September 2011 Moms
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Poll (sorta): When are you telling?
When are you ladies planning telling? Or if you did already, when did you tell?
How did you/plan to tell?
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Re: Poll (sorta): When are you telling?
I'm so all over the place on this. I've already told my parents and sister (all of whom I'm super close to), but I'm terrifed to tell anyone else... I want to, but I'm terrified I'll jinx myself. We're hoping to wait 8 weeks to tell everyone else.
I told two of my best friends last night and we also called FIs twin brother and told him. I think that we will probably tell my parents and in-laws this weekend. I too am kind of scared telling people that I might jinx myself but I am soo excited I dont know how much longer I can keep it a secret.
I've already told my mom, dad, sister, aunt, and best friend. All of these people were aware of my struggles, IF treatments, miscarriages, etc. so it would have been pointless to not share the news since they would have figured it out.
As for everyone else, FB, extended family, other friends.... as late as I can stand it. Who knows, if I actually get an ultrasound with a heartbeat and everything is good (which has never happened before) maybe I'll feel up to sharing. Or, at that point, I may have the strength to hold off until the 12 week NST scan/start of 2nd trimester to share.
Either way, we're waiting several weeks.
DS#1 - 6.11.08
DS#2 - 9.1.11
Ditto this.
It was definitely hard on Christmas because I did want to share, but DH and I are just so cautious.
I asked DH again last night when he wanted to tell and he said not until 15-16 weeks. I'm not sure why he randomly picked that time frame, but I was like ok whatever you want.
I don't really have any ideas on how to tell the news. I'm not one for the super cutesy over the top ideas, but I would like to do something special.
I doubt I'll post anything on FB. Those posts are kind of AWish to me and after my loss I was really sensitive and it hurt a lot whenever I saw an announcement pop up and I swore I'd never do that to someone.
BFP 11-24-10; EDD 8-5-10; CP @ 4wks on 11-27-10
BFP 12-22-10; EDD 9-2-11 Baby girl born Aug. 15, 2011 via emergency c-section
BFP 9-5-12; EDD 5-20-13; Missed MC @ 8 wks on 10-9-12; D&C 10-10-12
BFP 1-7-13; EDD 9-20-13; PRAYING WE GET TO BRING THIS BABY HOME!
Only DH, myself and the bump network know right now
I want to wait until our first ultrasound (around 6ish weeks) to tell close family and a few friends - pretty much those I would want support from if we miscarry.
The rest of the world will find out around 13 weeks ... when the risks drop.
I am sure it won't be terribly interesting when we do share. I tend to be a blurter
We're staying at my mom's for the holidays right now, so she was here when I took the test and found out about 2 minutes after we did. Same with my sisters and my sister's FI. We told MIL that same day, and we told FIL today. Also planning on telling my dad tonight. Our two best friends also know.
For everyone except MIL, we just told them, but for MIL, we got this little wooden calendar thing from Hallmark that says "Weeks Til I'm a Grandma" and then you change the numbers each week, so we wrapped it up for her and told her it was a Christmas present that came late. Her face was priceless!
4 losses: Natural m/c 8w 1/11, CP 12/11, CP 3/12, and our perfectly healthy baby girl Charlotte Grace, missed M/C 5/31/12 at 8w5d
TTC#2 5/14, BFP 8/15/14! Beta #1 16 (11 DPO), Beta #2 71 (14 DPO) Beta #3 164 (16 DPO) Beta #4 633 (21 DPO) Beta #5 1487 (23 DPO) Heartbeat 121 bpm at 6w6d! EDD 4/25/15
We'll wait and see how the first appointment goes. If everything is okay, we'll probably tell friends and family. I may wait a few weeks to tell work. Last time I waited until 12 weeks to tell work but this time I might tell work earlier just because of a different work setting/coworkers.
We'll do a big sister shirt to tell most.
1st PG - I told my twin sister, my brother and my parents. Then I had the ectopic and it was horrible. The whole world knew at that point b/c it ruptured and I was in the hospital for 5 days and out of work for a month.
2nd PG - Only lasted 4-5 days so we only told my brother & my twin sister.
