Long overdue Holiday vent...

JakesBride07 · December 2010

Here's the short version...

1.) Last Thursday we found out the sexes of the babies and had already planned that if that did happen we'd announce this on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. With the exception of our parents who we'd ended up telling right away, manly because DH has no patience! So I call my mom as we are walking to the car...hang up with her and she decided to Facebook the sexes AND baby names, without even asking me, and tell's my Grandmother knowing that she would be my next call! Then tells me it's all my fault because I should have been very specific and told her what our plans were. (Which I am sure I did, but she is so delusional she doesn't remember. And says I have no reason to be mad.)

Come to find out she later tells me, "Well know you know how it feels to have other people sharing your good news. Remember you didn't tell me you were pregnant, someone else did." (Mind you it was my Grandmother who told her, only for my mom to reply, "Yeah and how would she know...it hasn't even been long enough." <---- This because her and I got in a very heated argument and she said she wanted nothing to do with the babies. And again furthur proof that there really is no moving on and mending this relationship.

2.) I know the real meaning of Christmas is not the gifts, but I am seriously disturbed that MIL and SIL both bought five or six plus size "regular" shirts, all of which are still 3 sizes bigger then what I wear or have ever worn for that reason. This was after they asked if I needed anything and I said no because I have had such a hard time finding maternity clothes that fit comfortably. I am finding that the same size in a different brand doesn't always work, so when they pushed the issue and said give them an idea I said, "A gift card to Motherhood would be ideal." I did get a fabulous pair of Uggz type boots but poor MIL ordered the wrong size and I had to drive 45 minutes to a store to exchange them. And she even said "I am going to order boots for you what size do you need."

Again I realize that's not what the holidays are about, but DH and I go thru the same thing every single year. And every year we both ask that they don't buy us clothes. Our tastes are different and honestly I am a little insulted when you buy me clothes that are WAY to big, especially after I tell you what size. And what's better is they are famous for cutting tags off so things cannot be returned. It wouldn't be as bad if I could exchange the shirts for clothes that fit.

wiscgirl95 · December 2010

Your mom sounds like a peach. Sorry, I would be irritated too. Maybe you can talk with her about her childish reaction and how that's impacting your relationship and potentially the future relationship with your LO's.

As for the bad gift givers, that's annoying but what can you do really? Probably nothing except have low expectations and hopefully one year they'll listen to you.