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We have a screaming problem

ehpopeehpope member
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When my son doesn't get his way he screams and cries... very loudly. Yes, I know this is a typical toddler problem, but I wasn't expecting it to be so hard to handle! My husband gets very irritated when he screams because he screams right in our face, wanting to be picked up, but we both agree that picking him up when he screams at us is sending the signal, "scream and you will get what you want"  Suggestions on how to handle the screaming?
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Re: We have a screaming problem

  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    love your siggy pic BTW! so cute!

    Gibby used to SCREEEAAAM when he didn't get his way - we ignored it... he hasn't done it in a long time.

    screaming when you say no, or he doesn't get his way = ignore for sure ... but if he's just wanting to get picked up and tired/cranky I'd give in and pick up...

    With Gibby if I told him NO and pulled him off of something- he'd scream and cry - i'd ignore and walk away and go sit down... then he'd come over to me crying to get picked up and snuggle- I'll pick him up... b/c it's sort of not part of the same "episode" anymore... but not if it's part of the same thing, if that makes sense :)

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  • ehpopeehpope member

    Completely makes sense. I like the ignore it and walk away, but being able pick him up when he comes over wanting comforted. I'm not always sure that he remembers what he is screaming about after a few moments. Sometimes he just keeps getting more upset because currently we aren't picking him up until he calms himself down a little bit, which takes a toddler a long time without a little reassurance from mom or dad. 

     

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  • LoveEeyoreLoveEeyore member
    We do it similar to Goldie, put since one can easily say "up," and the other, when happy, will grunt and put his arms up when he wants up, I ignore the screaming to get up after I remind to "Ask nicely, say 'up. up. up.' "  That is an easy "word" for both, so that is one I NEVER let them get away with not using.  Unless there is blood. Vomit. Or Fever.
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  • MoMandAMoMandA

    We have the same issues and it drives my DH nuts too. One of the most annoying things is that if Owen cries, for any reason, Hamilton cries too. So we got into the bad habit of keeping Owen calm so that we wouldn't have 2 screamers. It's funny...If Hamilton is crying, Owen could care less.

    I think that teething is part of the problem.

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