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wow.. that was uncalled for

I posted below about SS#s and twins well i thought i would be nice and post that on the baby names board as well. 

Well apparently people thought that was an open invite to make fun of my kids names.  or give me thier opinions which i didnt ask for! 

so much for trying to be helpful! And i LOVE my kids names even if people think they are too matchy which i really dont think they are!

I love this board its actually helpful and soooo not catty (sp?)

Re: wow.. that was uncalled for

  • Wow, I'm sorry. We're definitely one of the nicest bump boards. Eta: I love their names.
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  • I like your names.

    Honestly, not an issue I ever would have thought about.  So much for trying to help huh?

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  • People are rude. I definitely appreciate this board. I never worry about people being rude. Sorry you had to deal with that. 
  • Huh?  I read thru the whole thread and didn't see anyone making fun of your kids' names...
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  • Oh you meant on BN... got it now!  a little slow today!
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  • duhhh... im sorry!!! I meant on the BN board.  I had a brain fart! sorry if that was confusing
  • I agree, completely uncalled for. Some women truely are ridiculous, and like you said, catty b!tches.

    If it makes you feel any better, the BN board actually made me cry when I was pregnant, no joke. I asked for opinions on my kids names and they were BEYOND harsh. Some of them should learn to give opinions without being an a$$hole.

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  • The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

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    The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

     

    I agree that you shouldn't post if you don't want to hear negative comments. BUT, some people on there should learn how to give their opinion with more grace. I can take negative feedback (i have pretty thick skin i think) but in my situation, they were seriously beyond harsh. I actually read some of their comments to my BF and she was shocked at some of the crap they wrote.

    I like honesty, but some people should learn how to use their words better in my opinion.

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    The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

    very true, but she didnt ask opinions, just letting people know her sticky situation.

    When i first joined the bump i didnt even get why have that board... who needs approval over a name?

    But just as goldie said, its the internet...people go peacock behind their computer screens cause its the only thing they CAN control and dont have to face anyone. 

    fyi- that one lady who seemed to be very involved in the thread seemed like a bitter hag anyway...

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  • imageGoldie_Locks_5:

    The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

    I agree with you 100% but i wasnt asking about LOs names i was just offering advice on SS # problems.  there was no need to make fun of me for naming my kids similarly?  You ladies didnt do this to me when i posted about the SS # story below. 

    I could care less what those catty ladies thought about my kids names.  Just sucky that you try to be nice and offer advice and people feel the need to be rude.

  • Well I like their names, and this is the only board I regularly poost on or read because of the nonsense. As far as names I am a bit biased though as I am Michelle & and my father, brother, and granfather were all Michael's!!!!! I refused to name our kids after anyone in the families first name for that reason. There are three Francis' in my hubby's family too so way too confusing!!!!
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    imageGoldie_Locks_5:

    The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

    I agree with you 100% but i wasnt asking about LOs names i was just offering advice on SS # problems.  there was no need to make fun of me for naming my kids similarly?  You ladies didnt do this to me when i posted about the SS # story below. 

    I could care less what those catty ladies thought about my kids names.  Just sucky that you try to be nice and offer advice and people feel the need to be rude.

    that was more of a reply to the other reply in this thread... who said she asked for opinions and then got upset.

    I know some people hate "matchy" twin names... and some people hate when families all start with the same letter.  We have both, lol.  We did the all "G" thing b/c we loved the name Griffin, and DH and I are both G's - and felt that we had to keep it going so our other kids didn't wonder why we left them out, lol.

    Grayson and Gibson just happened to be our 2 favorite G names-  i didn't want them to be matchy- but it happened... though we call them Gray and Gibby mostly so it's not matchy on a day to day basis- like your twins.

  • imageGoldie_Locks_5:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    imageGoldie_Locks_5:

    The BN board is all about discussing BN's --- so honestly- if you put the names out there, on THAT board inparticular-  you are going to hear some things you don't like.

    And to ask for opinions about a name = asking to hear negative things... otherwise, why ask?

    this is the internet - if you can't handle it- you really shouldn't post... b/c you will often hear things that go against what you think.

    i'm all about being honest- if someone asks my opinion i'm going to give it - even if it's not what that person wants to hear.  I try to do it in a way that isn't mean- but often people think anything that is different than what they think is "mean".

    And this is why we did not tell ANYONE our baby names until they were born. It's rare people will make fun of a name when the child is out... but when you are still pregnant- everyone will comment on the names.... yet another example of why it's good to keep names a secret :)

    you ALWAYS need to like your name the most and not care what others think- b/c someone will always hate your names.

