Speaking of baby showers...WWTTCALD?

Tapatio · December 2010

My younger sister and I went to the Target Christmas clearance sale yesterday morning because this is our yearly ritual. Except this year my baby sister is pregnant. I worked up the nerve to ask her about a possible baby shower. She said that she's probably going to have a huge shower since her in-laws want to invite both sides of the family. Ugghhh! As soon as she said it I could feel a pressure on my chest! I've had this anxiety since yesterday morning. I am DREADING the shower in a couple of months. I'm trying to figure out how I can get out of it The problem is that although I have managed to avoid most showers, I can't avoid this one! She's my sister! She's been so good at not flaunting her pg since she knows everything about my losses.

However, I KNOW I'm going to have to deal with a bombardment of stupidity! Nosey relatives will ask," When are YOU going to have one?" I can't even stomach the baby shower games or everyone fussing over her and her cute belly. I feel like such a selfish b!tch and I feel like I'm going to go to hell for acting this way.

I know that I'm going to be on the verge of tears the whole day and I highly doubt that I'll handle it well. It feels like my heart and soul are going to take a serious beating and I don't want to go through it. I've already experienced enough heartache damnit! I want a freakin' break! Sad

Izabella22 · December 2010

Hmm... well if its a huge shower you might be able to sneak in a quick appearance, drop a gift, and run for it. I wouldn't bring it up yet, you never know what will happen in a couple of months, but as it gets closer maybe mention to your sis that you are thrilled for her, but not ready to answer a lot of quesitons.

That said... I hope in a couple of months you will be pg too so it can be a double celebration. *HUGS*

MandaS08 · December 2010

Are you close to your sister? If you are, I would talk to her about it and see if she would be ok with you not attending. I know my sister would understand, and I would understand if the situation was reversed-then maybe you can do something either just the two of you or with your immediate family to celebrate?

Tapatio · December 2010

Izabella22:

Hmm... well if its a huge shower you might be able to sneak in a quick appearance, drop a gift, and run for it. I wouldn't bring it up yet, you never know what will happen in a couple of months, but as it gets closer maybe mention to your sis that you are thrilled for her, but not ready to answer a lot of quesitons.

That said... I hope in a couple of months you will be pg too so it can be a double celebration. *HUGS*

I think if I were pg by then it would dissolve some of my sadness but I'm trying not to hold onto that idea because I doubt that I'll get that lucky. Chances are I'll still have an empty uterus by the time the shower rolls around Crying Thank you for the positive thoughts though

Tapatio · December 2010

MandaS08:
Are you close to your sister? If you are, I would talk to her about it and see if she would be ok with you not attending. I know my sister would understand, and I would understand if the situation was reversed-then maybe you can do something either just the two of you or with your immediate family to celebrate?

I'm liking your "exclusive" baby shower idea. I wouldn't mind doing something special with just me and her. I can take her out to a nice lunch or cook something she is craving! This way if I break down and lose it, it's ok and I won't have an audience! Thank you so much! I love it! Ahhh I'm feeling so much better about it now

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