"I hope your next one is a boy - girls suck."

CosmoMurphy · December 2010

My BIL's girlfriend (whom I don't care for anyway) sent me a message on facebook that said.

"I really hope your next baby is a boy. Girls aren't any fun."

To which I repllied "uhhh....what?"

And got this response from her:

"boys are SO much easier, IMO, than girls. girls like dress up and barbies and boring *** like that (sorry, i really don't like girls even though i'm sure i did that haha)..boys like to blow things up, they can play on their own if you give them trains, trucks, cars, building blocks, rails to build railroads and roads..hahhaa

just hit me up when you have a boy and i can give you all these fun activities...OH and of course you can just sit the boy in front of the tv (like a few hours i guess) and have him watch ninja/power rangers haha, i think they're much easier than girls cause they can play on their own. girls are clingy and always need someone else there to play with them or play tea party and house and kitchen and all that bullcrap..

sorry i'm being so mean haha, i just don't have the time for girls and i'm probably guaranteed a girl now cause of all the *** talk i just did.. "

*BLINK*

This is from a girl who knows that DH and I had a few losses before this pregnancy, and are basically just thrilled to be having a baby regardless of sex - but definitely excited for our little girl.

But seriously....WTF?!

LittleApple · December 2010

I have an aunt who is just like this! She told me crap like this when I was PG with DD and then again with this one. Super annoying!

I love having a girl and can't wait to have another!! I don't get why people need to be so negative

lilbit923 · December 2010

Wow. What an oxygen thief.

I was nervous about having a girl because I'm not girly at all and I was worried I wouldn't be able to be girly with her. I was a tomboy all my life and when my brothers were playing cops and robbers, so was I. Having a little girl, she plays just fine on her own and gives her brothers a run for their money if they make her mad. She can hold her own just fine and doesn't go the "tea party" route at all.

With my son and daughter, I do see differences in how they act. But I absolutely love them both to pieces. I can't imagine my life without my baby girl and I hope this next baby is another girl. I think the girls are a ton of fun.

Molluskwrangler · December 2010

It's funny how people think every child is alike. I am the only girl (2 brothers) and the only one who enjoyed playing alone, I was never a girlie girl and wasn't clingy. My middle brother was extra clingy and could never play alone. It's not if the child is a boy or girl just their personality. Your Bils g.f sounds like a real peach.

pregaftertubal · December 2010

WOW! if i were you, i would totally give her a piece of my mind! who the hell is she to be saying those things to you. you need to put her in her place and right the hell now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

smllel · December 2010

I would really love to hit her...and I am not a violent person.

I have 2 girls, my sister has 4. When they all get together, we don't see them for hours because they are off playing. NEVER do I HAVE to entertain my children. Yes I do play with them, but they are content playing with dolls, dress-up, our MATCHBOX CARS and THOMAS TRAIN SET.

And sitting them in front of the TV for HOURS??? Really?? #1 Mom of the Universe, right there.

You will love your baby because she is YOURS and you have been blessed with her! Yeah, I would avoid any contact with that woman in the future because I don't know if my actions could be controlled.

CosmoMurphy · December 2010

I feel like IF I decide to let her hold the baby, I will have to be on constant watch to make sure she doesn't drop her or something... Geez!

CosmoMurphy · December 2010

smllel:
I have 2 girls, my sister has 4. When they all get together, we don't see them for hours because they are off playing. NEVER do I HAVE to entertain my children. Yes I do play with them, but they are content playing with dolls, dress-up, our MATCHBOX CARS and THOMAS TRAIN SET.

She makes it sound like playing with my child will be SUCH A NIGHTMARE. OMG can you imagine having to actually INTERACT with your baby?

Luckily she lives far away and I only have to see her once or twice a year.

I just wish she had sent this to me before I sent her very very nice Christmas gift to her.

lilbit923 · December 2010

CosmoMurphy:
smllel:

I have 2 girls, my sister has 4. When they all get together, we don't see them for hours because they are off playing. NEVER do I HAVE to entertain my children. Yes I do play with them, but they are content playing with dolls, dress-up, our MATCHBOX CARS and THOMAS TRAIN SET.

She makes it sound like playing with my child will be SUCH A NIGHTMARE. OMG can you imagine having to actually INTERACT with your baby?

Luckily she lives far away and I only have to see her once or twice a year.

I just wish she had sent this to me before I sent her very very nice Christmas gift to her.

