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TTC Baby #2...Baby #1 is 13 weeks old
Hi, I'm going to be 37 in February so we don't want to wait to TTC our second baby. I would like to hear from other mothers in my age group who have done this - how long did it take you to get pregnant the second time (I'm breastfeeding right now too)? How did your body take a second pregnancy so quickly? Emotionally how did you feel? Any tips? Thanks and Merry Christmas to you all! 
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Re: TTC Baby #2...Baby #1 is 13 weeks old
Have you had a period yet? I was EBFing and got my period back at 11 weeks PP. Everyone is different, but most women don't start ovulating again until they start to wean (or start the baby on solid foods so he/she nurses less). I had 3 cycles and then got pregnant when DD was 5 months old. I wasn't trying to get pregnant (I was actually charting to avoid) but after the initial shock I warmed up to the idea and now I'm so glad for this age difference. I wanted my kids close together (within 2 years) and DD is still young enough to not get overly jealous of the new one. Granted, I haven't had the baby yet so it could be a lot worse than I'm imagining, but I'm very excited.
I'm 37 and got pregnant when #1 was about 13 weeks old. It wasn't planned. My recovery from #1 was pretty brutal and I wasn't exactly happy. Things are completely different now. I'm thrilled that our boys are so close and that we're done.
Back to back pregnancies were pretty tough for me. The hip pain started really early with #2 which meant I couldn't be on the floor with #1. I had way more morning sickness and couldn't eat a lot for most of my pregnancy. In the end, I think I liked the timing - #1 was mobile for the first tri when I was exhausted and wasn't walking until #2 arrived so I didn't have to chase him around in the third tri. I had a lot of help. DH was home for the summer from school during the third tri and #2 was born Sept 1, so my inlaws were here during the day to help out those last days. I had a c-section which was way easier to recover from than the vaginal delivery. I had a babysitter here everyday to help while I recovered.
It's doable. Not easy, but doable. And you won't know any different. GL!
I found out I was pregnant when my DS was a little under 5 months old. I had stopped BF due to supply issues when DS was 5 weeks old, so I was back to getting periods again and was able to conceive. I have had a really easy pregnancy-much more comfortable than my first. I think it was due to regular chiropractic visits that have kept my hips/spine in proper alignment so I'd definitely suggest that. Also, staying active and eating healthy I think plays a huge role in how you feel pregnant. Try to fill up on foods that will give you fuel because it can definitely get tiring caring for a small child while being pregnant yourself. Now my DS is walking and into everything, but it's not nearly as hard as I would have imagined.
I can't really talk about having both kids here since I have about 2 weeks to go until my c-section. However, I think it's challenging no matter when you add a 2nd child so that shouldn't really be a deciding factor. I definitely think a pro of having them this close together is that the younger one is too small still to feel jealous. We've been around other babies that I've held quite a bit, and he doesn't seem to be too bothered. Right now he's so much more interested in practicing walking/running and learning new things which I think will be good in the transition of bringing a new baby home. I hear the 16-18 month time gets tough, so I'm hoping we'll be getting used to things with LO #2 before that age arrives.
If you are EBF, it may be tough to conceive since you may not be ovulating regularly. An option is to cut back on nursing exclusively and maybe add a bottle here and there if getting pregnant quickly is what's best for your whole family.
Best wishes with whatever you decide!
We conceived dd when ds was 14 months old. I was 37 when I had ds and 39 when I had dd. It only took one time for both babies. I exclusively breast fed, but got my period back at 6 weeks. My body did fine, although pregnancy with a toddler is more tiring and hard. I did fine emotionally, even though ds wasn't sttn.
It does help that ds was able to walk and do things on his own when his sister came. I couldn't imagine caring for two little ones. Just something to consider.
I can't speak to the age issue, but I can understand not wanting to wait. We wanted our kids close in age and never used any prevention methods after DS was born - just said that it would happen when it happened.
I EBF'd until I returned to work at 12 weeks and then he was getting a little formula, but I was still bfing as much as possible. I did not get my period until DS was about 8 months old, even though I he was probably getting almost 50% formula at that point. I got pg the next month.
I wouldn't necessarily give up breastfeeding if it is important to you. Plenty of people get pg while EBF and I was far from EBF and didn't get pg for some time... Of course, you're won't get pg if you're not ovulating - so you could try charting or using some OPKs to check that out...
Good luck!
I can't speak to the age issue, but I can understand not wanting to wait. We wanted our kids close in age and never used any prevention methods after DS was born - just said that it would happen when it happened.
I EBF'd until I returned to work at 12 weeks and then he was getting a little formula, but I was still bfing as much as possible. I did not get my period until DS was about 8 months old, even though I he was probably getting almost 50% formula at that point. I got pg the next month.
I wouldn't necessarily give up breastfeeding if it is important to you. Plenty of people get pg while EBF and I was far from EBF and didn't get pg for some time... Of course, you're won't get pg if you're not ovulating - so you could try charting or using some OPKs to check that out...
Good luck!