mom sent me an email meant for grandma

vlagrl29 · December 2010

it was at 6am and i guess she was not totally awake yet. there was a comment in there that made me feel so abnormal. last night my mom and girlfriend went to dinner to plan my baby shower and that night i was having friends over for late xmas party. i craved chinese and since she was over there near the restaurant i had her pick it up cause i was trying to clean up the house.

in the email she sent my grandma that was sent to me by accident she mentioned this and then said ""personally this whole eating thing is getting old"". but then she put haha after it. i was thinking "How do you think i feel" so irritated cause i can't help i'm hungry and have to eat 6 meals a day and been that way since day 1 of pregnancy, it was like an off and on switch, one day i was fine eating normally then the next day i thought it was odd i was hungry only a few hours after dinner and had to eat again. and i've talked to doctors about it, last one thought maybe it is heartburn and told me to take mylanta before eating and that may solve it, well its not heartburn obvioiusly. i've talked to other people that were pregnant and none of them had to eat as much as me. i'm eating healthy most of the time and eat filling foods but it just digests really fast on me. i was sent to a nutritionist and one of them thought it was normal but the other one had never heard of someone going thru food that much cause they have to.....and its not like i want to, i actually get sick if i don't eat. like right now i'm eating oatmeal 2 hours before i want to get up because i'm hungry and then i will go back to bed to get more sleep because i never have to be up that early. i wake up in middle of night and have to eat crackers just to satisfy it and go back to bed. It gets old for me too, i'm the one who had to schedule my plans and day around my eating schedule and i'm hoping it goes away after the baby is born just like it came on when she was concieved cause if not the nutritionist says maybe i have a problem digesting food too fast and need to see a GI doctor.

thanks for letting me vent, i know it just one little comment but i'm really sensitive these days about it.

pixieprincss · December 2010

I didn't make it through all of that, but I got the gist of it. Here's the thing-it is getting old, right? You say so yourself. Her comment may read like a dig if you are feeling sensitive, but you being fed up with this issue, too, is what the rest of your post is about. Even moms are allowed to get frustrated. In the land of frustration, this is a reasonable thing to get frustrated about and she didn't say anything that was untrue or unkind. What she is frustrated about is the same thing you are. If you have concern, please do see a doctor. Get a second opinion if needed. My OB didn't think my reflux was anything abnormal. I ended up consulting my PCP on what I thought was an unrelated issue and it all ended up tying to a GERD diagnosis. We got me on ample meds and I feel a tons better. The reflux was actually damaging my body. I wish I would've looked into things more, sooner. Hang in there. talk to your doc, and don't let this one little comment get you too down. Now the door is open for you to talk to you mom and get things out in the open, if desired.

vlagrl29 · December 2010

that's true, my OB doesn't seem to think its abnormal. she tested me for thyroid and diabetes both were negative and were ok. the other doc mentioned taking mylanta which i have been , but i don't think its heartburn. i mentioned that maybe i have an ulcer or something but there is nothing they can do now that i'm pregnant to figure that out cause they would have to put you under to see those things, so i would have to wait till i'm not pregnant to get testing. some people think its normal while others think "every pregnancy is different"

AimeeL85 · December 2010

Did you respond to the e-mail?

YouandMe912 · December 2010

I really think you need to get over this food issue. You post something about it daily. I understand you're hurt by your mom's words but I don't think she was being malicious.

If your doctor isn't concerned then you shouldn't be. If you really are so concerned, stop eating so much. Eat other things that fill you up better, or see a therapist about it.

vlagrl29 · December 2010

i did not and i don't post about it daily, i rarely post here at all. i think it was the fact that the last doctor i saw kinda made me feel bad about it bothered me

vlagrl29 · December 2010

oh and DH made me feel bad about it too and that was 2 days ago, this email just added to that feeling.

CutieBean79 · December 2010

Aw, try not to let it get to you. In the meantime, I would be honest and say "My feelings are hurt. This is hard for me."

WannaBeCrunchyMama · December 2010

I think it's normal to be that hungry.

If you aren't filling up on junk don't worry about it.

I have to wake up once or twice a night a get a snack.

Baby making takes a lot of work!

vlagrl29 · December 2010

thanks ladies. first DH was telling the doc he was concerned about me, made me feel defense and i said i get sick if i don't eat. cause of the weight i've gained he was concerned and the doctor said if you gain more weight you have a harder delivery.....it was just too much for one week

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