     

    I agree with you 100% but i wasnt asking about LOs names i was just offering advice on SS # problems.  there was no need to make fun of me for naming my kids similarly?  You ladies didnt do this to me when i posted about the SS # story below. 

    I could care less what those catty ladies thought about my kids names.  Just sucky that you try to be nice and offer advice and people feel the need to be rude.

    that was more of a reply to the other reply in this thread... who said she asked for opinions and then got upset.

    I know some people hate "matchy" twin names... and some people hate when families all start with the same letter.  We have both, lol.  We did the all "G" thing b/c we loved the name Griffin, and DH and I are both G's - and felt that we had to keep it going so our other kids didn't wonder why we left them out, lol.

    Grayson and Gibson just happened to be our 2 favorite G names-  i didn't want them to be matchy- but it happened... though we call them Gray and Gibby mostly so it's not matchy on a day to day basis- like your twins.

    aahh ok sounds good!! merry xmas!

  • Wow, you try to do something informative and they jump all over you.  Not cool.  Do they think you're going to change your kids' names now because random internet strangers disapprove?  I am picky about baby names and I think your kids' names are adorable. 

    I was very, very hesitant to tell any names until basically the very very end (and, really, I wasn't going to do it at all but I wanted to start getting things monogrammed) because people can be real jerks about baby names.  We didn't intend to be matchy-matchy with both babies having A names (and my first name also starts with an A), it was just the names we liked.   DH's first name starts with a J - he's the one who is left out in the family ;)

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  • I was just lurking over here, but I'm one of the most active posters on the BN board and I just wanted to say--we generally have a rule that we do not make negative comments about a name that has already been given. The other posters, for the most part, got carried away. But you should know, "LoriFalce" isn't a BN regular; I've never seen her post over there before. Apparently, she just doesn't want to play by our rules.
  • I hear you girl, the people on the BN board are A-holes!! I was just excited and wanted to share my boys' names and got a lot of negative feedback, they got all technical saying well by origin you're naming one of your boys the same first and middle name which is 'Sean Evan" and by origin, they said they both mean John, so im naming him John John..lol im like Please get a life, who the %$&#% knows the origin of their name?? i bet at least half or more of the people on this board does not know the origin of their own name, and if it was John John the name, Sean OR Evan wouldnt exist would it now? That was the LAST time I went there, I love my multiples board and I think all you guys on here are super supportive and cool! :)
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  • thus why I only hang out on this board and Parenting after 35 ... I have no time for sh!tty people..... i'm sorry they decided to be so rude, ignore them, they don't know any better.

     

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    I was just lurking over here, but I'm one of the most active posters on the BN board and I just wanted to say--we generally have a rule that we do not make negative comments about a name that has already been given. The other posters, for the most part, got carried away. But you should know, "LoriFalce" isn't a BN regular; I've never seen her post over there before. Apparently, she just doesn't want to play by our rules.

    aahhh, she made that board look BAD

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  • imagestrangebird:
    I was just lurking over here, but I'm one of the most active posters on the BN board and I just wanted to say--we generally have a rule that we do not make negative comments about a name that has already been given. The other posters, for the most part, got carried away. But you should know, "LoriFalce" isn't a BN regular; I've never seen her post over there before. Apparently, she just doesn't want to play by our rules.

    I've posted on BN since 2007.

    And as I said, if you can't take a critique, you have no business saddling a kid with that name.

    And seriously? Important information to know? Someone didn't realize that giving your twins almost identical names was going to cause problems with the Social Security Administration?

  • LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!
  • i'm usually down with snark, but i am going to agree that it was uncalled for.

    you should only critique names of babies that have yet to be born - that is helpful.  to critique names of babies that are a year old - that is mean and judgemental.

     

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    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

  • imageLoriFalce:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

    meh, like i said, bitter hag. Not worth your time Badge.

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    imageLoriFalce:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

    meh, like i said, bitter hag. Not worth your time Badge.

    Yes, clearly I'm bitter. I wish I had 35 kids that I could give the same name.

  • imageLoriFalce:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

    wow you are just a bundle of joy i tell ya! and 35 kids.  yeah way to over exagerate things hahahaha! We are all very blessed here that you dont have multiples!

  • imageLoriFalce:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

    I'm sorry, but you sound like a horrible person.  What happened in your life that makes you get so much joy out of being cruel?  Were you bullied growing up?  I can't understand why grown women would behave this way.


