Do you feel bad about the lack of sex? (TMI)

jlcrane78 · December 2010

I'm struggling to recall the last time DH and I had sex. I know for sure we did the day after my birthday, but I can't remember if we have since then. I've been consistently spotting between the ending of my BCPs and the starting of Lupron for my FET, so I just feel gross. Add to that my sinus problems over the past week, and you have the mixture for a nonexistent sex life. I read that Lupron can either make you horny as heck or lose your sexual desire. I won't say that I've lost my sexual desire completely, but I am not missing it lately either. Did I mention how attractive the bloat makes me feel?

Please tell me how you cope with this. Do you force yourself to have sex when you feel downright miserable, or do you count on your husbands to understand that this is only temporary and sex will happen again...someday.

lilredj · December 2010

Dh has come to an understanding that it is only temporary and that some day....it will return!! He has been so good about the whole thing!

beantownbride25 · December 2010

I do feel bad but I can't have sex if I'm not in the mood. MH understands and I think he's in a little rut himself. It has picked up a bit though. Wink

chizzle09 · December 2010

Our sex life the past 6 weeks has been horrible. He got back from out of town 6 weeks ago (and he had been gone 3 weeks) and was sick for 1-1/2 weeks. Then I got my period right as he was feeling better. I found out I was pregnant a week later, which ended up being an ectopic (which explained all the bleeding). I had to get a shot of methotrexate so we couldn't have sex for 2 weeks. Then at the end of the 2 weeks I got the flu. Just as I started feeling better, he left today and will be gone for 6 weeks. Ahh!! I felt so bad for him (and me) b/c of our crappy sex life the past 6 weeks, but there was pretty much nothing we could do.

dolphinsmakemesmile · December 2010

Lupron has definitely not helped my desire. We go through our phases and DH is pretty good for the most part. Although I think one time he said to me the only time I want him is when I need the specimen cup filled:). Poor guy had a tough summer too. I had an iui in April and had OHSS So obviously no sex. Then I had the miscarriage in June. After the d&c, RE cleared us for sex 2 weeks later. But, I wasn't mentally ready. We didn't bed until August. Poor guy went almost 5 months. It's tough, but we never force ourselves if we aren't in the mood.

SweetDahlia · December 2010

I really feel bad, but just can't get back in the mood. I usually just go ahead and we do it. I think the more often the more you want it. I think I read that somewhere. We've been on a bad streak. I agree Lupron is just awful. I started that in August and we spend most of July out of town and then my IVF was in Sept, and then I was bleeding due to my SCH and then my m/c. We just got the all clear before our trip and need to get back into the hang of thing.

I think husbands get it though. I know mine does, but I still feel bad. If you are just miserable than I say don't do it.

SeptemberBride'08 · December 2010

DH is amazing about our sex life. I've been screwed up since a birth control back from when I was like 23. I've never been the same since that pill which is another reason I wish I never took them. I'm also very sensitive about my body image right now which makes it hard for me to get into the mood. Then when we have scheduled sex from the RE every other day for a week....we just both get sick of it.

He's pretty amazing and we both know that it will work itself out soon.

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