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BurnNurse · December 2010

What will you do different next time around?

My first thing will be a VBAC (I'm going to try my hardest at least) and knowing what I know now, demand more support and troubleshooting with breastfeeding. Also, when kiddo comes home, they will be wearing cloth diapers and swaddled.

Of course, this one has taught me the best laid plans often fall through (I always said he'd never sleep with me...ha!)

mopsie · December 2010

BurnNurse:
What will you do different next time around?

My first thing will be a VBAC (I'm going to try my hardest at least) and knowing what I know now, demand more support and troubleshooting with breastfeeding. Also, when kiddo comes home, they will be wearing cloth diapers and swaddled.

Of course, this one has taught me the best laid plans often fall through (I always said he'd never sleep with me...ha!)

I'd have a lot more sex during pregnancy to take advantage of the hormones... we've had sex twice since DD was born. Poor DH!

I'd also wear maternity shirts and flaunt the belly earlier... I hid it for too long!

sourpatchkids · December 2010

I want to EBF for a year, not 4 months. My supply was sucky and I now wish I would have put up much more of an effort to change that before quitting all together.

seells · December 2010

I want to have a VBAC and breastfeed for a year, not just 3 months.

Molly Jean · December 2010

What would I do different?

I will not assume that labor will be quick. My friends (all due within a similar time frame) had relatively quick (under 12 hour) labor experiences. Mine was over 30 hours.

I will also learn to BREATHE and relax. Everytime DS would cry the first month I would worry and stress myself/DH out. "Something has to be wrong, right?!" Turns out that is just how babies are... gee, who'd a thunk it

And lastly, I'll enjoy my pregnancy more. I really did have a cake-walk pregnancy... so if I'm blessed with that again I will certainly just enjoy every moment (as opposed to biitching about my enormous cankles).

MNgirl326 · December 2010

sourpatchkids:
I want to EBF for a year, not 4 months. My supply was sucky and I now wish I would have put up much more of an effort to change that before quitting all together.

I really want to EBF longer as well. I learned so much on BFing, but unfortunately a lot of it was a little to late. Next time I am going to do what I need to do right off the bat and hopefully will not be behind the eight ball.

I am also not going to be afraid of what people think when LO is crying in public. i was so terrified of LO having meltdowns and getting nasty looks from people that I never really went anywhere for the first few months.

rlscheck · December 2010

Get my husband to be more assertive as my birthing coach. I planned for a natural birth, but folded pretty quickly after getting to the hospital. He just said "Whatever you want honey". Now that's not necessarily a bad thing, I just wish he would've pushed me more to say "no" to the epi. (Didn't end up with one anyways, but still). Plus I think I would've benefited from a different laboring position that I wish he would've suggested because I just couldn't think at that point.

Start baby out in the crib for sleeping in a different room from Day 1. DD slept in her swing in our living room because I was so paranoid about her breathing that I got NO sleep in the first few months unless someone else was watching her and also now at 6 months we cannot get her to sleep in her crib. I have no idea what we will do when she grows out of her swing.

Mrs.T22308 · December 2010

I will not be working FT. I've missed out on WAY too much between my FT job and my business... so the FT job has got to go before we start working on #2

BurnNurse · December 2010

rlscheck:
Get my husband to be more assertive as my birthing coach. I planned for a natural birth, but folded pretty quickly after getting to the hospital. He just said "Whatever you want honey". Now that's not necessarily a bad thing, I just wish he would've pushed me more to say "no" to the epi. (Didn't end up with one anyways, but still). Plus I think I would've benefited from a different laboring position that I wish he would've suggested because I just couldn't think at that point.
Start baby out in the crib for sleeping in a different room from Day 1. DD slept in her swing in our living room because I was so paranoid about her breathing that I got NO sleep in the first few months unless someone else was watching her and also now at 6 months we cannot get her to sleep in her crib. I have no idea what we will do when she grows out of her swing.

oooo I forgot to add that too! As much as I like bedsharing, I'm going to have the next one sleep in their crib from day 1.

MNgirl326 · December 2010

I will also not feel bad about taking clothes back if they are either not my taste, or the wrong size.
There are so many things that LO only wore once, if at all, that i could have exchanged for bigger sizes or styles but didn't.

I have learned people give gift receipts for a reason, so I am next time I plan on using them!

nperez489 · December 2010

I definately want to go for a VBAC. I was devestated after having to have a c-secton. A big fear of mine though is going for a VBAC and things not working out the second time around and having to have a c-section. I won't be afraid to tell visitors what I need from them to. I lost to much sleep this time with so many unwanted visitors just lingering around and hogging LO!

poolrat00 · December 2010

(jumping over early I guess since I've posted here twice today...)

I will not eat just because I can. I will also remember that I have a wheat sensitivity when not pregnant, so I won't eat wheat while I am because it is a pain in the bum to go back to a wheat free life.

I also won't buy any Gerber Onsies and will walk much more often to stay in the routine.

afwife08 · December 2010

sourpatchkids:
I want to EBF for a year, not 4 months. My supply was sucky and I now wish I would have put up much more of an effort to change that before quitting all together.

