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Making new mom friends at park/ outings
How do you do it? Do you do it?
I REALLY need to get some mom friends. Like really badly. I'm starting to go stir crazy hanging out at the inlaws all the time and with all the snow and Ariel being congested for over a week, even getting outside to play is rough.
So I was at an indoor playground thing the other day and got chatting with this real friendly woman who's son was 6 months older than Noel and daughter was a month or two younger than Ariel. The whole time I was thinking I really wished I could broach the subject of maybe getting together sometime but I just had no idea how to do it without it being awkward. I mean, I'd just met the woman and spent all of 15 mins with her. Then last night we went out to meet up with a couple old friends of dh's from high school. A few minutes before we left a couple showed up and we chatted with them when we were on our way ou the door. The woman was really nice and they have a 3 year old son and a 6 month old daughter. We only talked for a couple minutes but as I was walking out the door I thought dang I wish I'd said something like "we should get the kids together sometime" but of course I didn't and we hadn't really talked long anyway. I told dh he should friend this guy on fb and after awhile hint to him that the wives should get the kids together but I doubt he'll ever do it. They even live right down the street from my inlaws. ::pout::
So do you ever make friends with random moms at the park or other kids outings? How do you do it? I consider myself pretty outgoing but maybe just not enough to tell a random stranger that I think we should hang out!
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Re: Making new mom friends at park/ outings
i have wondered this myself. it's so much easier when you're younger to make friends, isn't it?
i finally made a move with one of my clients who i get along well with. i sent her a msg via facebook and said we should get our boys together sometime and told her to call me.
as far as being in person, i have no advice and am interested to see what others say.
I think it's easier to lead with the "let's get the kids together" angle. I also find it easier to suggest meeting up at a playground location first, instead of inviting them to my house. It seems like less of a big deal. So maybe just a simple..."hey we should meet up at the (indoor) playground sometime for the kids to play...let me write down my email and phone for you."
ETA: I've made some friends with neighbors (because our kids are the same age) and classmates of Eli this way. I've also met some ladies through a playgroup and through other friends.
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I haven't really done that, but only because I haven't really met anyone in a random place that I connected with. The Mom friends that I have that I met after having kids I met through a local Mom's group. A few of us tired of the drama of the group and formed our own Mom's group, lol. I've also connected with a couple of Mom's at the boys' pre-school.
In those situations, I might have said something like, "it looks like the kids are really having fun together, we should meet up sometime for a playdate". I consider myself a very shy, introverted person but for some reason having kids has made me more brave, lol.
Definitely push DH to friend the last couple on FB - that'd be great. Or, not to sound too stalkerish, could you take walks with the kids and "run into" them?
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No advice because I find it hard too though I do try to remind myself that other moms are probably thinking the same exact thing and, if not, what's the harm in asking?
But we should definitely plan a time to get together after the holidays! I could even take a morning off work if we pick a specific day. I haven't taken Will to any of the indoor playgrounds around here yet and I know he'd have a blast and I'd love to hang out again!
We totally should! I know it's been way busy with the holidays, I know it has for me. And I know I think the same thing about other moms probably wanting to do the same thing but it doesn't seem to help loosen my mouth!
It just sounds so easy when you say it like that!
Ok, let me look at my Jan calendar and I'll shoot you an e-mail! Your Yahoo address right?
"The kids seem to be having a blast playing with eachother. (This sparks a "yes they do" response)
"We should set up some times to get together so the kids can this this more often!!" (This sparks the "yeah, we really should, the kids would love that" response)
"Great! Let me write down my email and phone number for you and you can let me know when you are available and we can try to set up a time and a place to meetup!!"
Just think, she is probably thinking the same thing you are and doesn't know how to approach it. Or, if she doesn't want to, she just won't call or email. But there is no harm in asking.
Or like tina said, try to find a playgroup.
Definitely. This is the approach I normally take.
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this is what I was going to suggest, but I'm still having trouble connecting with people... but it gets us out of the house and ds interacts w/ others.
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I could have written this. I am desperate for some adult interaction. I volunteer at E's school (and LOVE it) but I can't do it often because of the girls and I would love a friend or two that I could hang out with - with some regularity.
I have no idea how to go about it! I meet people from time to time (actually met a really cool lady at the diaper party I hosted), but how do you say "let's hang out" w/out it being weird and like kindergarten "will you be my friend".
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