when should we tell everyone?

dawnkelly10 · December 2010

We have told our immediate family and a 2 or 3 friends. We are trying to wait til after our 1st dr's appt which is Jan. 3rd. We have the midset of less people that know the less heartbreak if something doesn't work out, but I just want to shout from the roof top that we are pregnant. I have other friends announcing their pregnancy after like 4 weeks. I just can't imagine doing that. What is everyone's opinion?

tmhdmh · December 2010

i definitely want to wait until the end of the 1st tri. but it will be difficult. i'll probably have to avoid friends and family for a few wks.

MickeyDs · December 2010

With our first child we told our parents & siblings once we heard the heartbeat @ 10 weeks. This time we plan to tell my parents only @ 5 weeks. I'm very close to my mom and could use the extra support either way. Besides, she will know something is up if I'm not drinking alcohol on NYE. We will tell everyone else once we hear the heartbeat.

brobbins05 · December 2010

I think that with each person you tell, you need to realize that if something goes wrong, you have to tell that person. that said, the people I have told are all people I would tell that I had a MC, if I did. So we have slipped here and there, it's definitely SOOOO hard!

We planned to wait til 12 weeks, but I will be at 12 when I leave for Israel. I really don't feel like a) missing the fun and reactions or b) hearing everyone's concern or advice about traveling, so we are going to wait until I get home. that way, I will be 14 weeks and even safer and farther along.

I agree that 4 wks is very soon. I think your instinct to wait, and to wish you could tell now, are both right.

Galaxy8227 · December 2010

We're planning on waiting until the end of our 1st trimester, not sure if we'll be able to pull it off but that is our plan.

ladylisalt · December 2010

We just told our family on Christmas Eve and Christmas(at 10 weeks). I plan to tell close friends NYE when they come over. I feel 11 wks isn't too bad. I agree it makes sense to wait awhile if you can.

Brandi&Josh · December 2010

We are almost 6 weeks along. I have already told some people that knew we were trying. I think we are going to tell our families at New Years. It is so hard to keep it in! With our first child, we told everyone right away. It is so hard to be around my family and not just blurt it out. I am very close to my mom and I'm afraid she may be starting to suspect. I think it is wonderful news that is meant to be shared. If something happens, I know that I will have the support of my family to make it through.

camdenfaithful · December 2010

Everyone is different and has different reasons for waiting to tell or spilling the beans right away. I personally won't even be telling my family until I am well out of first tri but that's just me. Just do what feels right for you.

heylee · December 2010

I told my sister and my mom and DH told his mom and we asked them to swear to secrecy. We told everyone else after our 1st ultrasound

AsOctoberFalls · December 2010

We told DH's best friend and his wife right when we got the BFP, because we were both TTC and had been talking about it. (They were the only ones who knew we were TTC).

We told our parents and siblings on Christmas, when I was 12 weeks and a few days. Our parents told just about everyone they know, lol. We told the rest of our friends at their Festivus party last night.

Personally, I don't like people knowing things about me... I'm very private. So I was glad we waited. But some people shout it from the rooftops right away, and that's ok, too.

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