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WORK VENT!!! *growl* (DD PICS IN SIG)

DragonflyBelleDragonflyBelle
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So a project I have been working my tail off on for nearly a year finally launched to the public this week. HOORAY!!!!

On the heels of that, there are several year-end/1st of the year changes that must be made on the website, etc. One of them I was aware of and took care of after much back-and-forth a$$hattery from operations, which was a nightmare....but the other change, NOBODY told me about and I was expected to be psychic enough to know I guess.

So I get a nasty-gram from our compliance officer today crawling up my rear-end because this new notice has not been posted. When I told her I wasn't aware of it at all...this is thefirst I have heard of it, but I will certainly have it taken care of as soon as I get the approved copy....I get an email forwarded to me with a response that says... " You most certainly DID know about it, you received this email in NOVEMBER!"

I wrote her back and told her that if she would recall, I was out the entire month of November on bereavement leave after LOSING MY CHILD and that I would not and could not be responsible for anything I was emailed during that time period, that it should have been brought to my attention again after coming back to work and that I would appreciate it if the whole of operations could learn a little common decency.

I don't expect to be handled with kit gloves, but some people need a serious lesson in kindness and how to treat their fellow man. My nerves and my heart are still really raw and I don't need your bull%&*t. I take great pride in what I do and would never drop the ball on something so important if I was truly informed and assigned a task. 2010 can't be over soon enough!

 

DD#1 11.7.07 - DD#2 11.2.10 (3rd Tri Loss)- DD#3 4.18.12
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Re: WORK VENT!!! *growl* (DD PICS IN SIG)

  • LaraGaudessLaraGaudess member
    Wow, what a total @sshat! It sounds like you handled the situation very well, and if it came down to it, I don't think this person would have a leg to stand on as far as where to point the blame. Good for you for not taking that B.S!
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  • mags507mags507 member

    Amen!

    I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry that your coworker is an insensitive jerk!  I'm glad you stood up for yourself.  I recently had to do something similar with a coworker (although my situation was the loss of my grandfather 2 weeks ago) who was just being so insensitive. 

    ETA: I'm with you on 2010...2 miscarriages and my grandfather passed away.  This past year can suck it. Next year has to be better, right?

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  • fireflies0306fireflies0306

    i'm am so sorry that you have such a insensitive co-worker--and you had to deal with that today of all days!  i am going through something similar with my supervisor, and had to tell him to his face when he accused me of stringing out a situation with a parent and told me this could have been handled weeks ago, that if he recalled (which he did, the whole district knew), the meeting was set up for before the baby died, so i am so sorry it wasn't handled quickly enough, but again, my baby died, and i was home recovering and could not deal with work.  i also pride myself in my work, and so to be accused of slacking wasn't right.  but i, like you, will and did say something.  i would have before, but now we definitely have reasons for people to exercise a bit more sensitivity and couth.  

    take deep breaths, pride yourself on a job well done, and know that someone in your office will also back you up, b/c sometimes there's only 1 prick in an office--everyone can be decent!

    and yes, 2010 can kick it to the curb....i'm not dealing well with 2011 either for that matter---i'm holding out for 2012  ;-p  but rest up...the new year is right around the corner!

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  • yeliza hyeliza h member
    Good For You for letting her know! When I went back to work it was like I never left... I guess they felt that 2 weeks was enough time. smh

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  • DragonflyBelleDragonflyBelle
    Thank you guys for letting me vent. I was just having a bad, bad week and I let them get to me. There is a group of about 5 women over there that have ZERO clue what compassion and tact is. I am so thankful I no longer work in the same building as them.
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