THIS PG - We've decided to only tell my twin sister and HIS brother (they are each our best friends) so we have someone to talk to about it. We will NOT be telling anyone else until 3+ months. DH is tired of the up & down... one minute we're pregnant, the next we're not... It can be draining...
We already told our families.
No one else till 8-12 weeks though
BFP #1 - BFP #2 - Blog
and Luck to my BFPB StephK!!- Emma is here!!
Only DH and I know now, and I hope it stays that way until we hear a heartbeat. I really would like to wait until 12-13wks. but thats gonna be tough.
Only Dh, my best friend and I know. I have my first Dr's appt on January 11th and we will probably tell both our parents and siblings then...then everyone else whenever! I want to get a shirt for my son that says "I'm going to be a big brother" and have him wear it around the family and see how long it takes them to notice.
We're not planning on telling the family for 3-4 more weeks. Friends, probably at 12 weeks, or until I can't stand it! I'm sure I'll tell my BFF sooner though.
We are telling parents and friends after our appointment at week 8. Wanna make sure everything is okay first. My mom has been BUGGING us for a baby for the last 5 years.. I want to make sure everything is good before I tell her. :P
We've told a few select close friends already that we trust to keep their mouths shut. and I'm going to tell my boss when I go back to work Monday b/c I work in an IT dept at a college.. and we will be setting up computers for registration Monday.. and he needs to know why I won't be lifting any computers or monitors :P
I told my mom because there was no way I was going to be able to keep that secret. Otherwise, we will probably tell family and super close friends after we see the heartbeat. The rest of the world can wait until at least 12 weeks.
This. We also told all of our close friends who were praying for us during our TTC journey.
We told my mom, MIL, and grandparents with a poem that I thought up a long time ago:
"Pink or Blue? We will have to see! All I know is Grammy's going to love me!"
Funny story... my parents were visiting, and on the last day I got into a HUUGGE fight with my mom about, well, nothing. Then my dad of all people suggests I test. So I do, with them in the living room, and my DH at work. So yeah, my parents know. I wouldn't have told them until I at least missed my period!
Other than them, I told my friend who's a doula. My rule with LO#1 is, if I feel comfortable enough talking to them about a m/c, I can tell them about being pg.
Natural complete miscarriage 3.16.11. Baby was 14 weeks 5 days. Meet you soon, little one.
We told our families right away. We couldn't possibly stand keeping the secret from them. This our first pregnancy, unexpected, but amazing so far! We'll probably tell friends at 10 weeks or so. As far as work goes, I will probably just let most people figure it out for themselves. We've got a "prenatal orientation" visit with my NP on Tuesday. I'm so EXCITED!!!
Oof. Thanks MIL...
Natural complete miscarriage 3.16.11. Baby was 14 weeks 5 days. Meet you soon, little one.
We haven't told anyone yet. We are just enjoying the news ourselves right now. We did find some really cute picture frames that say "Sneak Peak. It's Amazing how someone so small can inspire a love so grand." We bought a few and plan to put the first ultrasound pic in that. We talked about telling that way but I don't know if I can keep it to myself that long!
My mom knows, because I couldn't keep it from her.....but as of right now, no one else outside this house knows. We haven't even told DS yet, because he's old enough to blab. We'll probably tell family after the first u/s with a heartbeat, not because we would keep it from them if there is a miscarriage, but just because it is easier that way, and means they have less of a wait.
They will be told to not tell anyone else though, until after 12 weeks. I don't know how that is going to go over at work......I actually don't plan on telling anyone at all really, and just let them figure it out when I start showing. Of course, with my last pregnancy (that lasted anyway), I was barfing my guts out at all hours at 10 weeks (which lasted the entire pregnancy...fun.) - so I really couldn't keep it from other teachers because I literally barfed in my classroom multiple times that year. (My poor students - morning sickness hit it's height the same day as state testing began - I sat behind my desk and hurled into a trash basket repeatedly while proctoring the reading test. Fun memories. I even barfed ON one of my kids that week -- I quickly sent the kids out the door (thankfully I was in a mobile classroom that year - so the playground was right there) to play, and one of them hung back to ask me a question. I was heading towards the railing so I could hurl over the side - he got in my way, and....well, his shoes were a mess. 
6th grader, he should have known better - couldn't he see I was green?!