Insensitive Xmas comments...ugh

Ginger71 · December 2010

1st of all, as soon as we walked into DH's aunt's house, the other Aunt (who no one really talks to) exclaimed"Oh, your brother is going to be a Dad, I hear". No $hit....do you think we didn't know?

Then, while we were in the middle of a convo about DH's aunt being left out of her father's will (his childless 2nd wife gets everything) she proceeds to tell us that "people who don't have children are different. They are very selfish and not like the rest of us". I lost my $hit....I told her that sometimes, people can't have children and you shouldn't make judgements. I also told her about my losses(but not about IVF) and that her comments offended me. Apparently, she was not informed about what DH and I have been through like the rest of the family becasue they don't really like her or talk to her very much. The other Aunt turned red when she was going off and completely defended what I was saying. I am sure they think I am psycho now but I don't care. Being childless at Xmas is so sad.

jamielynnohio · December 2010

Sorry things went "there". Ugh, good for you for standing up to her! U go girl. Hugs to you, hoping next Christmas is diff for lots of us!!

Edwina.McDunnough · December 2010

Big big hugs GInger.

gervaisj6 · December 2010

I understand- I have gotten to the point- when some one says something- I will shut them down immediately...Just like what you did...make them think twice before they pipe up about something they have NO clue about...I am getting to the point- like when old people start saying all their medical problems, when some says "hey how are you doin' " I just want to be like that and start rattling off stuff that DH and I are going through... I would have done the same as you- : )

theworms · December 2010

it sucks cutie

((HUGS))

i'm glad you said something, what a stupid comment

JM1977 · December 2010

Oh, that is terrible! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. People are idiots. I'm glad you stood up for yourself (and the rest of us!).

Amie8301 · December 2010

Good grief, what was she thinking?! I don't get people who make comments like that, you really have no idea what others around you have been/are going through!

Sorry you had to deal with that, but glad you said something to her. Hopefully, she will do better at thinking before speaking in the future!

vanessagorc · December 2010

Ugh! Im so sorry....WTF is wrong w some people ((hugs)).

patchen30 · December 2010

Oh sweetie I just want to give you a big hug. I'm so sorry your DH's aunt was such an insensitive piece of sh*t! Good for you for setting her straight.

Your Christmas this year may have been sad b/c you were without kids, but it WON'T be like that forever. You just have to get through it.

((Hugs))

babylove0511 · December 2010

((HUGS)) stupid comment

sunshine610 · December 2010

I am so sorry you had to go through that, as if the holiday alone wasn't enough. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Some people are just unbelievable.

sassy1 · December 2010

I hear ya. I was at a holiday gathering & an acquaintance of mine (who doesn't know about our situation) started spouting off about a relative of his who had triplets because she got pregnant "chemically" & "not the natural way" & referred to them as a "litter".

I know he never would've said that if he knew we were starting IVF but you still should never make assumptions about the people you're talking to!

beantownbride25 · December 2010

So sorry! I had to deal with it too, "we were expecting an annoucement from you." Umm nope. And someone asking if we were trying. When I said it will happen when it happens. She then suggested ovulation kits because " that's what helped her" conceive her little boy. Fun times. I left Christmas in tears!

(((HUGS))) People stink!

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