I totally agree with this. I had supply issues and we switched over at a little over 4 months. I know 4 months is nothing to sneeze at, but I would like to try for longer next time.

kaylakaylakayla · December 2010

I'll definitely have the next baby in cloth diapers by day 1.

I had a perfect pregnancy and labor&delivery, so definitely hoping for a similar experience in that aspect.

I hope I'm just calmer overall. I was hysterical the first month he was here, felt like I was doing everything wrong etc.

I'll also make sure DH has more than 3 days off work when he/she is born.

MRosie · December 2010

poolrat00:
(jumping over early I guess since I've posted here twice today...)
I will not eat just because I can. I will also remember that I have a wheat sensitivity when not pregnant, so I won't eat wheat while I am because it is a pain in the bum to go back to a wheat free life.
I also won't buy any Gerber Onsies and will walk much more often to stay in the routine.

LOL, this to a T!

I will remember I have a wheat sensitivity, that I cannot just eat what I want and that Gerber onesies only fit like the first time LO wears them and never again afterwards

MRosie · December 2010

And...

I will post on The Bump more often so I am out of the "newbie" status sooner! I will also take the time to get pics on my posts

doremi29 · December 2010

- I will take the first 6 months off

- I will pump right from day 1 to try to boost my supply. I remember reading you shouldn't because you can cause "oversupply".....I would've prefered over to under!

- I will have LO sleeping in their crib from day 1 at night and buy a RNP this time for napping

laurieb602 · December 2010

I will be in better shape before getting pregnant and will have the next baby at a birthing center if possible. I'd also really love to go into labor on my own. I was induced at 42 weeks with DD and induced at 39 weeks with DS due to HBP and low fluid. The nurse doubled my pitocin causing excruiating contractions and they wouldn't let me use my birth ball because my BP would spike, so I was made to lay on my left side where I just couldn't get a handle on contractions. I would also love the dr to show up, lol. I pushed once and he was ready and no one could find the dr! They tried to make me hold!

missjade21 · December 2010

I will try to exercise more during pregnancy in order to avoid gaining a ridiculous amount of weight.

I will deliver at a birthing center instead of a hospital. I had a wonderful intervention-free delivery at a hospital, but that's only because I showed up at 9 cms because I was so afraid that if I went in too soon they would push interventions on me!

I will work on getting LO on somewhat of a routine from the beginning. I honestly thought she would settle into one on her on and she still hasn't and sleep is a real struggle. I'm not a strict schedule person, but I think a routine would have been a good idea...

AND I will not listen to other people and will listen to my instincts. LO is my baby, not there's.

AllieBelle1 · December 2010

I also really want a VBAC. I had a horrible experience after my emergency c-section, which looking back, I now think could have been avoided if I insisted they wait one or two minutes. However, honestly, I'm scared of whichever method a new baby would use to come into the world.

I would accept more help that was offered.

I would use more of those sleeping gowns. I only had two but they made nighttime diaper changes so much easier.

JulesDiane · December 2010

I am surprised by the number of people who said they would start their LOs in their cribs from day 1. I definitely wouldn't. We had LO in the cosleeper for the first 3 or 4 months, and it worked out great (especially for my paranoia and for breastfeeding). We also did not have much trouble with the transition to the crib.

Next time around I hope to be more relaxed about everything, and hopefully breastfeeding will be less stressful. I will also know that if I do have extreme pain again when breastfeeding that it is NOT normal and I will try to do something about it instead of trying to clinch my teeth through it.

Also, I will hopefully nap when both LOs are napping. I am sure I will need it!

LJR 84 · December 2010

I'll definitely put more effort into breastfeeding. DD wouldn't latch, but I was way too quick to EP. (I pumped for about 2 months before switching to formula).

I'll also be more quick to ask for help. I tried to do EVERYTHING with DD at first, which wasn't easy recovering from a c/s. My mom helped a lot during the day, but I was the only one getting up at night for the first two months.

mindie1388 · December 2010

I would try to breast feed longer than I did. Charlie had a high palate and I had supply issues. I think the supply issues could have been remedied by feeding or pumping more frequently at the beginning.

I don't really have anything else that I would change...the short breast feeding time was the one big downer.

doremi29 · December 2010

JulesDiane:

I am surprised by the number of people who said they would start their LOs in their cribs from day 1. I definitely wouldn't. We had LO in the cosleeper for the first 3 or 4 months, and it worked out great (especially for my paranoia and for breastfeeding). We also did not have much trouble with the transition to the crib.

Next time around I hope to be more relaxed about everything, and hopefully breastfeeding will be less stressful. I will also know that if I do have extreme pain again when breastfeeding that it is NOT normal and I will try to do something about it instead of trying to clinch my teeth through it.

Also, I will hopefully nap when both LOs are napping. I am sure I will need it!

The main reason that we would put our next LO in the crib right away is that he's a noisy sleeper and I'm a light sleeper, so even when he'd be sleeping, I'd be awake. It only made for less sleep for me.

Also wanted to say I LOVE your daughters name!

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