The biatch in me would reply that there are still clinics willing to sterilize women any day of the week if this is how she feels about baby girls.

iluvbillynollie · December 2010

From the way she writes, she sounds super classy.

missbobbijean · December 2010

I would make sure that BIL sees what she posted on FB. Hopefully it helps him to decide that she is NOT the one!

labooshki · December 2010

Wow, she's a real gem. You're lucky to have that as an inlaw. DEFRIEND and then throat punch.

captain_angel · December 2010

Ignorance, thats all. Just be thankful your not so close minded, and maybe rethink your friendship.

AshasaurusRex · December 2010

I second the throat punch, what a moronic b!tch.

skio · December 2010

What a cvnt.

Symharmony · December 2010

Your BIL's girlfriend sounds like a real winner. Too many stereotypes going on with her comment! I love how people who don't have children seem to know how boys and girls behave. She has no clue.

lilbit923 · December 2010

kdodge423:
lilbit923:

Wow. What an oxygen thief.

Well played.

I was the only kid on a farm. My mom was at work all day. Clearly she coddled me 24/7. Normally when she came home from work she would find me in a tree attempting to build a fort out of sticks and twine (at which point she made me dismantle it because it was "unsafe").

For my tea parties of course.

Thank you kindly. I too was up trees, building forts out of blankets, chairs, and the vacuum cleaner. Hot wheels were a must during my play days and I used nearly every encyclopedia on the shelf to build ramps to jump the cars off of.

I did have a pretty pink big wheel and one day my older brother wouldn't get off of it. I told him his turn was up and I wanted to ride it. He ignored me and rode off. I ran after him and told him to get off again...nope he says. Fine by me. I walked around the back of the shed and got the rake...this 6 foot long wooden rake that was rusted on the ends. I held it up and told him to get off of it. He stopped in front of me and dared me to hit him with it. Bad call for older bro. Don't ever pull my punk card. When the rake hit him it only sliced his forehead and nose up a bit. But I got my big wheel back and he ran off crying. Then I rode to the other side of the yard for my tea party.

nate_and_britt · December 2010

wow, she sounds like she's gonna be a great mommy! =( it's sad when people think that kids are a commodity and there to please/entertain you. if you don't expect to be RAISING and nurturing your child, why would you be having one??

Molluskwrangler · December 2010

lilbit923:
kdodge423:
lilbit923:

Wow. What an oxygen thief.

Well played.

I was the only kid on a farm. My mom was at work all day. Clearly she coddled me 24/7. Normally when she came home from work she would find me in a tree attempting to build a fort out of sticks and twine (at which point she made me dismantle it because it was "unsafe").

For my tea parties of course.

Thank you kindly. I too was up trees, building forts out of blankets, chairs, and the vacuum cleaner. Hot wheels were a must during my play days and I used nearly every encyclopedia on the shelf to build ramps to jump the cars off of.

I did have a pretty pink big wheel and one day my older brother wouldn't get off of it. I told him his turn was up and I wanted to ride it. He ignored me and rode off. I ran after him and told him to get off again...nope he says. Fine by me. I walked around the back of the shed and got the rake...this 6 foot long wooden rake that was rusted on the ends. I held it up and told him to get off of it. He stopped in front of me and dared me to hit him with it. Bad call for older bro. Don't ever pull my punk card. When the rake hit him it only sliced his forehead and nose up a bit. But I got my big wheel back and he ran off crying. Then I rode to the other side of the yard for my tea party.

BWAHAHHHAHA!! My brother still talks about the day he bugged me till I kicked him in the face and split is lip. My dad told him he had it coming. I only liked barbies for cutting their hair off...I was always mad she didn't fit in the GI joe outfits.

Sheas · December 2010

At least you know who NOT to call for a babysitter if ever needed. She did you a favor, but saying no in advance!

She needs to be jabbed in the neck.

CosmoMurphy · December 2010

nate_and_britt:
wow, she sounds like she's gonna be a great mommy! =( it's sad when people think that kids are a commodity and there to please/entertain you. if you don't expect to be RAISING and nurturing your child, why would you be having one??

