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ashleyrsotomayor
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Having a meltdown...
ashleyrsotomayor
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We did most of our Christmas festivities last night and today we had just planned on hanging out and watching movies. Well, as soon as I got out of the shower this morning, FIL was asking me a million questions about our plans for the nursery. He lives far away and will not be back until after LO is born. I had asked him to help move the furniture that is currently in the nursery to another room while he is here because I obviously can't help DH with that. That is all I want done at this point. Now he and DH are nagging me to buy the crib I was looking at (not even sure if it's the one I want) and talking about painting other furniture to match and putting special shelving in the closet and FIL is just going crazy like he always does wanting to do stuff. I AM NOT READY! I tried to explain to DH that I am not ready to commit to any nursery stuff yet, and I really am not ready to put furniture in there, and he makes me feel bad and says, "I just don't understand why you can't be excited". I also got pressured into telling DH's whole family yesterday by my ILs. And then they acted annoyed when I didn't want to get on the phone and talk to everyone in Ecuador about it. They all act irritated that I am having a hard time jumping up and down with excitement about this. MIL had a m/c after DH, and she didn't have another baby for 8 years because she was too scared. You would think she would understand at least. So I am sitting her alone in our bedroom pretending to be doing my hair and make-up but instead I am crying and having a meltdown. I hate this.
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Re: Having a meltdown...
Aw, sweetheart I am so sorry you're having a rough time. I'm 100% understanding where you are coming from...I'm 22 weeks and all we have is a painted nursery, other than that it's completely empty. I know it's not easy, but I think you need to explain to DH and maybe even the in-laws too, that you're not ready to make this decision yet. If nothing else you can just blame it on wanting to wait to see if you find something you may like better. Tell those men to slooooow down, you have plenty of time!
Merry Christmas Ashley! hope the day gets better!
Ash, I hope that they can give you the space you need, with the holidays and the overbearing IL's and now to rush into buying a crib--thats a lot!!!
((HUGS)) unless they are buying the crib I'd tell them to back off!!!
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Hugs. Having a completed nursery is a huge step. I wonder if there are any other bones you could throw their way. The shelving stuck out in my mind...shelves are nice in any room (office, spare bedroom, nursery etc). In other words, have them do stuff that doesn't scream "baby", but still makes them feel useful.
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