Overwhelmed and need encouragement

MrsLnt · December 2010

My twins are 6 weeks old. I thought we had a decent routine down. They eat 7x/day, play a little after, and go down for naps/bed pretty easily. Or at least, they did. Today, however, was like a game of whack-a-mole. I got one down, and the other was up. I am just completely overwhelmed, overwrought, and exhausted, not just from one rough day, but from the day-to-day work of taking care of two babies. By the end of the day, I'm sore from all the lifting and carrying and moving of people.

Please tell me it gets easier. And please tell me it gets easier soon.

E&RMommy · December 2010

Hang in there momma!! It does get easier I promise. Perhaps you are in throws of yet another growth spurt. We had them at 2 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months. I wish I could tell you exactly when it got easier....but I am already blocking out some of those really tough early weeks when I was taking care of them by myself.

lgurian · December 2010

it gets easier! and more fun! they start sleeping a little longer at night and that made all the difference in the world for me. i could deal with day time stuff better because i was getting more sleep at night. and that first smile, and that first giggle, it will make all of this melt away. hang in there momma!!

kaitley44 · December 2010

It will get easier. I remember that it got way better around three months old. Before that, I had to ask for help many times.

busybea · December 2010

Hang in there, it will get easier...promise! I can tell you that I am finally, only now, seeing that light at the end of the tunnel. Mine are starting to smile and coo and giggle away and all those sleepless nights have already been forgotten.

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TheNewFry · December 2010

It will get easier!! I don't recall when, but all of a sudden they were sleeping more at night so I was able to get longer stretches of sleep too- which really makes a difference. Hang in there!

OrangeSmoke · December 2010

It does get easier, although to be honest, we still have the "whack-a-mole" days.

I think the 3-4 months mark was blissful for me. They were in a routine during the day and started to sttn. Now they are awake far more during day and want to be entertained!

Temp159135562506975 · December 2010

6w is when Gray's reflux started and I spent most of the day in tears b/c it was so impossible to feed him and care for Gibby, too.... it was when I first said "holy sh!t- this is HARD"... but once we got that under control with meds it was back to "normal" again, being easier, more normal, etc.

6w is often a growth spurt time... so eating/sleeping changes a lot.

it will get MUCH better!!

Mollymay39 · December 2010

I could have written this post. In fact, I wrote a very similar post when my babies were about 7 weeks old. It was SO hard. Things have gotten soooo much better. They are sleeping great, the reflux is managed and overall....they are content and happy. I think back to November and shudder. It was a really, really hard month. I spent a lot of that month in tears and feeling VERY anxious and overwhelmed. Many MoMs on this board promised me it would get easier, and they were right. Today I brought the babies downstairs and just had so much fun with them. They were SO happy, smiling and it was a great morning. I am starting really enjoy them. I have to be honest and say that at the beginning, I had a hard time enjoying them. It was just really hard, especially having a toddler AND a baby with reflux. But we made it! They are 3 months old and it really has been a turning point.

#1_BadgeBunny · December 2010

Goldie_Locks_5:

6w is when Gray's reflux started and I spent most of the day in tears b/c it was so impossible to feed him and care for Gibby, too.... it was when I first said "holy sh!t- this is HARD"... but once we got that under control with meds it was back to "normal" again, being easier, more normal, etc.

6w is often a growth spurt time... so eating/sleeping changes a lot.

it will get MUCH better!!

This is almost exactly what happened to me. except around 4 weeks DS reflux started up and it was a nightmare with him. There were MANY days/nights i would call DH hysterical begging him to come home (he never did!) i just had to learn how to take a breather. But i will agree w pp sounds like a growth spurt they have a lot of them early on. I will say between 4-6 mo things got WAYYYY easier! Hang in there and before you know it they will be a year and you will say where did the time go. But i will admit the 1st 6mo was a blurr!

Rangergal9 · December 2010

My babies are a similar age and we really struggled two weeks ago. They didn't want to go to sleep and we were spending hours trying to get them to sleep at night and they were only sleeping 3 hour stretches. We ended up getting them a miracle blanket and playing white noise and now they sleep much better. I think there is a fussy period from 6-8 weeks. Some days are better than others and just think that it'll get better. I am by myself all day and it sucks some days. The best days I have are the ones where I go out to the mall or meet up with some other MoMs. The girls sleep in their car seats the whole time and seem to sleep better at nights then. Have you tried getting out??

MrsLnt · December 2010

Thanks y'all. I really appreciate it from other MoMs who have BTDT. I don't have any friends or family with multiples and I only went to one MoMs club meeting before having the babies, so I don't know any of the girls there well enough to reach out to anyone.

We had a decent night of sleep from DD (who was the pill all day long) and DH handled most of DS's wakeups so I'm feeling semi-human today. When he's home, he's on full time diaper duty and helps with the 2:30a feeding (he'll change them while I do the tandem boppy feeding) and he gets the 6a feeding all by himself. Really, I'm only on my own from 8a-6p, but those 10 hours are brutal and, as the week wears on, I find myself getting more and more worn out.

We've been doing Happiest Baby on the Block and using a white noise track on my ipod (which is attached to a portable speaker) instead of the "shhh" when a baby is crying. If a baby had reflux, I'm thinking that the white noise wouldn't calm them the way it does for DD, right? She'll scream and kick her feet like it's gas, but as long as the white noise is on, she's completely chilled out. 2-3 weeks ago, she was my happy baby and DS was the screamer. Now they've totally changed personalities. Any thoughts? Just the 6 week growth spurt (which I think we are in because they will demand more food sometimes after eating a full bottle - DS was taking 5oz and wanting more and DD was taking 3.5 oz and demanding more)? Maybe this is just the 6-8 week fussy period? Or maybe they are just plotting to slowly kill me...?

sara1014 · December 2010

It will get easier! For me, once those first real smiles started it instantly got easier because I felt like they CARED that I was there, you know?

So hang in there...it gets easier AND (in my opinion) more fun.

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