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March 2011 Moms
(Vent) Gender comments
We are having another girl, and I get so tired of the comments ASSuming (haha) that we wanted another boy. Here are some examples of what I've heard already:
Them: "what are you having?"
Me: "another girl!! Yay!"
Them: "Oh, that's ok, you can always try again for a boy." (We aren't *trying* again for a boy...we aren't and weren't trying for a specific gender, we were trying for a baby! We are done after DD#2. It irritates me that some people assume we got pg again just to have a boy. Couldn't possibly be because we just wanted another baby and a sibling for DD, could it?)
or
Them: "another girl? Is (H's name) okay/happy/fine with that?" (um, of course, why wouldn't he be?!?!? We have a new, healthy baby to meet in March! My H is beyond thrilled, he told me he would love to have four girls if he could haha)
or
Them: "maybe it will be a boy next time." (I want to say "or another girl or twins or who cares!! It doesn't matter, we aren't having another one!!!")
or
Them: "two girls?? Good luck to you." (Like I haven't heard the "the teenage years will be hell with two girls" line before)
The whole men need/want boys and women need/want girls assumption drives me nuts too. Yeah, some people do feel strongly about what gender they'd prefer to have, but not everyone! We didn't care at all either way, and we are sooo excited to be having another girl!
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Anyone else hear rude comments from family, friends or co-workers about the baby's gender?
Them: "what are you having?"
Me: "another girl!! Yay!"
Them: "Oh, that's ok, you can always try again for a boy." (We aren't *trying* again for a boy...we aren't and weren't trying for a specific gender, we were trying for a baby! We are done after DD#2. It irritates me that some people assume we got pg again just to have a boy. Couldn't possibly be because we just wanted another baby and a sibling for DD, could it?)
or
Them: "another girl? Is (H's name) okay/happy/fine with that?" (um, of course, why wouldn't he be?!?!? We have a new, healthy baby to meet in March! My H is beyond thrilled, he told me he would love to have four girls if he could haha)
or
Them: "maybe it will be a boy next time." (I want to say "or another girl or twins or who cares!! It doesn't matter, we aren't having another one!!!")
or
Them: "two girls?? Good luck to you." (Like I haven't heard the "the teenage years will be hell with two girls" line before)
The whole men need/want boys and women need/want girls assumption drives me nuts too. Yeah, some people do feel strongly about what gender they'd prefer to have, but not everyone! We didn't care at all either way, and we are sooo excited to be having another girl!
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Anyone else hear rude comments from family, friends or co-workers about the baby's gender?
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Re: (Vent) Gender comments
i'm team green. so of course lots of people think not finding out the baby's gender is the craziest thing they've ever heard of. so a lot of times it goes like this:
them: oh what are you having?
me: i don't know. i didn't want to find out
them: WHAT?! how are you going to pick names or buy clothes or have a baby shower or....
OR
them: what are you having?
me: i don't know. i didn't want to find out
them: oh. its a boy/girl!
you don't know! and if you had the psychic ability to know and i just said i didn't want to know then why would you ruin it? sometimes people just randomly walk past me and yell "its a boy". um. maybe?
I am laughing at the "omg what will you know what to buy or how to pick names?" people. Like ultrasounds have been around forever and everyone from the beginning of time has always known what they are going to have, otherwise how could you *possibly* prepare for a baby!? Haha!
And that is strange that people just walk by and yell out a gender. It's like they will win a prize if they guess correctly, even though you'll probably never see them again. Even after I've told people that I'm having a girl, some will say "nope, you are having a boy. Just look at how high you're carrying!" or "the ultrasound was wrong, I still say it's a boy". Ohhh-kayyy, keep saying it
I totally agree about people projecting their own feelings onto you. Several of the people who have made comments to me, have kids of the same gender, so I think they are expressing how they felt by thinking I would feel the same way.
People are just dumb and seriously need filters on their mouths.
My parents had 2 girls (myself and my sister)....and our teen years were fine! Like having teen boys are any better than girls...they will eat you out of your house!
LOL
Married 8 years - Aug 23/08
DD - 6 years old, March 17/11
#2 due July 19th! (It's a boy!)
LMAO. i love how for sure they are when they say it. i was in walgreens the other day and this older man walked past me and comes back and goes "that's a boy you know". no sir, i don't know. then he goes "yeah look how low you are. that's a boy. also if you REALLY want to know, go home and put your ring on a string and if it goes back and forth that's a girl, but left and right, well then that's a boy!". thank you sir, youre in the way of my iron pills.
i mean he was sweet and i know people just like to talk to pregnant women but really?! if i wanted to know i would just ask the ultrasound tech.
Exactly! It's like, ok everyone, there's a baby coming into the family, and everyone wants that new little life to be healthy and happy, so focus people! Haha
Lol! I definitely was a much easier teen than H was, that's for sure! I never got into any trouble, but oh boy, the stories he has told me... And those go back to as early as when he was ten years old! Haha
Bre-yeah, if you have a boy, of course the very first thing you'll think of, after going through hours of labor and delivery and seeing your baby for the first time, is that trip to walgreens and that stranger's prediction. Haha!!
we are on our 4th girl! i'm sure you can imagine the comments we get! but i just smile and say, "when we do something right, we stick with it" or "yeah, hubby's girl swimmers are just faster than the boy ones!".
but the very worst thing i think i've ever heard is when my DH's sister had a girl after a boy and my MIL was higher than the moon, she said "oh i'm so glad my baby had a boy and a girl just like i did, now she has the perfect family. a boy and a girl!!!!" i was like, hmmmmm so does that mean we don't have "the perfect family"? according to you? biotch!!!! (she's an idiot anyway, no social awareness whatsoever!)
Before we found out, we got several rude comments...
"It better be a girl, we need some balance in the family." (BF's sister about there being 4 boys and 2 girls in the grandkids already on that side)
"You're having a boy. Your grandmother always wanted a boy."
"It's a girl, it's all we ever have." (because we haven't had a boy in my side since my great uncle)
Now that we know we've gotten:
"Dam* straight, she knew better than to be a boy."
"We'll see, they could be wrong."
"Did you really expect anything else?"
"Well that's good. I didn't like your choice for a boy's name anyway."
Coming over from april:
The same thing is happening to me. This baby will actually be my third girl. I actually preferred a girl, since we have all the middle daughters baby clothes, and it's what I'm used to. That being said, if the baby was a boy, that would have been fine too. More shopping, but who doesn't love that.
SOOO many people assumed we were trying for a boy. This was not the case. All we want is a healthy baby. It's gettins kind of irritating with ppl assuming and giving me their apologies for "failing" to give them what they felt like we should have. And this baby is the LAST one. Three girls it is
EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves