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Husbands a Jerk! Vent

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I could scream..cry..something..Noah has chest infection and ear infection.  I had to come to work and took him to the sitter..its just Noah so she said it was fine..But she just called and said he has been crying and she isnt sure what to do.  I called my DH because it should not ALWAYS fall on me.  last week I was in the hospital Wednesday and Thursday due to a severe migraine.  And then Wednesday I had to take the morning off for an MRI.  I have NEVER asked him to take time off to get Noah..Its always me...but because I have had some days off lately..i cant take today off.  I called him to ask him to call his boss (who thinks the world of both DH and DS) so I know he wont care..but he said he didnt want to call..we got in a fight and then he hung up..

I could SCREAM!  He is always so hands on with DS at home and so good with him..went to the ER last night with us..but when it comes to missing work at all he wont!  I just dont know what to do.

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  • TSDTSD member

    Not to quote Chris Rock or anything, but he doesn't get a medal for going to the ER- "You're supposed to take care of your kids!"

    You guys need a long talk or something. Maybe a counselor. Everything can't fall on you, and I guess yh needs to think about whether you could live off just his salary if you get fired for taking off so much work.

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  • LovinTim912LovinTim912

    I agree with PP.  It SHOULDN'T all fall on you.  You can't be the only one taking days off of work for a sick baby.  And I would DEFINITELY present what the PP said.... can you live off on just his salary if you get fired for taking too much time?  Maybe that will be a wakeup call for him.  


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  • ddnicole13ddnicole13
    It shouldn't always fall on you, but in my experience, the mom is usually the one that does more.  My mom has always told me that.  She said when both the mom and dad work, it always ends up being more work for the mom because she'll still do a lot more than the husband.  Don't get me wrong, my hubby does his small part (more than my dad did - my mom was a SAHM) -- but nowhere near what I have to sacrafice. If the baby is sick, it's me that takes off work and stays home.  I'm with you sister...hang in there!
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  • first-time-mamafirst-time-mama member

    Thanks ladies..I needed some support this morning..I am already sad that I am at work and my lil man is with a sitter sick :(  He has always been this way with work..I mean I am very lucky to have a super understanding boss!  But I wont take today off because that isnt fair to this job..and not fair to me either. 

     

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  • LovinTim912LovinTim912

    imageddnicole:
    It shouldn't always fall on you, but in my experience, the mom is usually the one that does more.  My mom has always told me that.  She said when both the mom and dad work, it always ends up being more work for the mom because she'll still do a lot more than the husband.  Don't get me wrong, my hubby does his small part (more than my dad did - my mom was a SAHM) -- but nowhere near what I have to sacrafice. If the baby is sick, it's me that takes off work and stays home.  I'm with you sister...hang in there!

    Ya I agree with this too.  Maybe it is an old-fashioned belief, but yes, it does seem to fall more to moms.  But even still, dads need to do their share!!! 

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  • TSDTSD member

    It's all in what you allow to happen- it's not just a fact that the mothers do more- it's how you set up your household to run. I'd say the only things mh does not do are prepare meals for our son and get up in the middle of the night unless I'm sick. That's because I can nap during the day and he can't. I stay home and I feel like I have an equal parenting partner. I wouldn't have it any other way. MH does the whole bath and bedtime routine every single night of the week.

    I think many times where a mom feels like she does the most is because she also doesn't want to relinquish the control...and feels like she does it "better".

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