Will the number of boys/girls determine how many kids you have?

goldenleaves · December 2010

I feel like I worded that wrong. The Shettles post below got me thinking.

Lets say you have a boy and then a girl, will you be done? Or if you have 2 of the same sex will you try for the opposite?

Just wondering. My family thinks we're nuts because we (well, I do. DH is still undecided) want 3 regardless of whether the next LO is a boy or a girl. Why do people assume if you have one of each you're done having kids?

Banana2011 · December 2010

I know I want more than 1 and would love to have at least one of each. But I don't think that in itself will determine how many children we'll have. DH and I will decide if we'll go for #3 (or more) when the time comes.

I once met a couple who wanted a girl so badly, but had 3 boys. They decided to go for just one more (hoping for a girl) and had triplet boys. Woops! ;p

Mrs Stephie · December 2010

We only want 2 kids. So I don't think it'll matter for us. Right now i'll just be happy with 1. I think we'll cross that bridge if we come to it.

MrsMS2008 · December 2010

I used to think about this ALL the time. But right now I would just be soooo happy with one! I never thought I would have any trouble ttc, and now that I am I plan to take whatever is given to me! I do know that I don't want an only child (I come from a large family), so I definitely will try again if I can! After two, no matter the sex, it would depend on where we were financially and how difficult it was to get those two.

KdgTeacher · December 2010

DH and I say that if we have 2 girls or 2 boys then we'll go for #3. But truthfully, at this point (9 months trying) I'm just focused on getting baby #1.

ChickenLittle2010 · December 2010

If our next is a boy, we will try for a little girl for our third. But we are DONE with 3, if we get 3 boys. Thats GREAT but we would love 1 boy, 1 girl.

DH really wants a daughter, DS is a mama's boy through and through. DH wants a daughter, he wants the father daughter dance, he wants to walk her down the isle. I think he feels like if we don't have a daughter, he misses out on all these HUGE life moments. He loves our son, and he can't wait to coach little league and football.

Its actually really sweet, DH tears up during the father daughter dance scenes in movies.

jaimelody · December 2010

DH and I are pretty set on only having one. BUT I know if the first one is a girl, I'm pretty sure he'll want to try again. But I guess we'll see.

Mrs.Slick · December 2010

KdgTeacher:
DH and I say that if we have 2 girls or 2 boys then we'll go for #3. But truthfully, at this point (9 months trying) I'm just focused on getting baby #1.

This. We're coming up on the year mark ttc and don't feel any # pressures except for ONE.

KdgTeacher · December 2010

jaimelody:
DH and I are pretty set on only having one. BUT I know if the first one is a girl, I'm pretty sure he'll want to try again. But I guess we'll see.

Only children are pretty awesome Wink

Banana2011 · December 2010

ChickenLittle2010:
If our next is a boy, we will try for a little girl for our third. But we are DONE with 3, if we get 3 boys. Thats GREAT but we would love 1 boy, 1 girl.
DH really wants a daughter, DS is a mama's boy through and through. DH wants a daughter, he wants the father daughter dance, he wants to walk her down the isle. I think he feels like if we don't have a daughter, he misses out on all these HUGE life moments. He loves our son, and he can't wait to coach little league and football.
Its actually really sweet, DH tears up during the father daughter dance scenes in movies.

This is too cute

StephRuns · December 2010

Nope. We only want 2.

Temp436861125006648 · December 2010

We are two and done regardless of gender. We will either have two boys or a boy and a girl.

mdiblasi10 · December 2010

Banana2011:
I know I want more than 1 and would love to have at least one of each. But I don't think that in itself will determine how many children we'll have. DH and I will decide if we'll go for #3 (or more) when the time comes.
I once met a couple who wanted a girl so badly, but had 3 boys. They decided to go for just one more (hoping for a girl) and had triplet boys. Woops! ;p

Surprise Wow! That must have been a shock!

DH and I definitely want two kids and have talked about possibly having three. But gender won't determine how many we have. And at this point, I am worried enough about just having one.

tlynnus · December 2010

No way! As I said in my post, we only want 2. If we have 2 boys, we will still be satisfied with our family.

ccam · December 2010

We would love 3 kids, the sex of the babies wouldn't matter at all.... well, I say that now! At this point, I just can't wait to have 1!! We're also in our 30's so that will play a part in it.

somnybooks · December 2010

DH wants to stop at 2 but would want to try for a 3rd if the first two are of the same gender. I kind of want 3 or 4 kids but we will see what happens when it comes to it (financially wise).

mork · December 2010

Nope. We're planning on three, regardless. It may change depending on if we want more or less, but gender hasn't affected the # conversations. Although I do have to say DH really wants boys because he thinks he'll be overly protective of girls.

Jessiree · December 2010

I'd like three, no matter what. If we end up with three girls or three boys, so be it!

PitterPat11 · December 2010

we have one of each and are trying for #3. We will be on team green this time around too. We are happy with whatever we get. I feel very blessed to have one of each, but I have always wanted 3, so 3 we will have! Hopefully!

brookelynpaisley · December 2010

I think people assume having one of each makes a family "complete." For us, we want two, and though we'd like one of each, we wouldn't have a 3rd because we got two girls or two boys. If we decided to have a 3rd, it would be because we want another baby, not because we didn't get the sex we wanted.

xnbride · December 2010

Well theoretically speaking (because nothing ever works out how we think it will) if the next one is a girl and everything goes well then I would like to have one more. If it is a boy then I am done.

Mommy2Grayson · December 2010

We originally wanted 4, but I think now we're hoping for 2. However, we have a little boy, and if we have another boy next, I think we'll try one more time. My husband REALLY wants a girl!

izzybella · December 2010

DH and I joked before we had kids that we would keep having them until we had one of each. Guess we don't have to have any more!

erikaja6 · December 2010

wesleysgrl:
We are two and done regardless of gender. We will either have two boys or a boy and a girl.

This.

izzybella · December 2010

brookelynpaisley:
I think people assume having one of each makes a family "complete."

That's what people keep saying to us. "So you don't have to have any more right? You've got one of each!"

Yes, because children are like place settings.

hnh1205 · December 2010

We always joked before that we would have 2, and if they were the same gender, we would try for a 3rd to break the tie, BUT lately we have been talking about having 3 or 4 regardless of gender, but would love to have at least one of each....

watkinae · December 2010

DH and I always joke around that we'll try for a third if we have 2 of the same sex, but honestly, we'll probably still stop at 2 regardless of sex. Plus, I'm 30 and I'd like to be finished having children by 35 and I think for myself, having more than 2 in 5 years would be insane!

Wish Upon A Star · December 2010

I think finances play a bigger role than gender. We are still trying for number 1, but we are planning to have more than one. If we can afford it, I would love to have 3 or 4.

psychgirl33 · December 2010

We want two regardless of gender. Ideally, we would like one of each, but we will be completely fine no matter what we end up with!

kelliott9199 · December 2010

DH & I have always agreed that we want a big family, so we're hoping to have 4 kids. It doesn't matter sexes, although a mixture of boys & girls would be wonderful. DH says he has a feeling that we'll end up for 4 girls and he for see's being lost in a sea of tampons & barbies until he's 60 Stick out tongue

unamilagra · December 2010

We want two kids, but we really want one of each. So if we had two of the same, we might consider having another. We have always been in love with international adoption, so if finances allowed, we would probably pursue that avenue for our third child.

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