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WTF Dad? Advice please... Long
Quick backstory....My Dad and I have never had a close relationship. My parents are divorsed and growing up we saw him a few times a year. Now I see him maybe once a year and we talk every once in a while (birthdays, holidays and a little inbetween). He did not come to my wedding because my step dad was walking me down the aisle and not him, but I did not write him out of my life although I was upset. He never called after the wedding to ask about it.... just sent a card. He came to see me when I was in the hospital after DD was born, but that is the only time he has seen her.
So a week ago I got a Christmas card in the mail with a Target gift card for Brooklyn from him. When I called he didn't answer so I left a message saying thank you and that I planned to buy Brooklyn an activity table with the money and to call me back so we could try and get together soon. I did not hear back from him. Christmas day sister 1 says- Did you guys hear from Dad yet? Me- No we should call. Sister 2- I called him already. (we usually talk to him all at once so that was weird) Sister 1- ok well let's call now then. We called, no answer. Left a message and said Merry XMas we love you call us back.... (this was probably around 7:30 or 8pm.)
I check my e-mail today and I get this message that was sent at 7:30 so I am assuming it was before he got our call... "what you can not even call your father and wish a merry xmas sorry you had to go to your mothers and not even have time to call me. at least i have 1 daughter that cares and she called. i will never bother you 2 again have a great life and thanks"
WTF? Really? How the hell do I respond to this?!? Thanks for any advice and your "ear"
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Re: WTF Dad? Advice please... Long
You cannot, and should not, respond to a parent being immature enough to say something like "have a great life".
This, totally this.
What is he, 12?
That being said, I would just tell him that you did call and you're sorry he didn't get the message, and the next time he wants to talk to you to try to do it in a mature manner.
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This is exactly what I would say, "Dad, I called you. Not only once, but twice. Maybe you should check all of your means of communication before you decide to bash me. I do wish to thank you for the gift card and to wish you a Merry Christmas, I hope it was blessed. I hope that you were genuine when you said that you wanted me to have a nice life because that is exactly what I want for you too. Take Care and I will speak with you when you call me."
If I had a dollar for every time my mom told me to have a great life. LOL
I would ignore the immature/whoa is me comments and simply reply by saying, "I'm sorry you didn't get my messages dad. We love you and DD loves her new activity table from her grandpa. Hope you had a great christmas!"
And call it good.