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  • imageLoriFalce:
    imageMADforever2009:
    imageLoriFalce:
    image#1_BadgeBunny:
    LoriFalce 
     
    first of all do you have twins or multiples?  if not than are you just here to cause drama? if so we dont want it here!
     
    secondly... no i never really thought i would have an issue with SS bc well ohh i dunno one is male the other is female.... they have 2 totally differnt middle names.  they were born at differnt times and well have different birth certificates which were given to SS admin. 
     
    lastly dont ever say "saddling a kid with that name" bc i didnt ask you for your opinion on my kids name.  My childrens names are beautiful ....so take your f-ing drama somewhere else!
     
    its people like you that make me not want to bother doing anything nice for ladies on here! well except for 99% of my MoMs!!!

    LOL.

     Do I have twins OR multiples? Yeah, I'm not going to address that because I don't swing at the slow pitches.

    I'm here because I was being chatted about. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have to check matching kids at the door to get in.

    meh, like i said, bitter hag. Not worth your time Badge.

    Yes, clearly I'm bitter. I wish I had 35 kids that I could give the same name.

    thankfully you don't, you're an ugly person, inside and out.  please stay away from our board, you are not welcome here.

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  • imagestrangebird:
    I was just lurking over here, but I'm one of the most active posters on the BN board and I just wanted to say--we generally have a rule that we do not make negative comments about a name that has already been given. The other posters, for the most part, got carried away. But you should know, "LoriFalce" isn't a BN regular; I've never seen her post over there before. Apparently, she just doesn't want to play by our rules.

    Yeah, I'm semi-regular on the BN board and overall I like the board. They can be pretty frank but I think that can be helpful (e.g. they say what other people will likely think but not want to say to your face)--WHEN people post asking for opinions. Like strangebird said, there's a general consensus not to critique the names of kids already born and named.

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  • WOW Lorifalce.......your just a b!tch...thats all i got to say. My kids names are Sebastion and Samarah....hows that for macthy....HA......what a b!tch!!!
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  • imageBrookeRamirez:
    WOW Lorifalce.......your just a b!tch...thats all i got to say. My kids names are Sebastion and Samarah....hows that for macthy....HA......what a b!tch!!!

    I don't really care about how anyone matches up their kids' names. And your kids have an S in common. Not really that big a deal. Now, if you had named them Sebastion and Sebastian and expressed shock that a government agency would get confused about whether this was one kid or two, I would have reservations about the wattage of your bulb.  

  • imageLoriFalce:

    imageBrookeRamirez:
    WOW Lorifalce.......your just a b!tch...thats all i got to say. My kids names are Sebastion and Samarah....hows that for macthy....HA......what a b!tch!!!

    I don't really care about how anyone matches up their kids' names. And your kids have an S in common. Not really that big a deal. Now, if you had named them Sebastion and Sebastian and expressed shock that a government agency would get confused about whether this was one kid or two, I would have reservations about the wattage of your bulb.  

     

    So, The OP started a thread saying how she was upset that you mocked two helpless babies and called her an idiot... So then you came into the thread to be a b!tch. 35 kids? You think anyone here wanted twins? Sure, they're all very blessed to have their children in their lives, but it's not like they sent in a mail-order.  Twins and higher-order multiples happen, why try to make people feel weird or ashamed for having "35 kids" when it was a natural occurance?

     

    The world can be a cruel place and her children (like all children) will be teased, but why add to that? Why mock one-year olds? What are you getting from behaving this way?

  • Ugh...sorry you had to deal with that, I love your names you picked!
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    imageLoriFalce:

    imageBrookeRamirez:
    WOW Lorifalce.......your just a b!tch...thats all i got to say. My kids names are Sebastion and Samarah....hows that for macthy....HA......what a b!tch!!!

    I don't really care about how anyone matches up their kids' names. And your kids have an S in common. Not really that big a deal. Now, if you had named them Sebastion and Sebastian and expressed shock that a government agency would get confused about whether this was one kid or two, I would have reservations about the wattage of your bulb.  

     

    So, The OP started a thread saying how she was upset that you mocked two helpless babies and called her an idiot... So then you came into the thread to be a b!tch. 35 kids? You think anyone here wanted twins? Sure, they're all very blessed to have their children in their lives, but it's not like they sent in a mail-order.  Twins and higher-order multiples happen, why try to make people feel weird or ashamed for having "35 kids" when it was a natural occurance?

     

    The world can be a cruel place and her children (like all children) will be teased, but why add to that? Why mock one-year olds? What are you getting from behaving this way?

    I never called her an idiot. I may have implied it, but frankly, she opened that door.

    I never mocked a child. I mocked the actions of the mother. And frankly, if one is concerned about kids being mocked, maybe giving them two different names would have helped head that off at the pass.

    I wasn't mocking twins, people who have twins, or even people who want twins. I'm mocking people who have multiple children, whether all at once or over time, and give them the same freaking name. Because that's dim.

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