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2nd time moms more nervous?

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Not to freak out the 1st time moms or anything but.... Am I the only one that is actually MORE nervous/scared of labor and delivery the 2nd time around? I remember thinking the 1st time things like, "my body is meant to do this..." "I'm tough I can handle this..." and whatnot because I didn't really know what to expect. This time

 I'm all, "Uhhh....I KNOW what to expect now, and I'm hella scared!!" Granted, my 1st was horrible MAINLY because ExH was a total f*ckwad and was not only NOT supportive, but actually complained and eventually was being a total @$$hole to me - oh, right around 5 cm....(after 8 hours of pitocin, mind you!!).

DH is amazing and I know that he will be right there for me and super supportive, etc.... I'm still nervous though. Last night I woke up twice nauseous and having to go poo (sorry TMI) really bad in the midst of a BH and actually thought....oh F*CK...I don't want to go through labor again - maybe I'll jump on the epi the second I can.... Anyone else?

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  • HoonFanHoonFan
    I am much more at ease this time around regarding delivery because I know what's in store...or at least I hope.  I had an easy labor/delivery the first time.  However, I am nervous as he!! about having 2u2!!
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  • MrsTottyMrsTotty member

    I don't really remember being freaked out the first time around ... until the contractions started and I was headed to the hospital.  I'm definitely not freaked out this time around though. Other than the fact that my induction seemed to take forever, it was a pretty standard labor and delivery.  I had an epi, so other than laboring before the epi, there wasn't any pain involved in delivery.  

    I reeeeeeally would prefer to go without any hemmis though ... 

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    I was like that before I had DS....I had a long labor with DD and I was like "there is no way I can do that again", etc.

    But labor the 2nd time was SO easy. Pushing was a breeze, and recovery was amazingly easy.  It was like night and day compared to my first.

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  • thisdollistakenthisdollistaken
    My DS is also 5years old. I somehow remember the first time "waiting" was much easier. This time around Im dreading even making it to my due date. We have almost everything but the house is a mess and no laundry is hung. Plus Im stressing about breastfeeding and taking care of a newborn. Im glad DH is more excited and seems more prepared than I am. We can even admit he is more excited than I am to everyone.  Im just one big ball of underexcited stress. lmao
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  • Magnolia322Magnolia322
    I had a great birth with DS- labor was another story.  It was really long.  The only thing I'm nervous for is if I have to go through that again.  They say (OB) that second time births usually go quicker so I'm crossing my fingers.  I just hope everything goes as smoothly because it was the best experience once I was in the hospital and pushing.
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  • *sallymad**sallymad*
    I'm def. more nervous this time around for my planned c/s (first one was a planned c/s as well). I had a great experience but there something to say about going into without knowing what to except. Now I know exactly what to expect and the things that I didn't really care for and it's making me nervous. Granted I also have panic disorder so that doesn't help anything.....
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    No, not at all. I had an emergency c-section with DS and a wonderful recovery and have a planned c-section with this baby. I know it will hurt, but honestly I'm not nervous about the pain since I know that pain medicine will make it feel better. :)

    The part where the baby is here I'm nervous about-maybe that's why I'm so calm about the delivery. My nervous energy is focused on taking care of 2 kids!

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  • albl508albl508 member
    Yes, but only because I will probably have to have a C-Section this time due to a 4th degree laceration and I have never had one and don't know what to expect.
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  • buckeyebratbuckeyebrat

    I could've written this post myself.

    I was just telling FI that the first time around I didn't know what to expect, so I was more excited to see baby than anything! Now, I KNOW what's coming (pain wise), and I'm scared sh!tless!!

    Seriously, I'm a nervous wreck just thinking about it.

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  • kabarbanelkabarbanel member
    Eh I am not too nervous. Not yet anyway. I wasn't really nervous with DS, until I was walking the halls of L&D heading into my induction. And at least now I know what's in store. I had an easy L&D with him, so I think that helps calm any fears or nerves for now. I however am not looking forward to the contractions or recovery.
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  • Lucky_DragonflyLucky_Dragonfly member
    I'm worrieda bout tearing again. I was in such pain for 3wks afterwards and it was so uncomfortable to sit. MH was great. I'm also worried about how long it will take MH to get to me once I call him and tell him its time. I am worried about how DS will be with staying at the IL's for a few days and then coming home to another person now there. A big part of me is really hoping that she decided to stay breach because I am really not liking the idea of pushing out another baby. I'd rather they just go in and get her since I'll heal faster from a c/s, but I am not too optimistic that it will happen that way. Wonder how much I can pay my OB to write up the orders?
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  • Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    I'm scared as shlt next time around.  I had back labor and then tore wide open and felt every part of that happening.  I think I'm going to request that someone hit me over the head with a frying pan next time.  Just wake me up when it's over.
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  • Ivana_StolichnayaIvana_Stolichnaya member
    I'm scared as shlt next time around.  I think I'm going to request that someone hit me over the head with a frying pan next time.  Just wake me up when it's over.
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  • LuckyHLuckyH member

    imageIvana.Stolichnaya:
    I'm scared as shlt next time around.  I had back labor and then tore wide open and felt every part of that happening.  I think I'm going to request that someone hit me over the head with a frying pan next time.  Just wake me up when it's over.

    This is terrifying to me.  I mean, I've been through it before and it sucked, but I hadn't thought of it in quite that way.  The tearing wide open part is what I mean.  I knew I had back labor and knew I was tearing, but "wide open"??  Ouch!!  I hope that doesn't happen to you this time.  I had a so-called "minor" tear that took over a year to quit hurting.

    To OP, yes I'm quite nervous about L&D this time.  The first time around I read all kinds of natural childbirth books and felt very calm, "this is what my body should do", about it.  This time around, I think holy crap!!  Contractions hurt. :)

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