Is it just me? A little pitty party.

court_k · December 2010

I find myself emotional and crying every month on CD1. Of course i'm bummed that AF came and I guess it's just a hormonal time? Am I alone here? Does anyone else cry on CD1 every cycle?

I would love to be able to not get upset every month when AF comes, but it's so hard not to. I try to hold it back when i'm at work (I work for family and don't want them asking questions), I also try to hold it back in front of the husband because if he sees me upset then it just upsets him - and what good is that going to do?

Anyway - just a little pitty party.

spower5 · December 2010

It's hard. it really is. Do you chart? Last cycle's temps prepared me for it so it wasn't a huge shock. Knowing in advance definitely softened the blow.

Good luck and keep your head up!

McKenna81 · December 2010

Awww, sorry chica. Totally feel ya. What I used to do at the beginning of my cycle while TTC DS was to hit the gym, buy something cute to wear, and plan a night of dancing with friends.

michaela080 · December 2010

I definitely get a little sad, but I have only cried once so far. I try to keep perspective because it could be a whole lot longer. It helps me to chart as well, it gives me a sense of control over TTC.

SParkman80 · December 2010

I'm having a pity party today as well. This is my 2nd cycle ttc but I've been off birth control for almost a year. DH has low testosterone and is having hcg shots. I got really sad on CD1 this cycle (Christmas eve) and then today found out one of my good friends is pg. Happy for her but sad for me. So yes, I know how you feel. Go buy yourself something, it sure cheered me up a little! GL to you in 2011!

court_k · December 2010

mrsjhaley:
This is my first cycle so haven't had to deal with that just yet but actually got bummed today just at the thought of it. Just try to stay positive I guess. Do you use FF because those ovulation predictor things(in your signature) are useless and if that is what you are going by then you probably aren't O'ing when you think you are. Good luck and I hope your spirits improve.

I actually don't use fertility friend, but I don't go by the thing in my siggy either. I just thought it was cute!

We've just been using the EOD method from days 9-21 of my cycle. I think I will pick up a box of OPKs to use for this cycle though.

Good Luck to you!

laurenlovesjared · December 2010

Both DH and I get bummed out but we do not allow ourselves to spend too much time in those thoughts. We have a good life, we love each other deeply and are blessed with jobs and a home. I know I show my feelings more i.e. crying but we work really hard to stay upbeat. Also, after seeing my doctor and getting my thyroid stuff figured out (meaning I am now taking medication) my moods have been more level. I get upset but not the sobbing crying I used to do. It gets easier to deal over time not any less sad really just easier to let it go and move foward. There have been other posts about this and I have seen a lot of ladies give great advice. They try and look at CD1 as a new begining trying new things this month do something special. Good luck!

Countrygirl36 · December 2010

I think it's normal to get little bummed after each failed month. Really the only time I cried there was a whole lot more going on that just CD1.

I just trust that it will happen when it happens, it's not worth getting really emotional every single month. Also I agree wih Michaela, charting definitly helps me feel more in control.

Babybear70 · December 2010

My first few cycles of TTC were very emotional too. I remember having to leave the office for a few minutes to cry when I started to spot the first month. I ate some chocolate, flumped around the house that night, came up with a new game plan for the next month and started again.

CD1 means that you are usually only a short time away from being able to make a miracle again! I tell myself when CD1 comes around for me that very rarely in this life do you get a second chance to do anything, let alone something as important as this! Keep your chin up....we will all get through this! I know we will!!!

blackbird01 · December 2010

For me, it got harder as the months went on. I don't think I actually cried over CD1 (or when it became clear that AF was coming) until month 7 or 8. I was prepared for it to take at least a few months this time around, but now we're on month 11. Since I try to limit caffeine and don't drink alcohol during the 2WW, I try to give myself "rewards" of coffee and cocktails on CD1 or CD2. It helps take the sting out a little. It's hard and you just have to find a way to cope and get through the sadness so you can move on and focus on a new cycle.

Also, you mentioned thinking about getting OPKs and I highly recommend that. I didn't start using those until month 3 and I found out I was ovulating later than I thought. I also chart so I can be reassured that I am actually ovulating.

mrsJT091 · December 2010

It is hard. I just made a new rule for myself, each month AF comes, DH has to take me to get sushi. Find something you love that maybe you won't be able to do while KU and it will be a small positive to 'look forward' to.

