes or has my husband's eyes. When I consider the time and costs that would be involved in ongoing testing and subsequent, potentially unsuccessful pregnancies, getting the ball rolling on adoption instead seems like a no brainer. My husband and I were always planning to adopt at least one child, so we're excited to move forward with this process.
I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you, reading your stories and learning from your experiences.
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Re: A cautious intro
Secondly...welcome to our board! The girls on this board are great. We have all sides of the adoption triad (birth parents, those who have been adopted and adoptive parents) so please don't hesitate to ask questions!
As far as how to find resources, If you're interested in doing foster to adopt, I would contact your location department of family services, department of social services (whatever they call it in DC) and go from there. I know, in our area, there are private agencies that also contract out the foster care cases (who we're licensed through) so i'd keep that in the back of your mind too.
Good luck in your research process, please no more lurking, welcome aboard!
Thank you
It will be at least six months before we start the process (i.e., selecting an agency, completing paperwork, etc.) as I agree that it is important to process my losses before committing to adopting a child. This second loss has been surprisingly easier than the first, but right now I want to focus on gathering information, interacting with other adoptive parents and saving to cover the costs associated with the adoption and the income I will lose while on leave once we are matched with a child (my company does not offer paid maternity/paternity leave).
I'm very much looking forward to getting to know the women on this board and thank you for your support!
Welcome to the board! These is a great place to talk, ask question, vent, etc. Feel free to post often.
I'm sorry about your losses and am glad you are taking your time with this. It took me a little while to process my stage 4 endometriosis and the fact that I may never get pregnant because of it. It was like losing your unborn child. Not many people understand it.
If you need anything, don't be afraid to ask. You will be fine.
Good luck to you on your journey and I hope it is a nice and short one and you are able to hold your child in your arms soon.
I'm sorry to hear of your recent loss.
Welcome to the board! This is a wonderful place to get support throughout the entire process! These ladies are wonderful!