Well, I don't know about anyone else, but I'm going through this miserable pregnancy (GD, rare inflamed eye disorder, sciatica pain, unrelenting m/s) so I could put the baby in front of the TV. Now that it's a girl and I might actually have to be involved with it....well, I've changed my mind. /eyeroll

MiniMadness · December 2010

She sounds like an effin idiot and I think I'd have to tell her that.

lilbit923 · December 2010

LovingBaz:
lilbit923:

Thank you kindly. I too was up trees, building forts out of blankets, chairs, and the vacuum cleaner. Hot wheels were a must during my play days and I used nearly every encyclopedia on the shelf to build ramps to jump the cars off of.

I did have a pretty pink big wheel and one day my older brother wouldn't get off of it. I told him his turn was up and I wanted to ride it. He ignored me and rode off. I ran after him and told him to get off again...nope he says. Fine by me. I walked around the back of the shed and got the rake...this 6 foot long wooden rake that was rusted on the ends. I held it up and told him to get off of it. He stopped in front of me and dared me to hit him with it. Bad call for older bro. Don't ever pull my punk card. When the rake hit him it only sliced his forehead and nose up a bit. But I got my big wheel back and he ran off crying. Then I rode to the other side of the yard for my tea party.

BWAHAHHHAHA!! My brother still talks about the day he bugged me till I kicked him in the face and split is lip. My dad told him he had it coming. I only liked barbies for cutting their hair off...I was always mad she didn't fit in the GI joe outfits.

HA!!! ROFL! Love it! My older bro and I don't really get along. Since then I've always felt the need to prove that I can do anything he can do regardless of my gender. Of course in college he told me what a waste of time it was for me to join the police academy because, well, I was a girl and girls can't make it through the academy like men can. So I went through the same academy he did and requested that my scores be compared to his. I beat him at everything he attempted. I made Class Captain, he didn't. I graduated with honors, he didn't. I graduated with the PT Award, PT commendation and Academic Commendation, he didn't. At graduation I requested that he be the one to give me my certificate. We're both cops and he's always been ticked that I made rank sooner than he did and I was hired into positions that made more than he did. *sigh* Sucks being beat by a girl doesn't it bro?

JenWen3 · December 2010

My sister has a daughter and a son. The girl is so much more independent. She entertains herself and reads books to herself (she's done this forever, when she couldn't read she'd just look through it or make up her own stories).

Her brother was much more of a handful as a toddler and is still super clingy to my sister at 4 years old. They're both great kids.

Obviously all kids are different. Not all girls are independent, not all boys are clingy, they're all DIFFERENT. Your friend is an idiot to think she knows what she's talking about, and she's even more of an idiot to share that info with you on FB. I'm guessing she's pretty insecure about her own life and makes herself feel better by pointing out the negatives in your life. I guess the fact that you're having a girl is the best she could come up with.

LDQAM516 · December 2010

That's pretty extreme for someone to say!! But I will say that boy babies are way easier than girl babies...in my experience at least!! Iam just talking about personalities and not " how much fun one is over the other." My DD is super sensitive and cautious and our DS is completely opposite!

BrittKav · December 2010

Wow, I don't even know what to say to that.

I have a girl and I'm SO excited to be having another. In fact, I'd love it if I only ever had girls!

BeetleLinz1125 · December 2010

lilbit923:
LovingBaz:
lilbit923:

Thank you kindly. I too was up trees, building forts out of blankets, chairs, and the vacuum cleaner. Hot wheels were a must during my play days and I used nearly every encyclopedia on the shelf to build ramps to jump the cars off of.

I did have a pretty pink big wheel and one day my older brother wouldn't get off of it. I told him his turn was up and I wanted to ride it. He ignored me and rode off. I ran after him and told him to get off again...nope he says. Fine by me. I walked around the back of the shed and got the rake...this 6 foot long wooden rake that was rusted on the ends. I held it up and told him to get off of it. He stopped in front of me and dared me to hit him with it. Bad call for older bro. Don't ever pull my punk card. When the rake hit him it only sliced his forehead and nose up a bit. But I got my big wheel back and he ran off crying. Then I rode to the other side of the yard for my tea party.

BWAHAHHHAHA!! My brother still talks about the day he bugged me till I kicked him in the face and split is lip. My dad told him he had it coming. I only liked barbies for cutting their hair off...I was always mad she didn't fit in the GI joe outfits.

