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hopefulinCO
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Too much Pressure.....
hopefulinCO
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I normally lurk, but I thought I'd post today, as this is bothering me. How many of you feel/felt a lot of stress/pressure TTC? My husband's got himself worked up into a cold sweat the other night as we are getting romantic. He knows how badly I want this (he does as well), but I think he's afraid disappointment if we don't conceive quickly. We talked it out and I told him that I'm very prepared for this to take a year or more....but it's still hard to relax and just go with it. Any tips?
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Re: Too much Pressure.....
Yep, my tip is that that ticker has no idea when you will ovulate. LOL.
Seriously, though, there IS a lot of stress and pressure. We've all experienced that, I'm sure. My only advice is to try to find things to distract you, try not to talk about TTC 24/7, and keep things fun and interesting in the bedroom (i.e. NOT saying/thinking "omg we are trying to concieve a child right now" mid-hump). Good luck!
I know. I need to get busy with fertilityfriend. It's just a matter of figuring the whole charting world out. Thanks for the advice!
I've been worried about my husband feeling pressure too. I have been trying VERY hard not to talk about TTC, and not trying to have sex more often than we normally do, because I don't want him to think that we're having sex JUST to get pregnant. Poor guys, they feel the pressure, too.
I would say, resist the urge to yell, "SWIM! SWIM!" after sex. ;-)
In all seriousnous, I would say to just avoid talking about TTC all the time. I have stopped talking about it for the most part. He wants another baby, so do I, and it'll happen when it happens. Good luck to you!
One thing that helps us relieve the pressure- at least for my DH- is that I don't tell him when I'm O'ing. We have sex all month long, but around O time I will initiate more frequently. He doesn't want to know all the details- not that he just doesn't want to know, but it puts too much pressure on him and makes it feel like a job. So I turn up the anti during O time and he kind of gets the message, but appreciates that I'm not saying "oh, I'm O'ing, we have to have sex today!"
Good luck!