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3 months was NOT the magical turning point for me. So frustrated
I've complained on here before that my boys have severe reflux and don't eat right. I've had so many people tell me "at 3 months it will get better." Even my pedi told me that. But it's not better. At all. All I can hope for is that at 3 months adjusted it will get better but at this point I have little hope.
My boys still suck at feeding. 1 screams, blood curdling screams the ENTIRE feeding. The other just shuts down and I have to pry his lips open to get a bottle in his mouth, then squeeze the nipple for him to get him to eat. Usually he spits it right back out and I have to literally force it down his throat. This happens almost every feeding. Then of course afterward they cry and spit up. I'm *thisclose* to losing my damn mind. I've tried all BM, all formula, all fancy formula, a mixture of formulas, rice cereal, gas drops, stool softener, prune juice, prevacid, and zantac. None of these things work for more than a few days. So I pretty much cry all day long and count down until the next doctor's appt in the hopes that someone comes up with something that magically works. I'm taking them to a specialist on Jan 14 (can't wait) but I don't even know what else there is to do. I feel like we've tried everything and I'm just stuck here in my own reflux hell. I'm so frustrated and I honestly don't know how much more of this I can handle.
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Re: 3 months was NOT the magical turning point for me. So frustrated
First I'm sorry - that sounds just incredibly difficult. I know when I have a day where the feedings are hard and the naps are hard it's just so stressful. I feel like I'm fighting them to eat and fighting them to sleep and there is little enjoyment. I felt like that for the first 3 or 4 months. DS had reflux and at 4 months he was 17lbs and we let him sleep on his tummy. I know that is against the rules but that was just how he wanted to sleep. Somewhere around that time he also finally seemed to kick the reflux so no more formula through the nose. He seemed to have peak symptoms at 3.5 or 4 months and then it started to subside. One evening I even thought he was having a seizure as the formula backed up into his nasal passages. That was the last episode I remember. Hopefully the specialist can offer you some more assistance because maybe it is something other than reflux? Good luck at your appointment I hope soon you can get some relief or answers.
Hang in there mama.
If it helps, DH was a premmie (yep all those years ago) and had severe reflux. MIL to this day still talks about what a nightmare it was feeding him. She would tell me that for months her house smelled like "Puke and Bleach". Puke from his projectile vomiting and bleach from her trying to cover up the vomit smell. I'm not sure if this is any comfort, but she said it all went away once he can sit up on his own at 6 months. My Harry has reflux too, but not nearly as bad as his daddy's (or your babies')
HUGS.
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Hang in there, I know it's tough. Hopefully the specialist will be able to give you a better solution.
For us it did get better around 3 months, *but* that's because we finally found the right medication combo that worked for her. Prevacid and Reglan. Miracle drugs for DD, but only when used together. Her pedi GI said that usually if reflux was going to naturally get better on its own, it wouldn't do so until around 6 months or later, because that's when they start sitting up a lot more, and eating solids. I've never heard that it naturally gets better at 3 months.
That sounds horrible, I'm so sorry to hear that. Our girls have reflux ( though not as bad as yours, but we have had to dial 999 twice now because of it ).
One of our girls, Katie - screams through a feeding and fights you off when we first start - we have infant gaviscon in her bottles which helps a lot - we find the "bait and switch" method is the only way to feed her - put her pacifier in, which she loves, let her calm down and suck on it and then in one quick motion swap the paci for the bottle - she then downs about 3 or 4 ounces - but we can't stop her. If we stop to burp her then we're hooped. We do a thorough burping after, instead.
We also give them water throughout the day to help with the burning sensation when they get hungry later.
Hugs.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Our turning point was also around 5 months. I know how hard it is and I remember crying and feeling like such a failure. I wish I could look back on those first months fondly, but all I can remember is how hard it was and how completely exhausted I was all.the.time. Hang in there and know you will get safely to the other side.
I would call the specialist every morning and see if they have any cancellations. Seriously. Call every morning. You will be the first one they think of if someone cancels. Be a pain & persistant. Getting in sooner may be just what the three of you need. ((((hugs))))
First of all, you are doing an amazing job! I cannot even imagine, only one of ours had reflux (and not as bad as yours) and she had severe gas which was worse than the reflux for us. I kept hearing 3 months too and it didn't get better until about 4-4.5 mos. Before that she would wake up with gas in the middle of the night and scream for up to an hour. Now she is like a completely different baby.
Hang in there!
I have a very similar situation over here with my boys. Have you tried Colic Calm? It is expensive but it works immediately and so well. I found it at my local drug store and LOVE it. Good Luck