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Do you tell DH when it's FWP time?

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I'm interested to hear what everyone else on here does.  I was talking to my friend the other night who already has 2 kids, and she said not to tell MH when I'm ovulating because that takes the fun out of it and makes it more stressful and planned.  Yes, this is true, but I tell MH everything, and I cannot imagine not telling him when I'm O-ing. (It's just so exciting to see that smiley that I don't think I could hold that in!)  Plus, I'm sure he would know anyways if I'm trying to jump his bones 4-5 nights in a row! 

Do you tell him or no??  

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  • PachitaPachita member
    I tell him.  I don't tell him 'hey I'm Oing today'. I just tell him.  This week is FWP time---something like that, so that he is prepared to FWP for the next 7-10 days....not every day though. 

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  • ginamcpginamcp
    Last cycle I didn't tell my H and he ended up asking me.  We had a chat about it and he said that he wants to feel like a part of the whole process and wants to know.  I did tell him this morning to gear up because I was dropping an egg today.  Stick out tongue
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  • MandaS08MandaS08 member
    I don't tell him the particular day I think I will O, but I let him know its going to be "baby making time" (that is what he calls it) for the next few days.  Like you said if I didn't he would wondering who I was and what I did with his wife if I was trying to get busy for several nights in a row!

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  • TeacherVickyTeacherVicky member

    I tell him, only because he asks. Even if he wouldn't ask and I wouldn't tell him, he would figure it out from me initiating so much sex in one week.

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  • Izabella22Izabella22 member
    It depends on the month but I usually just tell him its go time, however its backfired on me a couple times b/c he gets all stressed out and then can't perform. Guess it depends on how well he can handle the pressure. :)
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  • emeraudecephiroemeraudecephiro member
    I don't tell DH because he doesn't want to know...not because he doesn't care, but he gets really nervous and he can't perform and then he feels really badly. So, we agreed I'd just not tell him. We have sex pretty regularly anyway, so it isn't like it's horribly obvious to him. 
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  • baloneydiscbaloneydisc member
    No, I don't tell him.  When he knew he started having performance issues, so now we just go for EOD the entire month.  It's much easier for him not to know.
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  • MrsR25MrsR25
    I straight up tell DH. Mostly because we don't have a super active sex life outside of TTC (which we are both fine with) and makes it easier if he knows.
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  • vflipovflipo member
    I never told him, but he could tell. For some reason, I didn't really initiate sex unless it was FWP time Stick out tongue
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  • Deepak&DerekDeepak&Derek member
    I tell my husband that it is time to make "sexy time."  FWP would mean nothing to him.  I do have pee sticks laying everywhere, so I am sure he would know that I am ovulating anyways.  I don't tell him that I am ovulating unless he asks me. 
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  • jerryliljessjerryliljess member

    Yes and no.  Sometimes I'll let him know and sometimes I'll drop subtle hints.

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  • TapatioTapatio

    imageginamcp:
    Last cycle I didn't tell my H and he ended up asking me.  We had a chat about it and he said that he wants to feel like a part of the whole process and wants to know.  I did tell him this morning to gear up because I was dropping an egg today.  Stick out tongue

    lol This is exactly what I tell my DH! He doesn't mind knowing because it doesn't really stress him out or anything. He likes all the FWP. What I do have an issue with lately is the planned out part of it. So I'm thinking next month when we're back to TTC, I'll just seduce him and try to keep my mouth shut!

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  • h0b0girlh0b0girl member

    DH wants to be very involved so he even looks at the OPK line tests leading up to O day.  During my last cycle he even said I think we should BD tomorrow morning just to be sure... to bad AF showed up 2 weeks later.

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  • shanna82shanna82 member
    I'm just like you! I tried not telling him once and he figured it out when I wanted to BD so much.
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  • Amanda&JaredAmanda&Jared
    I didn't tell him before the mc... I didn't really know for certain until the last pregnancy anyway because that was the first time I used a kit... I did tell him when I ovulated right after the mc because that (to me) was great news because that meant that things were headed back to normal. This past cycle, I told him that we'd be able to try on the weekend that I O-ed... next month I might keep it to myself if AF shows up and we don't get a BFP for the new year!
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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    I tell him.
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  • Gilgenbach2007Gilgenbach2007 member
    He knows because that's the only time we use the preseed.  Also I initiate more during that time and he just kind of figures it out.
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