Nothing is wrong yet nothing is happening! Frustration.

alaskachik · December 2010

not. one. single. thing. is. wrong.

Why is this so frustrating? Well, because we have been actively TTC for 2+ years. Finally, I had an appointment with a specialist and, in some sick backwards-thinking way, I was hoping that there was something wrong with me. At least it would an explanation. An explanation and then DH and I could move on from there and start making decisions based on a diagnosis. But that's just it, there is no diagnosis.

My DH is above average in count and motility, etc...is perfect. I am ovulating on a near perfect schedule, my reserve is good, my LH cycle is normal, blah, blah, blah...etc...I feel in some ways that I am not being taken seriously because I don't have something glaringly wrong - something that is easy to point to and say, "that's it!"

I am completely whining and I apologize if it seems that I am being insensitive to others who are struggling with diagnosed issues - not my intention in the slightest.

Has anyone else had this same experience? What did you try?

mkwt · December 2010

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I feel your pain somewhat, we had done all the testing on me, i checked out just fine. I was really aggravated while waiting on DH to get his SA done and just gave up in the month of Oct,we maybe had sex 4 times the whole month, and whola the next month I was pregnant, of course it ended in miscarriage, but atleast I now know we can get pregnant. I have no advice but just wanted to say I know exactly how frustrating it can be. Maybe it will happen this cycle!!!

lhcooper · December 2010

I have nothing particular to recommend, just wanted to say that I share your frustration. Yes, I had a thyroidectomy early this summer and the issue that led to that made conceiving not possible and/or not a good idea during the period in which there was a problem, but other than that as far as anyone knows, nothing is wrong. To me, of course, it feels like it's extra frustrating that we did get pregnant once, without any intervention at all, and on literally our very first try at conceiving. So then why isn't it happening again with reproductive technologies on our side supposedly upping the odds? Bleccch.

georgia3 · December 2010

Totally get what you're saying! I swing back and forth between "it must be the easiest thing in the world to get pregnant because thousands of people end up pregnant each day (most without even trying)" and "there are so many things that could possible go wrong in this process that it's a miracle that it EVER happens".

It seems like there is more to it than just biology- that there must be a higher power involved and it will happen when it's supposed to.

Mrs.McIrish · December 2010

I am only on cycle 6 and I'm borderline crazy at this stage so I totally get the "wanting a diagnosis", I have m first RE appt on 1/6 and I WANT them to tell me why we aren't getting pregnant. I want them to fix whatever it wrong or if it isn't "fix-able" to be able to process it and move on with my life. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way! Instead, l keep crying in the car at random Christmas songs like Angels Among Us and the Christmas Shoes.....

kbrodie06 · December 2010

I think this is my post. This is us exactly. Nothing wrong- 2 miscarriages this year, last was in June, nothing since then. So frustrating. So we tried 2 IUI's and now going into 3rd. This will be stronger drugs and hopefully work!!! After that, will try 1 IVF and have not thought past that. Good luck and you are on a good board for support!!!

Kristin

mmttc · December 2010

Did you have an HSG test to check that your tubes are blocked? If not, I'd try that next. Have you been monitored during your cycle by ultra sound to check the thickness of your lining? Usually done just before ovulation. If your lining is too thin implantation will be almost impossible. If those two things check out okay I'd try s couple of natural iui cycles then a few clomid-iui cycles. I know going through fertility treatments is no fun, but it's so worth it when it works. Good luck!

Skatcat · December 2010

I feel your pain. We struggled to conceive for over a year before finally deciding to go the IVF route. Our doctors couldn't offer any explanation other than my age (I was 38 when we started TTC). Really, there is so much still unknown about our reproductive systems and what happens to them as we age, that the doctors just don't know..there are so many potential variables and in the end, much is a mystery.

I understand your frustration all too well!

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