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Paternity Papers...
So my sister is a bit of a traditionalist and is FREAKING out about the fact I never changed my last name when I got married. It doesn't bother me to have a different last name then my husband, but my sister is telling me since we have different last names that he'll have to sign paternity papers and this is driving her crazy! I told her I'd just bring my marriage certificate with me, but she said that doesn't matter. Does anyone know the rules about this? I know my other sister's husband had to sign paternity papers but they weren't married when she had their kids so that made sense to me. It's not going to upset me if he has to or not but I'm just wondering if he'll actually have to.
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Re: Paternity Papers...
In Florida at least, he doesn't need paternity papers or anything like that. He needs his driver's license to prove who he is.
You can have the janitor sign the birth certificate, as long as he is willing to keep responsibility for the kid.
Your name isn't important. They put down your maiden name anyway so your last name really isn't a priority. Tell her to take a nap and that everything will be fine. If you want to take your marriage license, fine. But I doubt you'll need it.
They use the maiden name since that never changes, even in a divorce where the woman may change her name back or remarry. I was born in NY and my birth cert has my mom's maiden name, and my kids born in Florida, have my maiden name on their cert.
LOL, but yes, I agree. In Arkansas, if the woman has been in a "committed relationship" for enough time to have conceived the child and the man is willing to sign the birth certificate saying he's the dad, they'll let him do so without a problem. They don't care if you're married or not. As long as there's a man there who says he's the dad, they'll let him sign the birth certificate as your baby daddy. I have a sister like this, too - she freaked when I didn't drop my maiden name (I kept mine and added DH's without a hyphen). Don't worry about it!
I don't plan on changing my last name, and if I do it'll be a long way down the road. But like I said I'm not really worried about it I just wanted to know if she was right or not.
Maybe she doesn't want to change it?
Haha I really don't! Idk why I'm just very attached to my name...
I don't blame you - I did tack on DH's LN to mine, although we talked about him taking mine. The only reason I took it was because I didn't want our kids to have different LN's than either one of us, but that is most definitely doable as well. I so like my maiden name more.
Oh, sorry I guess I read your OP as you just hadn't gotten around to changing your last name:) Disregard my previous response.
Hey Papagena. For the last 7 months I have seen this on the side of the page.
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But you show like 30K posts. Kind of time for the bump to update, huh?
That ---> post count is per day - although yes, it is most definitely time for them to update. I'm pretty sure I no longer belong over there.
Ditto this, as well. DH was not asked any info for the BC - they just asked me who the father was, despite the fact that he was sitting in the room holding his son. I kind of got a kick out of that one.
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With my first I hadn't changed my last name yet, and my husband didn't have to sign paternity papers. I live in CA.
As long as you're married it shouldn't matter.
Here because we are not married, my BF will have to sign a waver, waving his right to a paternity test and thus acknowledging that he is the father. It's no big deal though it's just an extra piece of paper.
I would think all your hospital paperwork says you are married and if you need to bring the paper then bring it but really they don't ask too many questions when someone is willingly there signing papers.
It seems like a pain to change your name but it is actually not too bad when you have all the papers you need. I was married 10 years and changed my name 1 month before I filed for divorce LMAO oh the irony.
Same in VA. I know from experience with my niece's crazy mother. She had a second child with another guy (my bother and her are no longer together YAY) and he wasn't even there and she was allowed to put his name down as the father on the birth certificate.
I feel kinda lucky actually - DH and I already had the same last name when we got married (EXTREMELY common name) so no name changes for me.
Funny thing is 1) Neither of us were born with the last name, I had Mom's maiden name, he had his Step-Dad's name 2) At 18 I actually considered having my name legally changed to my step-dad's name since he raised me, the only reason I didn't was b/c I figured it would be changed a few years down the road when I got married anyways.... Go figure.