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Jettscy
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Do you recommend 2u2
Jettscy
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DH and I were discussing when to try again and I think we decided on September. That would put DD and the baby 20 months apart. Do you recommend this or should we wait longer. Any advice would be awesome. TIA
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Re: Do you recommend 2u2
This is so, so key.
Both my kids, thank goodness, are great sleepers and have been since they were tiny. The fact that DH and I had had six-plus months of good sleep made the transition from one child to two under one a LOT easier to handle.
Friends of ours aren't so lucky. Their oldest did not sleep through the night till he was almost 13 months old. At 2 1/2, he still isn't a great sleeper. His ten-month-old brother is better, but still rocky. These parents have not had probably more than two consecutive nights of full sleep since their first child was born, and it's taken a toll on their health.
I love 18 months apart. One down side was trying to BF while pg, so if I were to do it again I would wait until 11 or 12 months to get pg so I didnt have to BF while pg long to get to my goal of a year. It was hard on my body.
But I really love how close they are and how they laugh and smile at each other. I do it alone a lot as Dh works away for work, but its been a blessing to have them this close in age.
GL
this. except DD1 was not sttn when we decided to ttc again. however a lot changes in 9 months. DD1 was sleeping 14 hrs at night by the time dd2 was born!!
2 beautiful children
proud mommy!
My girls are 16.5 months apart and we're only 10 weeks into it, but I'm loving it! It's hard (DD1 has been cutting teeth non stop - including all four molars - since her sister was born), but I've got two great sleepers and a super supportive DH so the transition has been a lot easier than I thought it would be. We're thinking about trying for #3 next year to have another one close in age.
Getting into a routine is key like one of the PPs mentioned, though. My girls nap at the same time almost every day and it has totally kept my sanity.
It's a tough question to answer. It depends on so many factors. I did 2u2 twice and the first time it wasn't bad (but I say that NOW that I'm so many years out), but the 2nd time was super hard.
Some women can handle it and others can't. Doesn't make you a bad parent AT ALL. Only you and your DH know what you can and cannot handle.
I CAN tell you that the sleep deprivation for me and DH is just about the worse phase. My kids didn't STTN until almost 1YO (ALL 3!). It's very hard to be sleep deprived for so long. I lost 3 years of sleep. I did survive it, and live to tell about it, but it was NOT fun at all.
It's much easier now in that respect, but other things get harder. Like getting all 3 kids ready and out the door EVERY SINGLE DAY. Now that it's winter, it's really a royal PITA. I need an extra 1/2 hour in the morning. But we do it every day.....
GL!
We had 2u2 and are doing it again. For us, it has worked.
DD#1 and DS are 19 months apart (now 6 and 4 1/2). DD#2 and baby will be 15 1/2 months apart.
DH is a SAHD, so we don't have daycare costs or the morning rush to deal with. Our three kids are great sleepers so we didn't lose too much sleep.
DD#1 and DS are so close and play very nicely together. DS learns so much from DD#1 and he tries to do everything she does.
Don't your kids go to school? How is there no morning rush? Are you homeschooling?
I feel like I have to be so much more organized now that they're older because of preschool, activities, etc.