PDXGal7868 · December 2010

Yes, I cry everytime I get AF.

JustBrauzin · December 2010

It is never easy on CD1..but as previous posters have said, give yourself something on that day that you don't usually...my treat is a VENTI Carmel Macchiato from Starbucks...

It is never exciting to see AF. I truly had one big breakdown when we were TTC# 1...around cycle 10...then things got a bit easier. (It took us 18 cycles for #1, but he happened!)

Summers02 · December 2010

mrsJT09:
It is hard. I just made a new rule for myself, each month AF comes, DH has to take me to get sushi. Find something you love that maybe you won't be able to do while KU and it will be a small positive to 'look forward' to.

Ha, we do the same thing when AF comes. I just call him up and say, wine and sushi please!

bigbear · December 2010

It certainly is an emotional rollercoaster. Last time I got my period was the first time I actually cried. But it lasted only for an hour and I told myself to suck it up and move on LOL

I know I'm out this month again so let's see how I react this time.... I was OK so far but last cycle was the 6 month mark and the fact that I'm going into the second part of the year trying, kind of hit me. But then I tried to remember all the other women that have been trying for so much longer and I told myself that if they are strong and can deal with it then I should be able to handle it, too especially since I'm still rather new to the whole TTC. Doesn't always help but I keep telling myself that. Wine has been helping alot, too.

The only thing you can do is try to stay positive. If you have to cry it out, go for it, but good idea, not showing it to DH too much. Mine get's really sad and upset about it, too if he sees my cry

Hang in there and best of luck to you!

RoxanneA · December 2010

Babybear70:
My first few cycles of TTC were very emotional too. I remember having to leave the office for a few minutes to cry when I started to spot the first month. I ate some chocolate, flumped around the house that night, came up with a new game plan for the next month and started again.

CD1 means that you are usually only a short time away from being able to make a miracle again! I tell myself when CD1 comes around for me that very rarely in this life do you get a second chance to do anything, let alone something as important as this! Keep your chin up....we will all get through this! I know we will!!!

This exactly. Every time I start my cycle again it's just another chance to make a miracle. I just assume my period is going to start so I don't get too disappointed. I know it's going to happen, it's just a matter of when. (At least this is what I tell myself) Big Smile

SuzyQ2009 · December 2010

I am coming to the end of cycle #3 and am hoping I don't get as bummed as I had been the last 2 cycles on CD1. It is disappointing, no matter what cycle # you're in...

nickelpickelpink · December 2010

AF always disappointing to see. I just try to tell myself that this wasn't my month before it happens. That way I am not shocked and if I do get a BFP, it will be that much more exciting Smile

psubride1012 · December 2010

PDXGal7868:
Yes, I cry everytime I get AF.

This.

JoAnna914 · December 2010

This is my first cycle TTC, and AF will be here in three or four days, and I'm a little down. But as a previous poster pointed out, I have much to be thankful for - my life is downright charmed - and even if getting pregnant never happens for me, I have a rich life with many little people I can pour my love into.

Who knows if I'll be singing the same tune after a few cycles, though.

macdidlyicious · December 2010

Last cycle, I was so hormonal and wound up from the holidays that on CD3, I sobbed the whole way home because I got b!tchy with DH because someone else pissed me off. I cried because I was mean to him, I didnt know what the hell was happening to my body, my boss and close friend told me they were both pregnant that week, and I was exhausted from work.

I dont know what the hell that was all about. I am/was completely thrilled for my boss and friend (who recently miscarried Sad ) but for the first time I thought "well sh!t, I wish it were me".

Meh.

court_k · December 2010

I wish I had time to respond to everyone who replied to this post. Thank you girls so much for helping me to realize that i'm not the only one going through these emotional roller coasters.

As many of you said - I need to count my blessings. I have a wonderful loving husband, a job, a warm home to come to at night, lots of family and friends, and several precious nephews and a sweet little niece that absolutely make my day when I see them!

CD1 is without a doubt hard, but it's just another month that I get to try to make a miracle!

Thank you ladies so much for the support! I hope I can be just as supportive if any of you are feeling down.

crt0323 · December 2010

CD1 is the hardest day for me. I'm always really emotional and end up having a pity party for myself.

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