When to have more..........

090106 · December 2010

My husband and I have B/B twins that will be 1 tomorrow. Twins run in my family and in talking to my cousins who have twins and friends who have twins, 1 year seems to be the point where baby fever started kicking in. Well it's sure kicked in for me........

Just wanting to get advice from other moms of multiples out there on how far apart your children are spaced? I am wanting to wait until the boys are 2 to start trying again in hopes it won't take me a long time to get pregnant again so hopefully they'd be spaced 3-4 years apart.

Any advice??

OrangeSmoke · December 2010

We had a ton of issues getting pregnant.... and we definitely want more.

So we'll be heading back to the RE in January, hoping for another baby in 2012.

kelliwill · December 2010

Ours just turned 1 as well and I think we are waiting another year before we really consider it. I go back and forth and DH says we are done.....so we will see. GL!

090106 · December 2010

Your girls are adorable!!

ougrad1 · December 2010

Emerson was about 2.5 when the twins came and I think it would have been much easier with about a 4 year difference. That way you only have all three home for a year prior to the oldest kiddos starting school.

It's exceptionally hard to have three under three.

leslie13510 · December 2010

It's such a personal decision, that what's right for one person may be completely wrong for another.

For me personally, the little bit of baby fever that I had from about 6 months to one year, is almost *completely* gone now. Like to the point where I don't know if we'll ever have any more kids.

For one thing, having toddlers that walk, and talk (and talk back!), and throw double the tantrums, and double the potty training that we have coming up, and all of that... TOTALLY different than having two 12 month olds. I really don't think I could handle having another newborn anytime soon, not to mention how difficult it would be to be pregnant right now. And my kids are relatively easy for their age.

Not only that, but I feel like we've come so far that I don't know if I want to do the newborn stage again with another child. The thought of going from having 2 kids that sleep 12-14 hours a night and are becoming very independent, all the back to waking up every 2-3 hours for months and being 110% responsible for every little detail in their day? Scaaaaaaaary!

ardilla · December 2010

leslie13510:
It's such a personal decision, that what's right for one person may be completely wrong for another.

For me personally, the little bit of baby fever that I had from about 6 months to one year, is almost *completely* gone now. Like to the point where I don't know if we'll ever have any more kids.

For one thing, having toddlers that walk, and talk (and talk back!), and throw double the tantrums, and double the potty training that we have coming up, and all of that... TOTALLY different than having two 12 month olds. I really don't think I could handle having another newborn anytime soon, not to mention how difficult it would be to be pregnant right now. And my kids are relatively easy for their age.

Not only that, but I feel like we've come so far that I don't know if I want to do the newborn stage again with another child. The thought of going from having 2 kids that sleep 12-14 hours a night and are becoming very independent, all the back to waking up every 2-3 hours for months and being 110% responsible for every little detail in their day? Scaaaaaaaary!

These bolded parts exactly. I'd love one more, but I don't think I could handle it plus my two already. Throw in what a ridiculously problematic pregnancy I had....and that means my LOs may not get any more siblings.

MNheidi · December 2010

My boys had just turned 1 when I surprisingly found out I was pg w/ Tessa. They're 21mos apart. I think you'll hear pros/cons on all fronts but I'm soooo happy that diapers/sippy cups and all that will be out of my house sooner. AND, she's young enough that the boys are starting to play w/ her. If there was a larger span, she'd be left out.

my .02

shipoopiisforme · December 2010

leslie13510:
It's such a personal decision, that what's right for one person may be completely wrong for another.
For me personally, the little bit of baby fever that I had from about 6 months to one year, is almost *completely* gone now. Like to the point where I don't know if we'll ever have any more kids.
For one thing, having toddlers that walk, and talk (and talk back!), and throw double the tantrums, and double the potty training that we have coming up, and all of that... TOTALLY different than having two 12 month olds. I really don't think I could handle having another newborn anytime soon, not to mention how difficult it would be to be pregnant right now. And my kids are relatively easy for their age.
Not only that, but I feel like we've come so far that I don't know if I want to do the newborn stage again with another child. The thought of going from having 2 kids that sleep 12-14 hours a night and are becoming very independent, all the back to waking up every 2-3 hours for months and being 110% responsible for every little detail in their day? Scaaaaaaaary!

i have had serious baby fever lately so thank you for bringing me back down to planet earth.

unfortunately because of how complicated my pregnancy was i don't think any more biological children are in the picture for us but we plan on adopting some time after the beans turn 2.

shegak · December 2010

I started getting the "fever" when my twins turned 3. We were hoping for a 4 year age difference b/w the twins and another baby, but with all we went through to get PG again, there will be a 5.5 year age difference between our 2 sets of twins. I'm actually liking the idea of that much time though, because my older twins are so excited to be a big bro/sis and are going to be really helpful when their twin baby brothers are born.

luvmagoldn · December 2010

I actually had the fever when the twins were about four months old. I would mention having more and my DH wouldn't talk about it! I was a little worried when I was PG spontaneously (the twins were IVF) and the twins were only 18 months old. But we knew we were open to having more at some point and were thrilled after all we went through to conceive the twins. DH was on board from the moment I showed him the pregnancy test!

I won't lie, it was tough having two two year olds and a newborn. But like everything else baby related, you weather the storm and everything is fine in the end.

Some people like having their kids close in age, others like them spaced years a part. I only know the way it worked out for us. And I think you will be fine however it works out for you.

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