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TTC After a Loss
sarahscooty
member
BFP!! Oct. 28 2010 - Natural MC Nov. 16 at 7 wks
BFP!! January 17, 2011
New to TTCAL
sarahscooty
member
Hi everyone! Happy New Year. I'm just discovering this board after being on the MC/Loss boards after miscarrying on 11/16. I have now waited one period as instructed by doc and am actively trying again to get pregnant. I can't help but be obsessed about it daily. Hubby and I got pregnant right away on our first try but miscarried at 7 weeks - I'm hoping and praying it will be easy for us on our second try but am worried that if I do get pregnant I'm going to spend the whole pregnancy worrying which I know is not healthy. To make matters worse I have to deal with an old high school friend who is newly pregnant and it's making me incredibly jealous. I hate feeling this way... I just want to be happy and peaceful for our "potential" baby... did anyone else struggle with these feelings or have any advice? I hope the new year brings us all our dreams come true.
Thank you 
BFP!! Oct. 28 2010 - Natural MC Nov. 16 at 7 wks
BFP!! January 17, 2011
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Re: New to TTCAL
Welcome to the board. It's totally normal to feel bitter, jealous, sad, etc to see other friends, family members and even strangers PG.
We have plenty of girls here who offer plenty of support!
BFP#1: 7/14/10. EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby! BFP #4: 2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15 BFP #5: 4/5/15 EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)
BFP #6: 3/2/16 EDD 11/5/16
<a href="http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Baby Names"><img src="http://global.thebump.com/tickers/tt1cfe4e" alt=" BabyFetus Ticker" border="0" /></a>M/C July 2009.
BFP #2 6/1/11(1st cycle on Clomid)
Norah Lynn was born on 2/3/2012
TTC again January 2014
bfp 01/23/10 m/c 12w1d 03/14/10 EDD 09/24/10
bfp 07/20/10 m/c 5w1d 07/25/10
bfp 11/19/10 Born 07/24/11 via C/S
My Forever Sister From Another Mister~CashewsMommy!!
Welcome to the board, I hope you find the support you need and can help the ladies here too
We have a blog for our board that is in my signature that you can learn about us and read articles to help with TTC.
I hope your stay is short and sweet!
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
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I agree with all of these sentiments. Welcome - I 'm very sorry for your loss. I've felt a lot of anger and resentment since my loss, and it all came back over Christmas. I have a ridiculous number of pregnant friends and relatives right now, and it does make it hard. My new outlook (as of today... ) is to be really positive. Hope I can stick with that. Hugs to you. I hope your stay here is short.
BFP#1 - 8/27/10 - D&C 10/27/10 @ 13 weeks to Trisomy 18
Missing our Angel Baby Gabriel
BFP#2 - 3/18/11 - CP 3/19/11 BFP#3 - 4/27/11 - Due 1/9/12
So sorry you have to be here, but welcome. I think your feelings and worries are all normal, in a short time on this board you will see they are common too!
As far as getting a BFP again quickly. Obviously everyone wants that and I wish that for you! Each time is different though so protect yourself a little by not expecting a BFP the first cycle... I know its taken my body some time to regulate and it seems to for many other as well. Good luck!
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
Very true! *hugs* Welcome to the board, I'm sorry you have to be here, though. May your stay be short and sweet.
Dx with Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APS)
BFP #4 5/14/12
5/17/12...1st Betas- 176, P4 3.6
5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
ITS A BOY!!!! Born 11/13/11 BFP #4: 10/29/12 edd 7/11/12
I am so sorry for your loss, but I welcome you to the board! You are not out of line to feel that jealousy! A good friend of mine announced her pregnancy the same week as I did and we were 1 week apart. Now that I have m/c I completely avoid her at all costs. I just get so sad and jealous thinking we would be pregnant together and that I would be going through the same things she was right now. So, yes it is completely normal to feel jealous! I suppose it will take time to heal and find a "happy place" in your life to accept the loss.
Welcome and I hope your stay is short and sweet!
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
So sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board...you will find lots of support here, girls who totally "get" where you are coming from, and a place to vent all those feelings you are having.
I'm sorry for your loss.
You are not feeling anything that we all haven't felt before. I get jealous of people I don't even know that are pregnant!
Welcome to the board!
"'My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,' says the Lord. 'And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.'" Isaiah 55:8-9
BFP #1 7/4/2010--Natural M/C 8/4/2010
BFP #2 4/25/2011 Please stick, baby!! EDD 1/1/2012
Forever Buddy to carrieandtim
I'm sorry for your loss. I can definitely relate to what you said; DH and I are hoping it won't take long to conceive again (we got pregnant our first cycle trying for BPF #1 but miscarried around 8 wk) but also know that even if we're lucky enough to get pregnant again soon, it's going to be a very different mindset the next time around.
In terms of coping with other pregnant women in our lives (and believe me, we ALL are), once I really acknowledged that 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, it really helped me be less bitter.... when I see a baby belly or hear a pregnancy announcement, I remind myself that unfortunately she could have had a miscarriage (or miscarriages) in the past or may m/c in the future. So, being jealous of anyone's current pregnancy really isn't fair, just like I hope no one will hold it against me in the future either. Good luck to you, hope 2011 is a better year (for all of us!).
Wow - THANK YOU all so much! The support is amazing on this board... I feel better already. I do hope my stay here is short and I wish the same for the rest of you! We all deserve our sticky baby in 2011! It's so nice to know that I can come here and vent when my husband thinks I'm going crazy! I'm adding "positive thinking" to my new years resolution and I think with support from this board, it may be one resolution I can keep.