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Parenting after a Loss
vlewis515
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DH didn't get me anything for Christmas...
vlewis515
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Now to be fair, I thought we were going to be tight so at first we said no presents this year. Well the last few weeks we've worked a buttload of overtime and after going over our budget again I decided we would be fine finanically and told DH as much.
Then whenever I mentioned going Christmas shopping and how much I planned on spending (the rule of thumb has always been however much I spend on him is how much he's allowed to spend on me, hence letting him know what I was spending), he'd get all pissy and say that we aren't getting each other presents. To which I would say (again), "We're fine on money so I'm getting you something."
So yesterday I went shopping for him and Jax and got it all done (and even wrapped in my car to keep him from seeing his presents). So yesterday I walk in with everything and since this was our last day off all together before Christmas I put together Jax's jumperoo and let him try it out (too cute!).
So DH asks when he gets to open his presents (again because yesterday was out last day off before Christmas), so I told him if we wanted to that he could. I was kind of hoping we could have done this the morning of Christmas Eve but I understood we'd be rushing for me to go to work and get Jax to my parents house and for him to go to sleep after getting off work that morning. I was a little annoyed that I had taken the time to wrap everything in the car just for him to open them when I got home.
So here I am going, "Ok lets open gifts tonight." and I get all the presents that my IL's sent for Jax and the 2 they sent for us. And then I put DH's in front of him, and say (like an idiot) "Aren't you going to get my present for me to open?" DH gets a blank look on his face and says, "I didn't get you anything."
For reals? "No, you said we weren't getting each other anything." he says. What about the numerous discussions we had about how I'm getting you presents and how much I'm spending? "I don't remember that." One of these discussions was yesterday. "Well I didn't know what to get you." What about the emails of things that I sent you to give you hints. "Well...I was planning on getting those for you on Friday." Seriously, you would rather go shopping on Christmas Eve...than today? "Well I'm not a good gift giver anyway." You're right, you're not, because you'd rather say that little cop out line than actually try to put any thought into anything.
Really I'll deal with him not putting any thoughts into gift giving (he never does, I have to send him "hints" for any occasion), but not getting me anything was ridiculous.
I know I sound like the biggest biatch ever for this post, but it gets old and DH likes to hide behind these little lines like, "I'd have gotten you something but I'm a crappy gift giver and you would have hated it anyway. Boo hoo woe is me." He likes to make himself the martyr, like I would ever say, "OMG this totally sucks why did you buy me this?!" The only time I have ever returned any of his gifts is when they haven't fit and I had to exchange them for another size...not his fault and totally fixable...obviously I wanted it and liked it if I got the same thing in the right size!
::VENT OVER::
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Re: DH didn't get me anything for Christmas...
Aww I am so sorry he didn't get you anything...that is really crappy. Especially since you told him that you guys could exchange gifts...and not subtly!
I hope you enjoy your Christmas anyways
So you got Jax a jumperoo, too cool! is he good at sitting in it? I am wondering when is a good time to get one for Adi
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I got him this one
https://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4360511
At first he didn't really know what do you and just kinda sat there and his feet didn't reach the floor but I bounced him in it for a while then just let him explore. Then he started looking at the toys...he was reaching for the rings but couldn't quite reach. So I turned him a little and he could get to them, so then he'd grab them and spin them. The cutest thing was he got all excited and stretched his legs out and then he could touch the ground so he figured out the bouncy part. Oh it was sooo cute I need to get a video of it!!
Ugh double lame! I don't see how hard it is, especially when I take the thought out of it. A friend just told me that I should not get him anything for Valentine's Day and not mention doing anything and see if he notices at all. I doubt he would...well he might but he probably wouldn't say anything to see if he can get of the hook for that holiday too.
No doubt! Love the name Willow and she is so cute!
what's up with men?
I bought my own stocking stuffers and some sweaters, and pointed out a cute Willow Tree that I wanted - and then turned around so he could buy it. now I'm going to wrap it...
I wrapped "Cole's" presents to everyone, including the mug I had made for him - and then he asks - "what did Cole get you?"
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Psshhh, I know, right? Men are such idiots....
:P
Thanks, he's at work with me now...think I'll go kick him in the shins for good measure, he's feeling pretty crappy about it now.