its hard....really hard

MADforever2009 · December 2010

3:45am coop crying, i wake up...no clue whats going on, i swear i just put him down, it takes me five minutes to realize what time it is and what needs to be done. everything becomes 10x harder when youre non-coherent hubbs for the second feeding in a row brings me wrong LOs bottle. cooper never finishes a full feeding and mark complains about being peed and pooped on by cannon. now its 4:45am and my pumping bottles are leaking on my pants...ugh

merry christmas

macchiatto · December 2010

I'm so sorry. It's been almost 2 years since we were at that point with our boys but I still remember it well. Hugs and hang in there, mama.

SweetBijou · December 2010

Ugh...I'm sorry. :-/ It does get easier. Just a few months makes a world of difference. Merry Christmas to you too--think about how much fun next Christmas is going to be with the little ones :-)

Hugs

Shannonlea · December 2010

Sending huge, huge hugs and a promise that it does get better! Mine were 8 days last Christmas and we were up every 2 hours. This year, I just have toddlers grabbing toys from each other, screaming, throwing sippy cups and pulling off diapers

But honestly, hang in there! You can do this!

macchiatto · December 2010

And the pp's are right; for us, it got somewhat easier at 8w when their naps fell into a good pattern (HSHHC was a lifesaver!) and much easier at 4.5m when they started STTN. It also got a lot more fun (if a little crazier

) when they turned 1 and started learning how to walk and talk. A lot of people say the "golden age" is from around 5-12m (it wasn't for us

) but as hard as it is now with the sleep deprivation, you're so close to turning a corner. It also helps when they start smiling and then laughing, and that should be not too long from now.

Shannonlea · December 2010

Id like to just add one more thing...

When I was going through the middle of the night feedings and the screaming, the worst part (for me) was feeling alone. My husband was not always good at getting up ("whhhaaat timmmme is it?" ugh) and I was nursing so I spent a lot of the time by myself. One thing I wish I would have remembered is that even though I felt alone, I wasn't alone. So many moms have done this (and survived) and you will survive, too. I promise. I also promise that someday you'll look back and laugh. I was standing in the grocery store line yesterday with a shopping list. I looked on the back of the paper and there was a feeding schedule from December 21st of last year. And I laughed so hard to remember how crazy it was and to see how far we've come.

Ok, sorry that was long. Again, hang in there!

tSquared1987 · December 2010

I am in the same place as you. Taylen has been home since the 13th and Tage just got home on the 23rd so I am freakin' out a little. you are definately not alone!

jalaiaa · December 2010

I remember that feeling well. It gets easier for sure. I used to wake up panicked thinking I had fallen asleep with a baby on my chest, when I had already put them down. I also remember waking up to my husband patting his chest. When I asked him what he was doing he said that he was patting a baby, but there was no baby there. They were both in the co-sleeper. That is what sleep deprivation does to you. The first couple months were a fog. It gets better.

And yes, Merry Christmas.

blondek8 · December 2010

So let me just say ... I can't believe I'm actually typing this but it gets better. It gets so much better. Again, I can't believe I'm actually able to say this. We're only 11 weeks out but the babies are so much more predictable, so much more fun, so much less fragile and I'm so much more stable and better adjusted. I actually wake up and look forward to my days now rather than wake up and be immediately terrified. Things aren't perfect, that's for sure, but easier -- yes and it gets a little better everyday.

Give yourself a break mamma! It is confusing, overwhelming and emotionally and physically draining! You'll pull through it too and you're doing a great job!

::hugs:: and Merry Christmas!

MrsLnt · December 2010

jalaiaa:
I remember that feeling well. It gets easier for sure. I used to wake up panicked thinking I had fallen asleep with a baby on my chest, when I had already put them down. I also remember waking up to my husband patting his chest. When I asked him what he was doing he said that he was patting a baby, but there was no baby there. They were both in the co-sleeper. That is what sleep deprivation does to you. The first couple months were a fog. It gets better.
And yes, Merry Christmas.

I laughed until I cried and then read it to DH who also laughed at this. We've been there. I was sleeping leaning on him one night and he tried to put me down like I was a baby. The best part is I was so out of it, I didn't realize it happened; he told me about it the next day. Also I have awakened many nights thinking that I was holding a baby when I was actually sleeping with my bear (yes, I still sleep with a bear, so sue me...)

MAD, I'm not too much farther along than you are so I can't offer much advice, but just know you're not the only one going through this. It's super, super hard, but there are so many other MoMs on here who have survived this and you will, too.

LakeGenevaBride · December 2010

Like everyone else says, it does get better. Much better. One day when the babies were a couple weeks old a friend came over and gave me some good advice. She told me its OK to not like the newborn phase. Its not fun. Yes, you love your babies, but the newborn phase sucks. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there.

MADforever2009 · December 2010

MrsLnt:
jalaiaa:
I remember that feeling well. It gets easier for sure. I used to wake up panicked thinking I had fallen asleep with a baby on my chest, when I had already put them down. I also remember waking up to my husband patting his chest. When I asked him what he was doing he said that he was patting a baby, but there was no baby there. They were both in the co-sleeper. That is what sleep deprivation does to you. The first couple months were a fog. It gets better.
And yes, Merry Christmas.
I laughed until I cried and then read it to DH who also laughed at this. We've been there. I was sleeping leaning on him one night and he tried to put me down like I was a baby. The best part is I was so out of it, I didn't realize it happened; he told me about it the next day. Also I have awakened many nights thinking that I was holding a baby when I was actually sleeping with my bear (yes, I still sleep with a bear, so sue me...)
MAD, I'm not too much farther along than you are so I can't offer much advice, but just know you're not the only one going through this. It's super, super hard, but there are so many other MoMs on here who have survived this and you will, too.

i love these stories, thx for sharing.

emsumm · December 2010

I just wanted to chime in to say...I HATE it when the pump bottles leak on me. HATE it. Not sure why it angers me so much, but seriously...I get so irritated. My dh has been summoned to mop me up on many an occasion, and bc he loves me he pretends my extreme dislike for milk dripping down my sides (soaking my underwear and waistband (shudder)) is normal.

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