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Bedtime getting up issues
Ok ideas are needed please !!
We have tried the sticker chart, the whole " if you get up, we will take this away " etc etc etc etc etc.
Nothing seems to be working.
Please, ideas. I'm so sick of it !
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Re: Bedtime getting up issues
we are a house under bunny rule. if the bunny sleeps, you stay in your bed.
I've got nothing cause Natalie has been doing the same thing. I can usually put her back to bed but sometimes when it's later in the morning it's a waste since my sleep is already ruined.
I think I may get one of those bunny clocks.
I told Lainie if she gets out of bed by herself for any reason other than going to the bathroom, I'm putting her back in her crib. Maybe that makes me a mean mom, but it has worked like a charm for us...
Good luck!
Yeah, we were having the same out-of-bed issues after the BGB was going smoothly for a while. One night, we put her back to bed with zero interaction nearly 100 (literally) times. We tried taking away stuffed animals, etc. Rewards. Nothing was working. So one night we warned her that if she didn't stay in bed, she'd be sleeping in the "little girl bed." (PNP) We set it up in her room. She didn't listen and had to sleep in it a few times. Now she seems to be getting back on track. Last night she got up once and then we gave her the PNP warning and that was it. Maybe I'm mean, too, but it's working! *knock on wood*
I will confess that my advice has zero validity since we bedshare and parent Andrew down to sleep but this would be my approach.
1. Question him as to why he's getting up so much.
When Andrew is stalling or being really spazzy I'm sometimes shocked at what comes out of his mouth once I finally just ask him what's going on (sometimes it needs some prompting). Like he won't tell us he has to pee, we finally have learned the signs of squirming that = pee. Sometimes he really wants a little toy to hold onto and sleep with but he hasn't even asked. Sometimes it's water, or a little snack. Once in awhile he'll say that he didn't get to finish playing XYZ and we say "ok, we'll set the timer for X minutes (like 2-5) so you can finish it up and then it's night night time". That works incredibly well.
2. Sometimes he doesn't want to read books, he wants to watch some youtube, or he's just plain overstimulated and needs total darkness and to lay flat on the bed. Other times he wants me to sing to him and rock him.
How long has it been going on? Is it a new house issue? Does he feel like Jasper gets more bedtime attention than he is? Has he stopped wearing pull ups at nightime (trying to go pee alot before he falls asleep) I
s it possible for you or DH to sit in his room with him for a few minutes in the dark after books, tell him that you will stay and help him relax for X minutes but you can not stay longer because you need to go and get ready for bed yourself?
If he's motivated by food, every night that he stays in his room until morning then he gets to pick what's for breakfast (out of normal choices of course but he gets that control). If he's motivated by attention then every time he stays = 15 minutes of special 1-1 mama or daddy time and a full week of staying in bed = a full afternoon at the park 1-1 with mama or daddy. A full month of staying in bed=a trip to the firestation.