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Putting LO down during the day

Copernicus08Copernicus08 member
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I don't mean down for naps, I mean literally putting LO down and not holding them during the day. I feel compelled to hold DS during the day so long as he's awake and content in my arms. DH thinks I should put him down more often so I can have some more "me" time. I'm sure DH is right, I just feel guilty or neglectful if I'm not holding LO. 
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Re: Putting LO down during the day

  • cpmichcpmich member
    Consider using a sling, so you can hold him and still have time to get things done.  The ladies on the attachment parenting board are a great resource.
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  • samjeansamjean
    Hold him if you want! They are only babies once. I hold my DD quite a lot or she's at least within arms reach a majority of the day. Maybe get a moby or ring sling to carry him in so you have 2 hands?
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  • VerboseVerbose
    I hold my son all the time. If he's awake, I'm holding or wearing him. This is a very short time in our LO's lives. They won't want to be held forever. I'm getting my snuggle time in now, while I still can...
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  • cpmichcpmich member

    imageVerbose:
    I hold my son all the time. If he's awake, I'm holding or wearing him. This is a very short time in our LO's lives. They won't want to be held forever. I'm getting my snuggle time in now, while I still can...

    Same here.

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  • KellinaKellina

    I have a toddler, so I really can't hold him all day! He also will sleep for 3 hours sometimes- if he falls asleep I'll hold him for a little bit then put him down. IMO it only helps in the long run for them to be comfortable sleeping on their own for at least some of the day!

    Obviously, if baby is upset I will hold him as long as he needs!

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  • Sweets2005Sweets2005 member

    I definitely agree with your DH. I think you should put LO down more but not so YOU can get me time, so your LO can get some me time! They need some independent time during the day or they will get overstimulated. It is also wonderful for their development! He will actually be more secure as an older baby/toddler if he learns to be by himself. If he is never alone, he will think something is wrong with that.

    ETA: Just wanted to add that I didn't mean put him down for every waking minute, but do make sure to give him at least 10-15 minutes of time to play by himself on a baby mat or sit in his bouncy chair, whatever. But definitely take advantage of these cuddle days while you can, just don't forget to give him some independence, too!

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  • kg_08kg_08 member
    No need to feel neglectful. DD actually likes having alone time sometimes, and let me tell you it's much easier now to have a pretty independent baby.
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  • krissypoo41krissypoo41
    You gotta balance. Put the baby in the bouncer sometimes so they don't get too used to being held all the time. At the same token, hold them when you want but not all the time. It's a struggle, just have to balance.
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