Small age gap?
ZAngel
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For those of you who have children 2-3 years apart, what type of feedback would you give someone considering doing the same?
After DD, we weren't sure if we would try again. However, DH has been hinting at wanting to try again. I'm just not sure. He doesn't want to wait too long because he feels as if he is getting too old. I just want to make sure I consider everything (good and bad) before discussing it further.
Just a few points:
- My next pregnancy will be high risk which will involve going to weekly visits and possible bed rest. I'll have a c-section (third one) around 37 weeks (if not needed before). My mom and sister don't work so if I needed help with DD, they are close enough to lend a hand. Also, DH can work from home if I end up in the hospital.
-I'm a stay at home mom so no problems with daycare/work or anything like that. Finances aren't an issue and we have plenty of room for another child.
-We also have a 12 y/o son who we haven't actually talked to yet. He absolutely loves his little sister so I'm sure he would be excited about bringing another baby into the house. However, I'm sure this would be added stress for him in the next couple of years as the babies get older.
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Re: Small age gap?
I would say go for it!! I'm getting excited for you just thinking about it. Mine are 3 years apart, to the month. And as much as I wanted my second sooner, I now think 3 years is perfect, or at least it is for us.
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Ours are also 21 months apart. I agree with everything Charlotte said. It was very challenging having them so close together but now that DD#2 is about to be 3yo, I'm glad they're close in age. The small age gap means they have more in common. Obviously the fact that they're the same gender helps with this also. Down the road, they'll be only 2 grades apart in school. This is nice because it means they'll both be at the same school for a longer stretch of time.
If you know you'll most likely have a high risk pregnancy, I'd probably wait a bit longer. It's tough being pregnant and running after a young toddler.
Mine are 21 months apart. I won't lie, the first 6 months were tough, but not I love the age gap. They play very well together and love each other very much.
We will likely start trying again next year around September giving a much bigger gap for that one.
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I am excited for you Z!
I have no advice because I just have 1, but we want our next one to be about 2 years younger than Audric.
We will possibly start TTC after Audi turns 1 year
Mine are 2.5yr apart and it seems perfect to me. Honestly DD was hard to handle right when she turned 2, so I got pretty nervous while pg and I don't think I'd want kids any closer together than that. But she settled down some before the baby came and has mostly been a very good helper. The only downside to our age gap is that DD is a summer baby and DS a fall baby, so they'll be 3 years apart in school, not 2.
#1 and #2 are 23 months apart. #2 and #3 will be 30-31 months apart (depending on when he/she comes).
We love the age range. My girls are very close and love to play. That being said, it has been tough to be pregnant while having a little one. The morning sickness, exhaustion, etc is tough.
But, if you have help available, it might be easier.
(I just realized how similar my children and Charlotte's children are in ages. Weirdness!)
Mine are 26 months apart and I love it. In fact, we tried to have them a little closer but my body had other plans. Anyway, I think mine are a really good spread. The 1st 3 months were hard but it got exponentially easier after that.
If I can ask, why are you going to be high risk?
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With DD, I was diagnosed with severe preeclamsia and HELLP syndrome. The scary part was the lack of physical symptoms to clue me in on what was happening. With the next pregnancy, I will have to go in for regular urinalysis and bloodwork. Well... and also GD but I don't really think that is a big deal. I know that can be monitored easily and kept under control.
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my girls are 2 years, 4 days apart and I think it's perfect. Marion was the perfect age between having enough physical independence but not old enough to be too terribly headstrong. The last trimester, since I knew I'd have a repeat c/s, I worked really hard on teaching her to get in and out of her chair at the table herself, helping her get dressed herself, things that involved a lot of lifting, etc. that I knew would be hard right after a c/s.
I thing the two best things that I was able t do before having Eliza was to have Marion in panties during the daytime and to put her in MDO three days a week. Both of those things have made our life with two much easier than I anticipated.
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OK. That makes sense. I was asking primarily because I qualified as High Risk due to age for my 2nd. It was a little silly in my case, to be honest, and my OB never treated me as high risk just because I was 35+ since I was generally healthy and it was not my 1st pregnancy. However, should I get pg again I'll be 38-39 and it might be different...
Mine are 19/20 months apart. When DH is here, it is easy peasy. With him gone, it can get hairy trying to get 2 ready for daycare, always carting 2 to the grocery store, etc. But, I love it and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
However right this very second, I'd leave them both on a street corner. Calgon!!!!
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