HA!!! ROFL! Love it! My older bro and I don't really get along. Since then I've always felt the need to prove that I can do anything he can do regardless of my gender. Of course in college he told me what a waste of time it was for me to join the police academy because, well, I was a girl and girls can't make it through the academy like men can. So I went through the same academy he did and requested that my scores be compared to his. I beat him at everything he attempted. I made Class Captain, he didn't. I graduated with honors, he didn't. I graduated with the PT Award, PT commendation and Academic Commendation, he didn't. At graduation I requested that he be the one to give me my certificate. We're both cops and he's always been ticked that I made rank sooner than he did and I was hired into positions that made more than he did. *sigh* Sucks being beat by a girl doesn't it bro?

Wow those are great accomplishments! Props to you for all of your hard work that got you where you are. That is so amazing to do, let alone with all of the challenges of being a woman in a man's world and doing it!

OP-like PP's said, looks like you know who won't be babysitting lol. And this is why people who have never been pregnant/had kids shouldn't give opinions. Hopefully she will wise up before she spawns, sounds like she has a lot of growing up/maturing to do!

BeetleLinz1125 · December 2010

lilbit923:
LovingBaz:
lilbit923:

Thank you kindly. I too was up trees, building forts out of blankets, chairs, and the vacuum cleaner. Hot wheels were a must during my play days and I used nearly every encyclopedia on the shelf to build ramps to jump the cars off of.

I did have a pretty pink big wheel and one day my older brother wouldn't get off of it. I told him his turn was up and I wanted to ride it. He ignored me and rode off. I ran after him and told him to get off again...nope he says. Fine by me. I walked around the back of the shed and got the rake...this 6 foot long wooden rake that was rusted on the ends. I held it up and told him to get off of it. He stopped in front of me and dared me to hit him with it. Bad call for older bro. Don't ever pull my punk card. When the rake hit him it only sliced his forehead and nose up a bit. But I got my big wheel back and he ran off crying. Then I rode to the other side of the yard for my tea party.

BWAHAHHHAHA!! My brother still talks about the day he bugged me till I kicked him in the face and split is lip. My dad told him he had it coming. I only liked barbies for cutting their hair off...I was always mad she didn't fit in the GI joe outfits.

HA!!! ROFL! Love it! My older bro and I don't really get along. Since then I've always felt the need to prove that I can do anything he can do regardless of my gender. Of course in college he told me what a waste of time it was for me to join the police academy because, well, I was a girl and girls can't make it through the academy like men can. So I went through the same academy he did and requested that my scores be compared to his. I beat him at everything he attempted. I made Class Captain, he didn't. I graduated with honors, he didn't. I graduated with the PT Award, PT commendation and Academic Commendation, he didn't. At graduation I requested that he be the one to give me my certificate. We're both cops and he's always been ticked that I made rank sooner than he did and I was hired into positions that made more than he did. *sigh* Sucks being beat by a girl doesn't it bro?

Wow those are great accomplishments! Props to you for all of your hard work that got you where you are. That is so amazing to do, let alone with all of the challenges of being a woman in a man's world and doing it!

OP-like PP's said, looks like you know who won't be babysitting lol. And this is why people who have never been pregnant/had kids shouldn't give opinions. Hopefully she will wise up before she spawns, sounds like she has a lot of growing up/maturing to do!

Bengalbelle04 · December 2010

well you can't argue with STUPID!!! What an idiot. My DH and I have been trying for years and almost didn't find out b/c we simply didn't care.. we were just excited to be having a baby. I hope she gets 3 girls, triplets at that... Some people just don't have a clue. Seriously though, take that crap with a grain of salt and consider where it's coming from. Rather than let her know she got you going, just say ok, well IMO you shouldn't procreate.. but hey thats just My opinion HAHA...

CutieBean79 · December 2010

So what are you going to say back to her? I wouldn't even know where to start.

CosmoMurphy · December 2010

CutieBean79:
So what are you going to say back to her? I wouldn't even know where to start.

I'm not going to respond. There's no point - she wouldn't "get it" anyway. Plus for the sake of my BIL I don't want to start anything. Ignoring her is my strategy here.

tigerlily71 · December 2010

This has been a very interesting thread to read. I too am having a girl and many people have commented on how girls are so much more difficult than boys. No one has talked to me like that though!

I was a tom-boy too and sometimes I worry (a little bit) that our little girl will be a real girlie-girl that I will have a difficult time relating to. But then I think that love will conquers all and I stop wondering/worrying.

Women rock!

HoolahZinger · December 2010

Holy crap, I didn't know my eyes could get that big! I would have gone ape **** on her if I got a response like that. But, then again, she sounds like a real winner of a mom though, so I guess she knows everything Stick out tongue

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