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What a Christmas

ribride07ribride07 member
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So I feel like a big jerk.  On Christmas day my hubby gets a call from his best friend (who lives across the country) saying Merry Christmas and his wife is pregnant. I did not take that news at all well.  I think I might be pms-ing too, I was upset and I cried a lot.  My husband got mad at me cuz he had to go outside to tell him how happy he was for him.  It took me a bit, but once I calmed down I could then be happy for them, but I do feel awful that my first reaction was the opposite that I was sad I wasn't pregnant.  I really wanted it to be us this Christmas telling our family and friends we were pregnant, but it was not to be.  Other than that we had a great Christmas.  Hope you all did too!
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Re: What a Christmas

  • PurplePanda83PurplePanda83
    Don't feel bad. I think everyone was hoping this would be "our" Christmas to have some good news. I was totally in your position last year though. My cousin and his wife announced her pregnancy at our family gathering on Christmas Eve. Then my Aunt (who already knew) made a big fuss and handed out all these baby things and such. It was awful. I had to go in the bathroom to cry 3 times and cried almost the whole way to my other grandmother's house for Christmas with that side. We've all been there! 
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  • MrsP71506MrsP71506

    Don't feel bad.  I think it is totally normal to feel this way.

    SIL announced that she was pregnant with #3 on Christmas Eve (just 4 days after we found out FET #3 was BFN)  and when she pulled me and DH to the side to tell us first, before the rest the family, Dh's reaction was "again"  and I just smiled and went to the bathroom to make sure I didn't cry.

    His family doesn't know anything and we both felt horrible when we got home because we weren't as excited for them as everyone else was. 

    It's hard to be in the place that we are all in and as happy as we want to be for others, we always wonder "what about us"

    sorry you had to go through that

     

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  • patchen30patchen30 member
    Don't feel bad sweetie.  That's a PERFECTLY natural reaction.  I would have felt the same way.  I'm sorry that had to happen on Christmas ((hugs)).

    TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
    2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
    IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
    IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
    IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
    Lap 7/21/10
    IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
    FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!

     

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