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How much does your DH do for Christmas?
As I wrapped the last present today, I realized since we got married Christmas has become super easy for DH. I plan everything, buy everything, and wrap everything. Since our birthdays are close to Christmas we often don't exchange presents for each other (like this year) so he literally has to do nothing.
Ugh, I've turned into my mother.
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Re: How much does your DH do for Christmas?
Other than taking our girl shopping (usually two days before Christmas) so she can give me a gift...absolutely nothing. And I'm trying not to be bitter about it.
Not.a.damn.thing.
And we do xmas with HIS family where I'm supposed to organize x,y,z activities and bring a,b & c dishes for a Christmas eve dinner and breakfast morning of. Oh well, he'll be on dish duty after all the meals and thankfully he never complains about that.
He earns all the money we spend, comes shopping with me to pick out our parents', siblings', and Godkids' gifts, and wraps all the gifts. He also lugs all the decor out of the garage, and helps me clean and decorate.
I do all the baking and cooking, fill out and send all the Christmas cards, and keep track of our spending.
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I could have written this word for word.
I do a lot more than him, but I am also home durring the day. I think he does about 30% of the holiday work. We are so much better about splitting duties for Thanksgiving, than Christmas.
He does all the shopping for me and my stocking, but he does get a list of things I might like. Then he has to get at least ONE gift (that he thinks of) for our son. He does around 40% of the wrapping of gifts. He also has to get, mail, wrap all the gifts for people in his family. Find his own secret Santa gift for X-mas eve and address the holiday cards for his side of our family and friends. But I do all the planning, cooking, and food prep. All holiday events are things I plan. I even have to call his family and find our what I am responsible for cooking for those events.
I am so sorry to hear that. I hope 2011 is a better year for you and the kids.
I am sorry to hear about this. I hope 2011 is a better year for you and the kiddos.
I do most of the shopping for both families but I buy throughout the year. He shops and wraps the gifts he has for me (as he is doing right now) and he will buy the rest for his family and also wrap them. We equally make dishes and cookies. I really do not mind doing it.
Very very little!
I buy and wrap all the presents, I think of what to buy and he sometimes puts some input into the gifts but generally he just says "uh huh" .
Last night he "helped" me by doin the gift tags.
Anything I ask him to, but I don't ask him to do much because I typically enjoy doing it all. But I am crazy.
I shop for gifts, though he frequently goes with me. I do christmas cards (or this year New Years cards). I wrap (but I love wrapping, it is kind of a weird obsession I have).
He shops for me and cleans the house, especially after I bake pies.
Actually...he does most of the leg work for the pies, he pulls out all the stuff I need (dishes, peelers, slicers, etc) and then cleans them after I use them. It rocks.
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NOTHING!!!!
I do all the gift buying for both sides of the family, wrap, clean the house since we host Christmas at our house. I buy the groceries, bake, cook or prepare whatever I'm serving. And I clean up.
Oh, and I put up the christmas lights and all the decoration (including dragging the trees in from the garage).
I don't usually get mad, since he works crazy hours and tons of OT. But today, that he had the day off, and has made a bigger mess then anything.. I'm pretty friggin pissed.
I am so glad I am not the only wife who does this to her husband.
This year.. nearly everything.
This year he went and got a tree, got out all the decorations and decorated the tree and mantel (using the extra clippings from the tree) and bought a wreath for the front door. He has helped with all the shopping and we just wrapped all the gifts together.
But we aren't bringing anything foodwise to any of our celebrations and I didn't send out cards or make cookies for anyone this year, so it was a light year. I normally do all the stuff.
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He helps with the tree and decorations. I did about 98% of my shopping online so he didn't help with that and since we only buy for kids and my mom he doesn't get too involved unless we go shopping together.
I've done all of the wrapping this year but in previous years he's helped. He's pretty good at helping if I ask or he'll hear about it all year long and he doesn't want that, so he helps.
Absolutely nothing of his own initiative. He helps when I ask for help (ie, please get these boxes out of the garage), but I do all shopping, wrapping, decorating, cooking, planning, etc. We don't exchange gifts, so although he will have cute and thoughtful things in his stocking, I will have nothing. I would give my left arm (okay, maybe not really my left arm, but you know what I mean) to get a gift from DD (a card, a craft, a photo-whatever), but there's no way he's making that happen.
It bums me out, but I have accepted it just isn't in his nature.
DH doesn't have to do much.
While I do bounce ideas of him and ask his opinion, the only person he has to buy for is me. I do everyone else. He does help set up the tree and do the lights/decorating, but I do most of it while he provides the bigger labor (bringing in the boxes, etc).
Guess I'm lucky in that the hubs gets just as excited as I do about this time of year. He actually does quite a bit on his own and then will ask me if there is anything on my list that I'd like to hand off to him.
I'm pretty blessed. (Then again we are still technically newlyweds-- 2 yrs married). He tries to groan and mumble but he loves Christmas just as much as me. He helps with decorations, gift buying and wrapping. We don't exchange gifts. (Never have- is that wierd??) We have a HUGE Mexican family so we have enough gifts to worry about. Sometimes I wish he was better at planning because he will choose to tell me in Christmas Day that he wants to drive from Sac to the Bay. But really I can't complain too much- I fell in Love with his Spontaneous ways.
Sorry if I grossed anyone out with my lovie-dovie-ness. I'm enjoyin this feeling while I can
Merry Christmas Bumpies!!! I hope everything is WARM and BRIGHT for you and yours!
Merry Christmas everyone! I hope the day will be more enjoyable than the preparing for it has been for most of you.
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Christmas sure was more fun back when I was a kid and all I had to do was maybe buy/make and wrap a few things.
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i did everything this christmas - i shopped, baked, cooked, decorated (a little, no tree this year), and got photos arranged. oh and made 2 trips b/t sacto and the east bay so we could spend christmas with my family (sacto) and his family (east bay).
to his credit, he pulled something in his back 2 weeks ago and moving has been EXTREMELY difficult so i can understand why he hasn't been as helpful as usual (he'll get me my gifts and wrap them and pick out something for his brother, my mom/stepdad and he'll get the tree) and we decided to give ourselves presents AFTER the holiday - the focus was on dd NOT us.