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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Intro and a question
My daughter Isla turned one on 12-22. She had her 1 yr appointment and she was 15 pounds 5 ounces and 27 inches. She is a very small girl and not on the charts for weight and only in the 5% for height. She has had a number of ongoing health issues (tortocolis, plagiocephaly & brachycephaly, colitis, food allergies, labeled failure to thrive) but we are working on getting her healthy. She wore a helmet for 4 months which corrected the plagio/brachy, her tortocolis was corrected with lots of physical therapy, her colitis was resolved with my elimination diet (I am still BFing), her food allergies are better since we have been working with a pediatric gastro and introducing allergens slowly and in a specific order, and she is still FTT but began growing again with lots of diet changes (high fat high protein diet for her). I know that is a mouthful!
So here is my question. Because of all of her health issues I tend to baby her a lot. Lately she has been screaming a lot. She always loved to scream and shrill while playing but now it us when she is mad or sad, or not getting her way. Is this normal or did I create this by giving in to her every demand? And she only STTN on occasion- she usually wakes up once but sometimes it is more than that. With her growth issues I have always nursed her when she wakes in the middle of the night and to get her to bed but now I think since age its growing that I could probably stop that but I don't know how to do this. Any advice is definitely welcomed!
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Re: Intro and a question
It sounds like she is on to you, that when she cries and screams she gets what she wants. I'd be willing to be you created some of what she is doing with the screaming. Actions lead to reactions.
If you have lessened your nursing, are you certain she's getting enough? I remember a situation with another nestie who's LO wasn't STTN. Her milk had decreased and then when she switched LO to whole milk at one year she started STTN.
Oh, and BTW: paragraphs are your friend
I'm not sure if this is helpful but I have a very healthy 13 month old that STILL nurses through the night. Last night she was up 3 times. This is rare but she usually gets up at least once.I'm pretty sure it is from her schedule being so thrown on Christmas eve and day. Who knows though?
It looks like your LO has been gaining steadily but since she is such a peanut, I would still feed her through the night if she is asking for it. Good Luck, I know it is tough!
Hi there! I'll second the paragraph comment as I found it hard to read your post. But I guess you're specifically asking about her screaming?
Toddlers like to test boundaries by screaming. And/Or they like to hear themselves make noise. They experiment. And if they're mad or sad or not getting their way, they'll do that. It's normal. And even if you gave in to every demand in the past, it's not too late to change things now. Ignore the screaming (not easy but it helps) and if your DD doesn't get a reaction, she may stop.
As for the STTN issues, I wish I could help but I was lucky in that my DS just started STTN when he was 9 months old. On his own. Naps, however, sucked and I had to CIO for them at 11 months. He self weaned (formula fed) from overnight bottles at 3 months and bedtime bottle at 12 months.
And as a FYI, my DS had severe brachycephaly and moderate torticollis and wore two DOC Bands for 4 months?and was in PT for 7 months. Plus he had surgery at 11 months for an unresolved Hydrocele. So I can understand why you babied your DD. I'm glad the helmet and PT resolved her plagio/brachy and tort.
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