Do you have 3 kids?

Re: Do you have 3 kids?

• rsd12 member

  December 2010

  First of all, you are not crazy!

  1. How is it going out by yourself with 3? I have a hard time going out with just 2. I don't find it difficult at all.  Actually I sometimes prefer to be out since it gives my kids a break from being all over each other ; )  At the ages of my kids right now I prefer small playgrounds & the library but even see the grocery store as an outing!

  
  2. Do you have a mini van? How is it having one in the way back? (We already have a van.) I have a crossover with a third row.  I put the big boys in the third row & they love it & the baby in the 2nd row.

  
  3. Is it hard to share your time with all 3 kids? Of course it is!  At times it can be very difficult, like when my oldest had surgery & he really needed us. 

  
  4. Do your kids share a room? How does that work out for you? My two oldest boys share a room & love love love it!  I still want to put all three in the same room ; )

  
  5. This is a hard one but, do you ever regret having a 3rd? Would you have regretted NOT having a 3rd? If anything the baby completes our family.  He has such an awesome personality.  I may have regretted not having the third!

  
  6. Do you see a nice age gap for a 3rd (our plan would be the have a 3rd when #2 is 2 1/2 and #1 would be 4)? Our boys are 3 1/2 yrs from oldest to youngest. 

  
  7. Are things a ton more expensive with 3? Heck yes!  Especially if you have hungry hungry hippos like I do.. but even going out for dinner or the ball game, thinking about college, even just preschool has added an extra 2 years & sports.  We have been lucky with clothing since we have three boys.

  
  8. Is there anything DH and I should really think about before TTC? Obviously a personal decision.

  
  9. How did you and DH decide to have a third? I just knew I was not done. I cannot say for certain that I am done now.. but I feel different... I would love another one.. but not that I would regret not having a 4th feeling. I just did not feel complete. My husband would have been fine with 2, but is very happy with 3 but it has put him over the edge (thinking about college costs).
  

  10. Any advice? Follow your heart.  No matter what you will figure it out & of course that decision will be the best for your family. All I know is that I could not imagine our family any different & I am amazed at how much love I have for everyone & how much love the boys have for each other.

  Boy 1 2/06 - Boy 2 12/07 - Boy 3 9/09

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• Temp159135562506975 member

  December 2010

  I have 3... but go the 2-for-1 deal the 2nd time around

   . How is it going out by yourself with 3? it's all about logistics.... i have no problem going out with all 3 - i do it almost every day. NOw that the twins are mobile there are limited places i can take them and have them walking - b/c they don't listen and go in different directions - but we go TONS of places in the stroller, shopping carts, etc.  DS1 is almost 4 and he's great at staying by me, or standing on the hitch hiker board - so we do tons of stuff... shopping, zoo, children's museums, etc.

  2. Do you have a mini van? yes- we have a minivan. Griffin is in the back seat and there's no issue - he's big enough to climb in and get into the seat on his own - we just lean over and buckle him in.  The twins are in the middle row.

  3. Is it hard to share your time with all 3 kids?  This is the hardest part- but it's not THAT hard - it just happens. Thankfully DH is super involved and home almost every night- so we make sure they all get tons of attention.

  
  4. Do your kids share a room? How does that work out for you? The twins share a room- it's not an issue at all - they are used to the noise each other makes - they will sleep thorugh the other crying, etc.

  
  5. This is a hard one but, do you ever regret having a 3rd? Would you have regretted NOT having a 3rd? I can't imagine anyone ever saying they regretted having a 3rd child.  I only wanted 2 pregnancies - b/c my first was really tough - so we lucked out getting pg with twins b/c we both wanted 3 kids. We love having 3. DH comes from a family with 6 kids and I come from 4 kids - so 3 was a good amount for us without going crazy like our parents did, lol.

  
  6. Do you see a nice age gap for a 3rd (our plan would be the have a 3rd when #2 is 2 1/2 and #1 would be 4)? griffin was 2y2mo when the twins were born- to me that was perfect.

  
  7. Are things a ton more expensive with 3? of course... we go through food like crazy - i just keep reminding myself that this is nothing- when they are teenagers i'm in trouble!

  
  8. Is there anything DH and I should really think about before TTC? ? finances? daycare is EXPENSIVE with 3.  I went part time after the twins were born.

  
  9. How did you and DH decide to have a third?  we were told "you are having twins" lol

  
  10. Any advice?  If your husband doesn't want another child - i think that is your answer.  I never believe in having a child when one in the marriage does NOT want another... I think it needs to be mutual. If he doesn't want one- i'd give him time and bring it up again in 6mo or a year.... i would not push the issue. you can't make someone WANT another child- it's hard work, money, stress.

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• busybea

  December 2010

  1. How is it going out by yourself with 3? I have a hard time going out with just 2. -You get used to it, it's just a matter of finding balance and the correct shopping cart - hahaha
   

  2. Do you have a mini van? How is it having one in the way back? (We already have a van.) - I don't but plan on buying one real soon.
   

  3. Is it hard to share your time with all 3 kids? - It truly is and i'm guessing it's only going to get harder for me (and them) as the twins grow older.  I really try to spend as much time as possible with the older one. 
   

  4. Do your kids share a room? How does that work out for you? - the twins do, the older one, has his own.  the twins are so used to each other that when one cries, the other one ignores him and either plays or goes back to sleep...thankfully.
   

  5. This is a hard one but, do you ever regret having a 3rd? Would you have regretted NOT having a 3rd? - I didn't have a choice, I bought one and got the second free.  )
   

  6. Do you see a nice age gap for a 3rd (our plan would be the have a 3rd when #2 is 2 1/2 and #1 would be 4)? - my twin pregnancy was a complete surprise and there is only a 14 month difference between them.  If I had had my choice I would have gotten pregnant MUCH later.
   

  7. Are things a ton more expensive with 3? - yes and no, with food, yes definitely, and it scares me to death to think of what they're going to eat when they become teenagers... but with toys and clothes, thankfully no as we have all 3 boys.  Daycare and schooling will always be expensive, but most schools offer discounts for 1+
   

  8. Is there anything DH and I should really think about before TTC? - make sure you're both on the same page and are both in agreement to have this child, money will always come and go...

  9. How did you and DH decide to have a third? - we didn't -LOL , the tech said, "Oh look, I think I see a second HB!" 
  

  10. Any advice? - like I mentioned above, just make sure you two are in agreement
  

  Nicholas Jacob born on 06/30/2009, 9.5lbs and 21 1/4" long Joshua Scott 5.3lbs & Jonathan Matthew 6.2lbs, born 08/31/10

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