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Team Green Wavering. . .

Melissa17Melissa17
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With our first we didn't find out, we were surprised.  Our inital thought with our second was to not find out and be surprised. 

As things have been progressing- yes I am only 13 weeks- I have been thinking of finding out.  My husband is open. 

My reasons are pretty sad, if its another girl we just go through our clothes and we are set.  If its a boy, we pick up stuff along the way and I can sell my girl stuff.

Ugh.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.  Oh, we had our NT scan yesterday and so I think being able to see the baby has moved me into finding out.  Scan looked good :)

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Re: Team Green Wavering. . .

  • PinkBackPackPinkBackPack
    I went into my big u/s team green and came out team pink.  So you have plenty of time to decide.  Most of my family was disappointed that we found out, but it's not their decision.
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  • Emilicious88Emilicious88 member
    Funny, most of our family is upset that we're NOT finding out. DH likes to go with the excuse "There aren't many surprises in life" (seriously...where has he been that he got THAT in his head?). I just think it's better in the long run so we don't get stuck with a lot of gender-specific items. But it has been kind of fun to guess at the gender. And I can't wait for delivery when the Dr. will say "It's a ____" like in old movies and stuff, and you just get overwhelmed because you had no idea what it was and it is just really exciting. I say stay team green! Get a few gender neutral onesies, and call it a day!
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  • doremi29doremi29 member

    When we get pregnant with our next, we will be team green.  I wasn't with my first and I'm soooo glad that I knew the first time around.  Next time, though, I just feel like it really won't matter to me either way and though it's a great surprise regardless of when you find out, I just want the other perspective next time.  I plan to go through all DS's clothes and take out the very few gender neutral clothes we have.  I'll have all the rest ready to sell if we have a girl and use that money to buy her new clothes.  If we have another boy, then we're all set!

    I think the first time, I was just so overwhelmed with the birth, finding out at that point wouldn't have been as fun and exciting as with my next- I feel like I'll be more calm next time around and be able to enjoy the anticipation.

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  • HaleuiHaleui
    We are Team Green and the night before our big ultrasound, I was having major doubts. I decided to go into the ultrasound and make my decision there. Funny thing is, I saw the baby on the screen, watched as they measured the baby and saw the baby was healthy, and I didn't care if it was a boy or girl. The thought of finding out never even popped into my head. We also have a ton of support from friends and family about not finding out. Its been so much fun thus far!
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  • Amarie13Amarie13

    So funny that you say that. I actually had a day of wavering for the same reasons... BUT, we just set up our big us and I stuck to my guns... we are going with surprise. I just cannot imagine knowing. I LOVED the surprise the day DD was born and really cannot imagine it any other way.

    Whatever you decide it's going to be a surprise and you will be happy with your decision :) You have some time to think about it... good luck!!

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  • massdreamsmassdreams member

    We were team green with DS, but found out with the 2nd one (boy). At first I wasn't sure if we would, but this pregnancy has been harder and I've been more tired and stressed with juggling things than first time around. For some reason I just felt like I would feel more connected with the baby if I knew, and I'm glad we found out. We were also having a really hard time with name options, and it helped to narrow down half the list so we can just focus on boy names.

    I think I initially felt pressure to stay team green since I did last time around, and I loved the experience and if people were on the fence I always recommended they wait since it's a great moment. But you have to do what you feel is right for you and the pregnancy. For me, I needed to know to make it through the last 20 weeks :)

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  • Kdonn15Kdonn15
    I don't really get why people make a big deal about whether you find out the baby's gender before birth or not.  Personally, I think it's more fun when people I know are pregnant and don't know what they're having....it's the extra thrill on delivery day.  We didn't find out with our first pregnancy what we were having and will not find out with this pregnancy....I want to treat my children and pregnancies the same from the very beginning.
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