I have a 3 year old son. He is a silly, funny, caring and lovable littly boy. He also has some strange/concerning behaviors.
His gross motor skills are great. I have no worries with those. His fine motor ones could probably use some work. I just noticed that he isn't holding his pencil correctly. I have seen him do it correctly before, but he got an easle for christmas and is holding the colors with a fist. He knows his colors and shapes and can count to 20, but avoids anything having to do with the ABCs. I know he knows they are letters, but he's never said the ABCs past C and cannot identify any letters.
His speech is ok. He was evaluated by EI at 2.5 and did not qualify for services. At the time we could not go to a private speach therapist and he wasn't old enough for the school system. I'm thinking about having him evaluated through the school system when school starts back up. He talks A LOT; although it is not 100% clear. I can almost always figure out what he's saying, but others understand him about 75% of the time. He understands everything I tell him. Occasionaly he doesn't seem to get what i'm saying, but if I say it a different way or show him then it clicks. Usually this has to do w/ being corrected. I sometimes think he's pretending to not understand.
I am considering getting him evaluated because the director at the school he goes to 3- half days a week suggested it. They say that he does not talk as much as the others in his class. I am wondering if he is quiet at school. We once ran into his teacher outside of school. He was talking to me like normal and she looked shocked! She said that she never heard him talk that way and that he doesn't say very much when he's in her class.
He is aggressive toward other kids some of the time. He is aggresive towards his little sister multiple times a day (sometimes multiple trimes an hour!) and towards the other kids at school. He hits, scratches and pushes. He does not listen when corrected or put in time out. It does not seem to phase him. It only makes him angry or try to figure out a way to get out of it. This is the method of descipline we use at home. At school they use a green/yellow/red light system. He is on yellow light at least once a week sometimes more. It's usually for hitting another kid or not listening when corrected several times. He has only been in a reportable incident once this year when he bit a kid who was sitting on his chest and wouldn't let him up, but his teacher sends me a note home every time that he gets on yellow light and tells me what he has done. He is also younger than his classmates. His birthday is just 2 days before the cut off date. Some of the kids in his class are already 4. I plan to send him to kindergarden when he is 5, not in a year and a half from now when he will still be 4.
My other concern is his need to touch others. He gets in trouble for this at school too. He seems to not be able to keep his hands to himself. He does not mean to upset the person next to him. It's almost like a compulsion to touch them. At home he wants to be as close to me as humanly posible. He will literally try to sit on my head. Also, when he's next to me he must touch my ears. This started when he was nursing. He would play with my ear, but now whenever he is near me especially when he is tired or upset he can not keep his hands off my ears. He says that he needs to touch them. I admit that it drives me insane. He likes to be touched, held, squeezed and played with roughly. The rougher the better.
Recently he has been having these big fits of anger. He is honestly extremely mad over xyz. It overwhelms me and I almost always want to cry when I see him this way. Usually he calms down within 10 minutes. I guess this is a tantrum. He's never done this before. I find myself trying to avoid situations that will make him upset, but sometimes it is very small things that I don't see coming.
I am concerned because these things like the ear touching, need to be so close to others and aggresiveness and tantrums seem to be getting worse. His aggresiveness is affecting us in ways such as staying home from birthday parties and playdates because I'm afraid he will have an altercation with someone else.
His pedi, my mom and some others say that he's just a 3 year old little boy. I don't know what to think at this point. My husband and I feel like we need to gain control of his behavior before he gets older and more out or hand. My husband is concerned because he remembers feeling this way as a kid. According to his parents he didn't talk until he was 3.5 and he also has some learning differences that were never diagnosed. My son seems frustrated and angry. He gets lots of attention and love, but he is jealous of his 1 year old sister.
Anyone have any ideas as to what may be going on or can relate?