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Ready to give up

ginogomermisserginogomermisser member
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Ok ladies, so I'm so ready to give up this whole IF testing thing. I dont think I can handle the stress between Dh and I. Got AF two days before Christmas and was extremely upset. He said he was sorry and we would keep trying. Since then, nothing. Not a "how are you, are you ok". I'm so tired of seeing babies everywhere and Dh constantly saying whats wrong? Tired of seeing his kids pictures of him after they were born on our bookcase(which by the way was a fathers day gift this year from his kids that his ex bought), tired of seeing his interactions with his kids. I think I'm ready to close this IF chapter in my life and learn to accept no biological kids. WDYT???   
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    Don't give up. With God, all things are possible! I remember feeling similarly, although I didn't have to do IF, I can relate on other levels. I was able to conceive after I stopped stressing and relaxed. However, now I've been diagnosed with PCOS and feel those same feaars creeping up again. I will be praying for you. Good luck and God Bless.
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    Don't give up. With God, all things are possible! I remember feeling similarly, although I didn't have to do IF, I can relate on other levels. I was able to conceive after I stopped stressing and relaxed. However, now I've been diagnosed with PCOS and feel those same feaars creeping up again. I will be praying for you. Good luck and God Bless.

    I am hoping that you meant this very sincerely.

    But please know that what you have said is very, very offensive to most ladies dealing with infertility.

    I am a firm believer in God - and have a very strong faith.  But, your comment that "with God, all things are possible" is not what someone in the thick of IF needs or wants to hear.

    Reality is, not every woman dealing with IF will conceive a biological child.  Your statement implies that God is not with them.  And that is total crap. 

    Also, I'm not going to even get started on the whole "I relaxed and got pregnant" topic.  Because relaxing will all of the sudden make my ovaries grow eggs.  And relaxing will allow my husband?s sperm to penetrate those eggs that will magically appear without the need of ICSI.  And relaxing will cause my body to not kill off the babies that try so hard to stick around...

    I think you need a bit more perspective and tact before you spew out things like this.  I hate that your comment has offended multiple ladies on this board.

     

     

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    imagenamechange2007:
    Don't give up. With God, all things are possible! I remember feeling similarly, although I didn't have to do IF, I can relate on other levels. I was able to conceive after I stopped stressing and relaxed. However, now I've been diagnosed with PCOS and feel those same feaars creeping up again. I will be praying for you. Good luck and God Bless.

    I am hoping that you meant this very sincerely.

    But please know that what you have said is very, very offensive to most ladies dealing with infertility.

    I am a firm believer in God - and have a very strong faith.  But, your comment that "with God, all things are possible" is not what someone in the thick of IF needs or wants to hear.

    Reality is, not every woman dealing with IF will conceive a biological child.  Your statement implies that God is not with them.  And that is total crap. 

    Also, I'm not going to even get started on the whole "I relaxed and got pregnant" topic.  Because relaxing will all of the sudden make my ovaries grow eggs.  And relaxing will allow my husband?s sperm to penetrate those eggs that will magically appear without the need of ICSI.  And relaxing will cause my body to not kill off the babies that try so hard to stick around...

    I think you need a bit more perspective and tact before you spew out things like this.  I hate that your comment has offended multiple ladies on this board.

     

     

    Yes

    to the original poster, I am sorry that you are going through all of this.  I think it is important for you and DH to sit down and have a heart to heart about everything and let him know about your feelings.  Good luck

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    imagenamechange2007:
    Don't give up. With God, all things are possible! I remember feeling similarly, although I didn't have to do IF, I can relate on other levels. I was able to conceive after I stopped stressing and relaxed. However, now I've been diagnosed with PCOS and feel those same feaars creeping up again. I will be praying for you. Good luck and God Bless.

    I am hoping that you meant this very sincerely.

    But please know that what you have said is very, very offensive to most ladies dealing with infertility.

    I am a firm believer in God - and have a very strong faith.  But, your comment that "with God, all things are possible" is not what someone in the thick of IF needs or wants to hear.

    Reality is, not every woman dealing with IF will conceive a biological child.  Your statement implies that God is not with them.  And that is total crap. 

    Also, I'm not going to even get started on the whole "I relaxed and got pregnant" topic.  Because relaxing will all of the sudden make my ovaries grow eggs.  And relaxing will allow my husband?s sperm to penetrate those eggs that will magically appear without the need of ICSI.  And relaxing will cause my body to not kill off the babies that try so hard to stick around...

    I think you need a bit more perspective and tact before you spew out things like this.  I hate that your comment has offended multiple ladies on this board.

     

     

    THIS!!!!! 

    Thanks, L! 

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  • kodonnell_mcckodonnell_mcc

    Well said! Nothing is worse than having someone who does not have IF telling you that you just need to relax and not think about it. I am sure she meant well, but those statments are the worst to hear.

     

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  • ginogomermisserginogomermisser member

    Thanks everyone for your support. I have told my DH before that he doesnt understand because he has 2 bio kids already and he responds that "its unfair to say that and he would love nothing more than to have a child with me". In all honesty, he got to experience two childbirths and experience the joy of having his children grow up and hold them as babies. Its just not fair :(

    Thanks alot for all your comments and good luck to you all.

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    Honestly, I was being very sincere and was not trying to offend anyone. I apologize for any ill feelings my statement may have caused. I also resent the fact that one would imply that I am implying that God isn't with someone having infertility issues.  Again, that wasn't the intent. What was meant is simply what is said in the scripture,

    Matthew 19:26 (New International Version, ?2010)

     26 Jesus looked at them and said, ?With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.? 

    In hopes of encouraging the original poster that God can do anything. I thought that the purpose of the board was to share information, uplift, encourage one another, not rake each other over the coals. As as far as the the "someone who does not have IF..." statement, I never said to relax and not think about it. Stress takes its toll on the body and it isn't good to stress although we ALL do over various situations. I may not know IF in the same way some of you ladies do, but I do know what it is like to lose a child.

    I came to this board because I am suffering from PCOS. Again, I sincerely apologize.

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